Hi
Im have been seeing a guy called mike for a month now he isnt bad looking and is so kind always taking me for meals and days out, I feel really lucky to be treated like this but im not sure if I really feel attracted to him I have had sex with him a couple of times but didnt really enjoy it and am always trying to put it off.
Should I finish with him or carry on seeing him and advice at all ?
Thanks
xx
2006-10-16 00:50:08 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't finish it I think you should give him another chance. He sounds so sweet.
2006-10-16 00:52:50 · answer #1 · answered by amgs234 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Amorina,
I went through a similar thing. I went out with a really attractive guy, but didn't enjoy our sex life as much as I did with my first boyfriend who was not really good looking at all. The second guy and I broke up, though not just because of the sex thing. I guess you need to ask yourself. - Do you value this relationship a lot? Is it worth trying to improve the sexual side of things for this reason? Have you had a more satisfying sexual relationship with other guys?, or do you think you think you would be the same with anyone. Hope this helps.
2006-10-16 07:57:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Can you see any possibility of walking down the aisle or raising children with him? If that is what you want for yourself sometime, and you don't see him being that person, then don't waste his and your time... The more and longer you accept these favours while never having the intention of developingteh relationship, the more difficult it will be to split up aimicably.
2006-10-16 07:57:49 · answer #3 · answered by Chris C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself what is more important to you? It sounds like you two are better off being just friends. You don't feel the chemistry with the guy yet you don't mind him treating you to dinner and such.
Don't lead this man on -- tell him you like him only as a friend (if you can handle being just his friend, especially if he finds another chick who likes him) or tell him you don't want to see him anymore, you met someone else. And move on.
2006-10-16 07:53:19 · answer #4 · answered by scarlettboca 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks are not everything. You are never going to find the perfect mate. But it sounds like you are not really into this guy at all. It's more than just taking you out and stuff. I think you should end it. I am sure you can find some one else, who you would be more compatible with. Good luck.
2006-10-16 07:57:40 · answer #5 · answered by yolanda o 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Men can actually be nice without having sex. If he is just wining and dining for that than dump him. If not it's never a bad thing to be friends with someone. Also not meaning to sound like a mom but you might consider waiting longer than a month to have sex with someone. It's easier to move toward a sexual relationship than it is to get out of one without hard feelings.
2006-10-16 07:55:46 · answer #6 · answered by Stand 4 somthing Please! 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you should finish this with him because you clearly are not into him even though he's a nice guy. Don't put yourself somewhere you don't really want to be. It's not fair to him as well if you are giving him the idea that you are really interested. Don't waste his time as well as yours. If your not feeling it, then your just not feeling it.
2006-10-16 08:48:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do him a favor and end it. Sounds like your just using him to a certain extent, so before it goes any further let him off easy.
2006-10-16 08:14:09 · answer #8 · answered by DialM4Speed 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are not attracted to him within the first month it is not gonna get any better so i would say end it now. You need to find someone who fulfills you(not just sexually) but in every way. someone who makes your heart flutter,who you enjoy being with, and who enjoys being with you.
Good Luck
2006-10-16 07:54:32 · answer #9 · answered by Dawn 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question is how much do you like him. if at all you like him then take him to a level where you will enjoy having sex with him. you just need to fine tune and find his point of fantasies. you may regret if you end it soon.
2006-10-16 08:00:21 · answer #10 · answered by zily 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him u need some time and if u really want to be with him them get back with him again u just need some time
2006-10-16 08:51:25 · answer #11 · answered by love hurts but its worth it 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋