my fella and me r getting married in a registry office i think it would be more special and personal if we did it alone. he wants the family there but no one gets on...how do i convince him im right?
2006-10-16 01:14:06 · 52 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
How could you not allow him to have his family there if that is what he wants....why would you want to convince him you are RIGHT ( and what makes you so certain that you are).....you need to learn to compromise or you might as well not even bother getting married!
2006-10-16 01:16:14 · answer #1 · answered by BiancaVee 5 · 6⤊ 0⤋
First of all - CONGRATULATIONS!!!
Now, if you are going to marry your fella I hate to tell you, are going to gain some new family. It is a lot easier if you can all get along and I think having whoever wants to join you at this joyous occasion should be there....especially if your fella wants them there. The two of you cannot be an island if you want this marriage to survive, so why not give it the best chance at success and be gracious and celebrate with all? You will never regret doing so. It will make you look good and in the long run will make you feel good. So smile, look beautiful, and enjoy your day.
2006-10-16 01:25:47 · answer #2 · answered by dddanse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shame on your family for not putting the both of your first on your big day! It would appear that you both have differing ideas of just what you want the day to be- so maybe you should go back to the drawing board and start again - WHY a registry office so many places are now certified for marriages - if you must creep off to get married why not choose somewhere you BOTH agree
on - as for the family issue why not just a representative from both sides to act as your witnesses (mind that you choose
people who would respect your wishes of both privacy and
tact with other relativesthey mau not be too keen on) if all else fails why not elope to Gretna Green! - If you are unable to resolve this issue between you then I would question if your marriage is doomed before it began - I hope that you find mutual ground to settle this big question on - Good Luck to you both.
2006-10-16 01:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by random 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My fella and I are getting married in a registry office.
I think it would be more special and personal if we did it alone.
He wants the family there, but no one gets along.
How do I convince him I'm right.
(Learn to spell and construct sentences.)
YOU ARE WRONG.
Marriage is a joining of a couple and family. It is a joyous occasion. Family needs to be there whether or not they get along or not. Have a couple of them (the noisiest ones) hold disposable cameras and let them take the pictures. Give them something to do other than talk.
By the way, Congratulations.
2006-10-16 01:17:16 · answer #4 · answered by Trollhair 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why would you want to talk him into something he does not want to do (I'm referring to marrying in a registry office). Why is that more special than sharing it with loved ones? Why do you assume YOU are right and he is wrong?
Seems like the two of you need to come to a COMPROMISE... starting a marriage out with trying to convince him that you are right and he is wrong is a terrible way to start a marriage.
2006-10-16 03:25:22 · answer #5 · answered by PT&L 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him it would be terribly romantic if you went off together for the weekend and then got married. you could go anywhere maybe where you first met, book a night in a hotel and then go to the registry ofice the nest day or whatever. You could just say that you feel marriage is between 2 people and therefore it should be just the 2 of you involved and this way its a sacred act between the two of you.
imagine getting married and then going striaght back to your hotel room together, no walking around talking to everybody or spending loads of cash or drinking. just the two of you together newly married and in love
2006-10-20 00:56:39 · answer #6 · answered by kirsty m 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi getting married is all about standing up in front of your family and friends and declaring that you love each other. Its amazing how well people behave at weddings go for it invite your friends and family, if they have strong feelings they will not come.
I am speaking fro experience as I marry a lot of people, Ive only once had an objection, what a day!. I took the objector through to the vestry, told him to wait there, locked the door into the church asked the couple if they wanted to proceed, they said yes, married them, went back to talk to the objector, who was sitting in the same spot rather sheepishly, had a talk with him, he realised how stupid he was being and asked if I would go to the reception with him to ensure that he carried out his apology. I went, he apologised and it was a great day. Go for it invite your family, its up to them. It will be OK
2006-10-18 23:28:34 · answer #7 · answered by william c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry but you are not right. First time for both of you? well if this is how you are starting off I see the divorce in less than a month.Communication seems to have gone out of the window these days think you two need to discuss this more before going down the road of marriage it`s not a game you know?
2006-10-16 01:28:40 · answer #8 · answered by edison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got married in a registry office with all my family around me and it was sooo special as afterwards we tell each other how the day went and it's nice to have different memories from different sources. it give you a different perspective on the day. you have to compromise with you partner as that is what happens in a marriage. keep it simple and only keep it to parents and siblings and invite everyone else to the reception. that way you've kept it small and personal but he has the people that matter to him the most round about him.
2006-10-16 01:20:04 · answer #9 · answered by slinky2005 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As the years will come pass, the thought and dreams of that wedding dress, the walk down the isle, the spot light that only shines on you and your man will begin to eat away at you and to think that you would not include your friends and family or even his for that matter in that special moment will also eat at you. Don’t shot gun your wedding it is a special time.
2006-10-16 01:22:51 · answer #10 · answered by 4mika 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could always do it that way, and tell him after its over, one weekend you could have a family get together and invite the familys, Do it when its raining, and most of em want even show up! lol Just tell the family your going to the Justice of the Peace to get married and you and your husband will be planning a wedding party. There ya go!
2006-10-16 01:19:55 · answer #11 · answered by Lace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋