can i trust someone whos addicted to alcohol about his feelings towards me?
and why does he suddenly laugh in the middle of a conversation?
2006-10-16 02:39:53 · 14 answers · asked by freshcalmbreeze 1 in Health ➔ Diseases & Conditions ➔ Other - Diseases
He laughs because he is nervous.
No, I would not get involved with an active alcoholic. Maybe if he quit and had at least a year in recovery...but never when they are still drinking. No, you can't trust them until they get sober.
Really--he doesn't love himself so he's incapable of loving anyone else.
2006-10-16 02:43:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Assuming he's still drinking:
Can an alcoholic have feelings for someone else? Yes, they can. They are people with drives and feelings and all that goes along with that.
Can you trust him about his feelings? Not really. Alcohol clouds one's judgement (which is why people do things when they are drunk that they would never do when sober).
Why does he suddenly laugh in the middle of a conversation? Could be a couple of reasons. He could be nervous, he could have some underlying psychological problem either related to, or not related to, his alcoholism.
Honestly, if you are not already involved with this guy, I would politely tell him that while you are flattered, you cannot get involved with him. He may try to dry out for you, but until he does it for himself, it won't work.
You might want to do a google search and learn about some of the common behavior patterns of alcoholics.
I wish you lots of luck.
2006-10-16 09:51:11 · answer #2 · answered by EvilBunny 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not unless they are a recovering alcoholic. I'm sure he may have some feelings for you, his ability to act on them appropriately is most likely seriously hindered by his addiction. The problem is that until he has feelings for himself and cares enough about what is happening in his own life to stop the addiction, he cannot truly show love to anyone else. Sorry, but you really ought to steer clear of this one.
2006-10-16 10:11:51 · answer #3 · answered by bb8372 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he a practicing drunk?
If he is, don't bother with the relationship. Get out and find another man..
Tell him you will not be ok with a relationship with a practicing alcoholic, If on the other hand he is active in Alcoholic's Anonymous the reserve is true if he'd been sober for any length of time, he should be honorable and truthful, (with caveats).
Does he call his sponsor regularly, attends meetings on a regular basis, in all likelihood you could trust this person nearly unconditionally.
2006-10-16 09:50:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes an alcoholic can have feelings for a girl. Alcoholism is a disease of the mind and the body. The alcoholic has an obsession that will come before all other things. It isn't their fault. The problem is most alcoholics do not love themselves, especially if they've been plagued with this disease for very long. If you care for this man, suggest he go to AA. It's an amazing program. If you are already involved with him, I suggest you go to Alanon. That is a program designed to help friends and family deal with the insanity and codependency of loving an alcoholic. Back to the original question, you can trust his feelings for you, but you won't be able to trust much else.
2006-10-16 09:46:24 · answer #5 · answered by bleunumen 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Ask yourself a question, are you willing to take on a alcoholic? I would tell him to get some kind of help, and then see if he still has the same feelings for you. Alcohol can really change someone and how they feel. If he is a alcoholic he does not love himself, and if you don't love yourself then you can't love someone else.
2006-10-16 12:11:21 · answer #6 · answered by believesucceedfanfare 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but he is not himself when he drinks.
Any body can fall in or out of love, and no doubt, his feelings may be sincere.
Is he good for you? WIll he be good to you? WIll get out of alcoholism?
If it is a question you are pondering, you are probably attracted to him. Otherwise you would have ran away from him in a flash already.
No is the answer. As for the random laughing, he may be on drugs too or a schizophreni, bipolar, manic depressive.
Run away.
2006-10-16 09:56:49 · answer #7 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, an alcoholic can love. They are however manipulative and ALCOHOL will eventually come first. Be very carefull before you enter into a relationship with an alcoholic, and make sure you are ready for a VERY DIFFICULT LIFE.
2006-10-16 10:06:27 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am sure he has feelings, he just does not know what to do about them. He will have to finish romancing the bottle before he can truly romance a women, give him space and let him heal.
In the meantime go enjoy yourself and celebrate your near miss at misery, frustration, and sadness.
2006-10-16 09:44:57 · answer #9 · answered by Pale 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you just have to know what to share
you would hate to be in a situation where this person tells something that you don't want the world to know
Just be careful if you do decided to get in a relationship with this person
Maybe if they had someone that cared for them they wouldn't drink so much
2006-10-16 09:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by jenniferevans32 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋