My mother says the reason for my loneliness is because I'm not 'worldly' enough.?

Question

I am a christian and I thought this is how I should be anyway - unworldly. This has been playing on my mind and I don't know what to make of it. I'm an unworldly christian that's all. Surely, I'm in the right?

Answer 1

Welcome to my world.

When you walk in perfect accord with the Word, when you walk with Love, you will find yourself abandoned by those who feel shamed by your example.

Only those who also walk with Love, in perfect accord with the Word, will recognize you as a kindred spirit. They will not shun you, but will love you and support you in your time of trouble.

As Jesus said: "...narrow is the way which leadeth unto life, and few there be that find it." Matthew 7:14

Do not expect much company on this path. "Few there be that find it."

Answer 2

What I hope she means is that you've not had enough exposure to the real world--not that she hopes you start to follow the ways of the world. I know I was really naive about the "ways of the world" until I started college back in the late '80s, when I met people from all different cultures, not all of them Christian, and I started to realize that it was a much bigger, sometimes much more brutal world than I'd previously thought. Knowing a little about "worldly" ways without living in those worldly ways by meeting people who've come from all different backgrounds has helped me understand why not everyone thinks like Christians in America, but meeting these people has also helped me be able to relate the Gospel to aspects of their lives in which they've said they're unfulfilled. Don't feel that your loneliness and probably sheltered life have made you a second-class citizen by any means. As a Christian you are the daughter of a King, but you just haven't seen much of the world to understand others who haven't had the same life experience you have.

You didn't say how old you are, so I'll throw out a general suggestion that you get involved with more groups in your church and hang out with other more mature Christians who can help you grow spiritually and socially. If you're entering college, finding Christian groups on campus would be a good social outlet as well.

I hope this helps a little. Feel free to drop me a line at [e-mail] if I can help answer any questions. Take care.

Answer 3

You probably know this anyway if you're a Christian but anyway: Christians are non-conformists- they don't go along with the world but follow God's way. Christians are also a massive worldwide family- get to know some of us a bit better and that might help with the loneliness. One of the liberating things about being a Christian is that even if we have a rubbish life (I'm not saying you will!) our eternity will be perfect!

Answer 4

Loneliness is a spirit. Ask the Lord to fill you with the Holy Spirit to overflowing and you will not only see loneliness flee but you will find that boredom becomes a thing of the past. In addition the Holy Spirit will give you a Heavenly prayer language. Acts 2;4.
I Corinthians 13;8a, Love never fails!!!!!
10-16-6
EDIT: I don't mean to imply that as a Christian you don't already have the Holy Spirit. This is simply a suggestion for a larger measure of His goodness.

Answer 5

Christianity teaches hoplessness in disguise as hope. Hope in the next life in exchange for hoplessness in this one. They also try and install a 'Us vs Them' view of the world.

Christianity is going to make your life worse. Jesus didnt even exist, I have looked at the facts, christians have no case. You should do the same and LOOK

God is imaginary, you can make Him say anything, just try it, dont be scared.
Leaving christianity doesnt have to mean becoming a selffish person either. But it will help clear your mind so you can see truth all the more. Just ask 'Jesus'

Fall away, God does NOTHING (I know you will interpret this as Satan tempting you)

Your mother is right!!!! Wordly = Human (Not Sinfull)
Modern christianity is way too 'spiritual' (Full of Imaginations). Cast down vain imaginations and seek truth.

Answer 6

As Christians sometimes we can be 'So heavenly minded that we are of no earthly use." It is good to attend church, study the Bible, go to meetings etc, but we have to remember that God has put us in a real world. Jesus did not tell his disciples to hide away from the world, but to be in it. We must mix with people in the world and be wise to things that are going on in the world, so perhaps this is what your mother means when she says you are not 'worldly enough'.

Answer 7

You are a human being; there is a spiritual side about you that needs religion, Allah and prayers away from the world and there is a worldly side about you that needs a sociola life to mix and interact with people, even to demonstrate your religion. We all can be very religious when we are alone at home; there is not need for us to steal, lie, kill, get angry, etc.

To be healthy, you need to strike a balance. Good luck, dear :)

Answer 8

You are lonely because you feel people do not understand how you truly feel, deep inside.

Money and materialism have nothing to do with it. Its probably because you're a thoughtful person.

Also, contrary to the bulls*hit the movies spew out, you do not need anyone to complete you. You are a complete person and the only one you need in life is God.

I know its tough and its easy for others to say it but this will pass.

Good Luck.

Answer 9

I would think that being worldly would not be a good charcteristic. If you are following your faith then being 'worldly' has nothing to do with it. Be yourself. (you wouldn't want someone to fall in love with someone you are truly not. Find your strengths and interests and grow and expand them.
If you are an introvert like me please look up th e book PArty of One by Anneli Rufus...or at least look it up on the web. (but I'm not sure if that's what you're getting at.)

Answer 10

You are SOOOO RIGHT baby sister. Your mother is just
being defensive because parents feel they are failures when
their children have something they struggle with.
But we all struggle, and it's just false pride for a parent to feel
that way. DON'T TELL HER THAT! Just put it in your data
bank for further reference. ALL humans have prides and
struggles.
There are plenty of things one can do without hanging out
with drug heads and boozers to have fun. There are
community organizations, and events. Where you can meet
nice, respectable people.
Look in your local newspaper. The best things in life are
FREE!

Answer 11

Considering yourself right in the face of reality is the definition of delusion. If you cloister yourself for religious reasons, you deny your potential as a Human being. The purpose of being Human is to ask the question "WHY?" not to merely exist with a book of pat made-up answers.