Short term depression?

Question

I'm out of work at the moment ( another unemployed teacher) and I can't stand it, I'm relying entirely on my partner for money ( supply work just doesn't give me enough) we have a wedding to pay for, and a new house, and I cry all the time, I know going out will make me feel better, but we make arrangements to do so and then I plead that we cancel them feeling that I don't deserve to go out, I don't deserve to have fun, I spend most of my time wishing I could run away and hide, and tell my partner that he should leave me and find someone else, and I know that it's only temporary ( hopefully one day I'll get a job) but I really can't cope and I'm making his life so hard too. Is it worth going to the doctor's for help, I feel reluctant to do it, will it provide a quick fix, or is it a waste of time?

Answer 1

To skip to the end of your question, it is well worth going to a doctor for help and is certainly NOT a waste of time. Sometimes it does provide a quick fix. The medication he will give you will help you cope with your situation. You recognize that you are depressed and that's the first step. There's no shame in getting help. I have dealt with depression for many years and know when it's time to get help. If you let it go, it may only get worse and you don't want that. You may only have to be on the medication for a short time, but be sure to follow the prescription guidelines. You can't quit taking it without weaning off. After reading your question again, you are suffering from low self-esteem. Depression is caused by a chemical imbalance in your brain. Go get help. You, and your partner, will be forever grateful.

Answer 2

The following was sent to me several years ago and still helps me! It may help you too:
Things That Will Help Make You Feel Good! Think about them one at a time before going on to the next one. It does make you feel good, especially the thought at the end #45.
1. Falling in love.
2. Laughing so hard your face hurts.
3. A hot shower.
4. No lines at the supermarket.
5. A special glance.
6. Getting a card or letter in the mail
7. Taking a drive on a pretty road.
8. Hearing your favorite song on the radio.!
9. Lying in bed listening to the rain outside.
10. Hot towels fresh out of the dryer.
11. Chocolate milkshake (vanilla or strawberry).
12. A bubble bath.
13. Giggling
14. A good conversation.
15. The beach
16. Finding a 20 dollar bill in your coat from last winter.
17. Laughing at yourself.
18. Looking into someones eyes and knowing that they Love you
19. Midnight phone calls that last for hours.
20. Running through sprinklers.
21. Laughing for absolutely no reason at all.
22. Having someone tell you that you're beautiful.
23. Laughing at an inside joke
24. Friends.
25. Accidentally overhearing someone say something nice about you.
26. Waking up and realizing you still have a few hours left to sleep.
27. Your first kiss (either the very first or with a new partner).
28. Making new friends or spending time with old ones.
29 Playing with a new puppy or kitten.
30. Having someone play with your hair.
31. Sweet dreams.
32. Hot chocolate.
33. Road trips with friends.
34. Swinging on swings.
35. Making eye contact with a cute stranger.
36. Making chocolate chip cookies.
37. Having your friends send you homemade cookies.
38. Holding hands with someone you care about.
39. Running into an old friend and realizing that some things (good or bad) never change.
40 Watching the expression on someone's face as they open a much desired present from you.
41. Watching the sunrise.
42. Getting out of bed every morning and being grateful for another beautiful day.
43. Knowing that somebody misses you.
44. Getting a hug from someone you care about deeply.
45. Knowing you've done the right thing, no matter what other people think.

Answer 3

I really feel for you but you are not doing yourself any favours in fact you are probably making your situation worse by behaving the way you are with your partner and friends. Have you thought about getting a different job until you can secure another teaching post? The financial benefits of doing this as well as just having something different to occupy you WILL change your situation dramatically. This will also show on your CV that you have not been resting on your laurels even though teaching jobs are scarce. Maybe try that first before going to your doctor as you may find it is just these pressures making you feel like this. If there is something else going on other than the job issue, you may benefit from speaking to your doctor or a counsellor and you should use the time off you have to really tackle your emotional problems to give yourself the best chance. Don't push away your partner, you will be making him feel helpless as well. Open up, tell him your plan of action to spin you both out of this rut and look forward to planning your wedding. Enjoy it.

Answer 4

Lost of good advice here. Though it would help to speak with someone impartial, don't leave you fiance in the dark in the process. If he wants to take you out, then go. It isn't a matter of you not deserving it. It's a matter of the two of you desperately needing time away from the house and the issues that plague you. Don't think for a minute that the depression you are in isn't affecting him.

Just because you have a teaching degree and can't find a teaching job doesn't mean that you can't work. I would check with a temporary employment firm to see what they have available so you can utlize some of those skills you possess.

Runnning away and hiding isn't an option and I'm sure you know that. Your problems will catch up with you sooner or later so you might as well figure out how to deal with them now. It isn't all bad, you know. You do have a fiance who loves you enough to want to marry you in spite of the difficulties you are going through.

Instead of encouraging him to find someone else, hold on to him and let him help you through it. Consider it a pre-marriage test. This is what married couples do; love and support one another no matter what. Besides, someday you could very well be returning the favor to him. Life comes at us fast and someday the circumstances could be reversed.

So pull yourself together. You will get through it. Things have to get bad before they can get better, right? I woud defintely look into seeing your doctor for a little help. You might benefit greatly from an antidepressant just to get you through this difficult time.

In the meantime, brainstorm the types of jobs you are qualified to do and start looking. You can look at monster.com, hotjobs.com, and there are others. And if all else fails, look into a temp agency for professionals, Maybe Manpower if you have one near you. I know the ones around here have options for professionals.

Best of luck to you. Hang in there.

Answer 5

Sorry to hear this; there may be counselling help available through your union. Alternatively, your GP could help by referring you to a psychologist or counsellor who will be able to help with the problems you mention. S/he may suggest taking antidepressants for a short time to help you over this bad patch so you can get the most from any therapy provided. If you don't want to go the NHS route, a private psychologist or psychotherapist/hypnotherapist should be able to help you to sort out the causes as well as deal with the symptoms. Look in the Yellow Pages and send for brochures to see what they can offer and how they are qualified.

You really need to do something right now rather than wait any longer; it sounds as though you have been through a really rough time and you need help to sort things out. You aren't alone.
Good luck ~RJS

PS: Don't let anyone tell you to 'pull yourself together' - this makes it sound like it's all your fault! It isn't - I've known many teachers who have become depressed and/or anxious. You CAN make changes and you will feel better, but be patient.

Answer 6

Go to a psychologist for help. Doctors and psychiatrists are just going to throw antidepressants at you. It takes so many people so many tries to get the right pill and in the meantime all the wrong pills will make you feel worse. I tried a few antidepressants myself and decided that being depressed was better than being depressed and on antidepressants. Medication should always be the last resort. A psychologist will be good though as he or she will teach you techniques and behaviours to help you deal with your depression. If the psychologist doesn't help, try the meds.

Answer 7

I have clinical depression, meaning the chemicals in my brain male me act that way. I just started medicine about a month ago and I'm feeling much better lately. It takes about 2 weeks to work but I think it is worth it. I know you think it is short term but it might be something that you don't have to live with. I don't know you, but it is worth it to try and be happy. If you ever need to talk then email me,I am more than willing to listen.
have a good day.
=)

Answer 8

usually it's a waste of time until it becomes suicidal. calm down and take a deep breath. make sure you fiancee isn't feeling any resentment toward you and try to find a job that pays better than teaching at a public school. and many areas with multiple schools are in high demand of subs, and parents will pay pretty well for an educated tutor.

Answer 9

I have been through depression go and get help, its only going to help and people alot of the time think oh it will just go away the longer you wait the bigger the hole seems, but do be careful with the drugs they may give some can cause even more illness sometimes it helps to just have someone to talk with.

Answer 10

Yes, see your GP. Feeling sad is normal. This is depression and you need to talk it through with someone who has seen it all before and will be able to recommend what to do about it. Unfortunately, feeling this way can become an ingrained habit even when the original problem goes away, so it is worth facing up to.