My son goes to school, kinda like a head-start program. He goes for 3 hours in the morning. He hasn't biten any kids it's only the teachers. He's usually not like this at all. He does try to bite us at home when he gets frustraited or upset or even when he's just overly happy. They said he doesn't bite all the time just sometimes, so they know he's not always like that. I just get worried that they won't like him & they might start treating him badly. What kinda of actions can I take to get him to stop?
2006-10-16 02:32:12 · 16 answers · asked by La Chula 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
what ever you do , do NOT bite the child back. This is called child ABUSE! If you bite him and he goes to school and the teachers see the bruise from your teeth, they will report you to the child abuse hot line and then your troubles will just begin. Try giving him time outs and stick to it!
2006-10-16 02:41:16 · answer #1 · answered by chick a dee 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Call her on the phone. Say, Honey I have to talk to you about something. I know you are trying to teach your son not to bite, I see you put him in time outs. I know it's not intentional - but I just need for us to not have the boys together until this phase passes. I'm sure on day my son will go through some sort of phase, and I hope you'll be a good enough friend to level with me if it becomes a problem. I'm sure this will pass soon, and I appreciate your understanding of my position. Alternatively - buy her a book on how to get your child to stop biting and give it to her over coffee (in a starbucks with the kids strapped in strollers) Alternative #2 - send her the link to this page
2016-05-22 06:10:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish there were a better solution but they're right... bite back. But I disagree on how hard ... you want to show him that it hurts but please keep in mind that the human mouth contains LOTS of bacteria. Don't bite so hard that you break the skin, even if this is what your son is doing.
It would be helpful if the teachers could narrow down when the biting is most likely to take place. Then you can work on helping him to identify an alternate action ... make it something fun that he'll like to do when he gets excited, like hopping on one foot or giving a little WOO HOO! The idea is to distract him from the frustration or emotional high and channel it into a more acceptable behavior. PRAISE HIM LIKE CRAZY when he does it, to reinforce the behavior.
Good luck!
2006-10-16 02:43:34 · answer #3 · answered by princessmeltdown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Now of course, I know many people will disagree...
You have to know what type child you are dealing with. I have a younger cousin who bit everyone in our family several times. Usually everyone would just laugh and push him away and tell him to stop,which he didn't. One day I guess he thought is was my turn. The first time I look a him sternly and told him STOP! The second time he place this month on my arm, I stop him with palm of my hand on his forehead and explained to him if he bit me I was going to show him how it felt, and bite him back. He shook his little head and ran off. Later that night, he got me. I mean he really got me...I didn't chase him, I walked calmly toward him. I explained to him that, I told you twice not to do that, now it's my turn, and I bit him. I was the last person in my family that he bit.
You have to clearly worn him, but be stern. Give him a couple warnings then give him a some type of punishment, may it be a spanking ,time out, or whatever work for him...Good luck!!!
Those little teeth hurt.
2006-10-16 03:16:38 · answer #4 · answered by mahoganyro 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a phase and the teachers should be fairly experienced with this type of behavior. My daughter did the same thing during daycare. She was isloated as soon as she tried to bite, and received a time out + a very stern talk about not biting. The talking with her during the time out was critical. She stopped biting very quickly. Good luck!
2006-10-16 02:42:11 · answer #5 · answered by Mrs. Strain 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I like I know you see it's idea of acting as if youre really hurt. I know that with my little sister, biting her back didnt help at all. She went through a phase of pulling hair, as well. So i would pull hers back, and she would laugh like it was a game. I think I was the one who got the bad deal on that one...and then she went into the biting stage. We would go back and forth biting each other. It was horrible. She would have a mark, I would have one, and she would laugh. Or scream really loud.
My advice? Spank him when he bites you. Biting him back is going to teach him that its okay to bite, just make sure the person you are biting cant bite as hard as you. That's not right.
If you don't believe in spanking, give him a timeout. Five minutes for a five year old is appropriate.
2006-10-16 02:45:19 · answer #6 · answered by Barbi 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
PLEASE don't bite him back! That is awful! Patience will get you farther. At 3 he is old enough to understand that it is not acceptable. Time out works best. He is also small enough that you should be able to keep him from biting you.
If you bite him back hard enough to leave a mark- you could be charged with child abuse or even endangering if it broke the skin.
Why don't you log onto Dr. Phil.com or go to the library for some other ideas?
2006-10-16 02:41:28 · answer #7 · answered by wolfmusic 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
when my young children started the biting stage, at home- myself or family member would bite back- lightly enough but yet hard enough to make the child realize. And never laugh about it or make it look like its cute. set child aside on couch, corner, time out so that they know what they did is wrong. if child continues to act up like that in school type settings, they can kick the child out. Be careful and nip it in the bud now.
2006-10-16 02:43:38 · answer #8 · answered by meech1178 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My son gave me the same problome. I'm goin to tell you that first off he learned it from some where. I first notice that my son was learning from his own father!!!!, God it was a head acke.
What you can do is everytime he bites you, act like your very sad and as he has hurt you very badly. Rub ( the spot were he bitt you) and with a sad voice say "thats hurt me alot, it makes me very sad when you do this, why do you do this ? you like to see me sad ? dont you want to see me happy".
That works WONDERS believe me, also when you see he try's to bite you, grave his hand and make him bite himself. That's what the doctore tould me to do but it didn't work in my case, it might on your thought, try it out and BEST OF LUCK
2006-10-16 02:39:01 · answer #9 · answered by I think of you I touch Myself 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Bite him back. I had 2 biters. It sounds mean, but I bit each of them back and that was the end of it. I only had to do it once for each of them. I think it's the shock value that does the trick. My kids were utterly surprised when I bit them back, and they remembered the lesson. Bite hard enough to get his attention, but please not hard enough to bruise!
2006-10-16 02:52:29 · answer #10 · answered by Chocoholic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋