... when you realize that the only time your long-distance boyfriend wants to let you know that he loves you and can't wait to come to you is when you mention another guy? I mean, he DOES try but he doesn't try them as enthusiastically as he does when he feels our relationship is threatened? Not lately, anyway. Which is why i'm beginning to think that losing me for another guy scares him more than losing the actual person -me- (coz of his self esteem problems)! And that isn't very complimentary, not on my book! So.. what do you think?
2006-10-16 02:50:40 · 9 answers · asked by Biqo 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I have tried telling him that's how i feel. He says it's his fault, he knows he's not doing well by me, he'd change, give me another week etc. It hasn't been that long but he's repeating the same mistakes. I mean, I know he'll do anything not to lose me but the doubt that he wouldnt' have done them unless threatened still lingers. And I'm not mentioning guys to scare him, but any mention of them makes him very insecure (YES HE'S GOT A GIGANTIC SELF-STEEM PROBLEM). But i'm human too, i need him to be "there" for me, and not only when he fears he'd lose me. It's funny how he takes me for granted (and almost neglects me) when i don't mention guys and how he freaks out when i do! He's like continously thinking i'm looking for ways to dump him for another guy. And when i assure him i'm here, he's busy playing computer games rather than come online and chat with me.
I'm really confused here :(. Help!!
2006-10-16 03:04:32 · update #1
P.S. I'm crazy about him :)
2006-10-16 03:06:48 · update #2
Talk to him and tell him how this makes you feel. Tell him that you do not want to critizise him but things are not going according to how they should go. Speak to him honestly and openly and encourage him to do the same. I would also suggest that you guys re-evaluate your relationship. Are you guys still working to the same goal? The key to make any relationship a success is to have communication. If you have doubts speak about and ask the others opinions on it. Look at possible solutions together. Tell him that you are there for him and you expect him to be there for you as well. So pick up that phone and call him!
2006-10-16 02:56:56 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to quit playing games with him. If you like him and want to be in a long distance relationship, fine but don't purposeley mantion other guys to him to see if it will get a reaction cause thats just wrong especially if he has insecurity problems to begin with.
2006-10-16 09:55:07 · answer #2 · answered by flutterby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i know you can make a long distance relationship work as long as you love each other I'm in one right now and its the best guy i have every been with my hole life i guess its all on how much you love each other and maybe he juts really don't want to lose you and loves you alot you just have to talk to him you need trust and understanding to have anything
2006-10-16 10:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by bonnie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think you should approach him and ask him bluntly what the heck is going on. If your suspicions prove to be true then tell him to hit the road.
2006-10-16 09:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are correct , men hate to lose , it would seem he only cares for the chase
2006-10-16 09:55:02 · answer #5 · answered by seilygirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with flutterby...
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his self-esteem problems!!
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so, why are you mentioning another GUY to him?
(i didn't see an 's' on guys, did you?)
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2006-10-16 10:02:26 · answer #6 · answered by DM 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it never works in long distance
2006-10-16 09:53:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol he dont want any1 else to have u, lol if he aint treating u right let him go!
2006-10-16 09:53:14 · answer #8 · answered by Fader's Girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
VERY TOUGH QUESTION
2006-10-16 09:55:55 · answer #9 · answered by shakthi v 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋