Etiquette - Introducing people?

Question

I was having drinks with a man and one of his co-workers came into the lounge. She asked him a question about something they are working on. After about a minute he says to her 'Rebecca, this is Pamela (and used my last name), she works for XXXXXXX. I extended my hand to shake hers and then he said 'Pam, this is Rebecca (last name) she works on the XXXXXXXX project in my office'. Is that the correct way etiquette-wise to introduce two people?

So what is the proper way, I've always been curious - if you are with someone do you introduce them to the person who you come upon or do you introduce the person who you run into to the person you are with.

I know this sounds terribly confusing, but I'd love to know what is proper.

There were too many good answer for me to choose so I want you guys to. Thanks for all the great advice, answering a long time question I've had!

Answer 1

Properly speaking , he should introduce the intruder to the companion.

Answer 2

I think he was entirely appropriate, regardless of the scenario. He focused on the person he was with first, and then to the person who joined. The person introducing should be consious of what information is relevant - and it seems he was. First name and last name and place of buisness was entirely appropriate. He should not, and did not disclose the nature of your/his being together with a co-worker.

I think he is the bomb. If you were on a date with him - KEEP HIM!! :o)

Did you ask this question for a reason - did you think it was wrong?? I'm confused. :o)

PS I hope he didn't invite the skank to join you! haha - just kidding.

Answer 3

I've always thought that the newcomer to a conversation is introduced to the people already in the conversation, as a courtesy to the people who were already in the conversation.

However, in the larger picture where etiquette is the exception rather than the rule, I am likely nit-picking.

Answer 4

Your companion's introduction was appropriate only if the two of you were on a date. The co-worker interrupted with a business matter- something that is totally irrelevant to you. It does not seem odd that your companion would what to explain the interruption to you. I don't really see why he felt it necessary to mention what company you're with. That's absolutely irrelevant to the coworker. If you were not on a date, he gave up way more information on either one of you and should have only used your first name to introduce you two if he simply wanted to give you both respect by acknowledging your presence.

Answer 5

This sounds effective, and not redundant in any respect. particularly i think of to assist Mike get chatting along with her you may do slightly greater and say in basic terms slightly approximately who and what Nancy is (till he's been listening to approximately her for months and is acquainted with already), e.g. "that's Nancy from bills", or that's Nancy, who labored with me on that huge challenge final month" or that's Nancy, the place of work occasion Animal". surely do no longer say any decrease than you have been doing. My husband has a destructive habit of introducing me, "that's my spouse Jane" and forgetting to introduce the different individual, meaning I the two could flannel alongside performing as though i comprehend, or ask outright "And who're you?".

Answer 6

The rule of introduction is that you show respect while introducing. It doesn't matter who stepped in first or later, you always introduce the most important character last. For example you're with your colleague and your manager walks in.
To the manager: "This is my friend xx"
THEN, to your friend: "This is my manager, xx"
Your priority of introduction is always from (no discrimination, purely professional level, or generation wise eg grandfather, father, son) lowest to highest.
But if both persons present are of equal status, then you leave your closest friend to the last, because your friend would understand you most and thus not feel inadequate/being put down if you introduce him/her last.
Oh, one more thing, if you believe in tradition, always introduce male to female first, as males are supposedly the gentlemen who places ladies on a rank above them respect wise.

lol sorry if I sound confusing. In short it should be in priority of
1. lowest to highest ranking (also includes generation levels)
and if both are of the same status, it's always:
1. Provide Male's names and introductions first to the female present. Then vice-versa.
2. Introduce the acquaintances to your friend before introducing your friend to them.
Hope this helps!!

Answer 7

First you introduce the person you are with. The person coming into the conversation is introduced second.

The person you are with always gets priority. You take the time from the new conversation to introduce the person you are sitting with so they feel included and so the new person takes time to meet and address them.

Answer 8

I was taught that you always adderss the older person first and introduce the the second person to them. The same is true for someone who out ranks, in title, someone else. In your case, all things being equal, I think he should have done it the other way around, because Rebecca was "intruding" herself into your "party".

Answer 9

if you are with someone .and somebody comes into the conversation ....if it is a person not as well known to you ? then you introduce the person you know most .by first introducing the closest one to you to the other ....
if both are on the same level ? you introduce the oldest in age to the youngest ......

Answer 10

This is Becky and this is Pam.

That is adequate unless you want them to have nothing else to talk about between themselves in which case you rabit on for 10 minutes about each. then breathe in heavily and stop to look each in the eye

Answer 11

On a business level, I believe that is proper for introductions. It says who you are, as well as where you're coming from business-wise, and market atmosphere-wise.
..Intimately just a first name, and perhaps briefly about background.