I meet this girl and she was on cocaine for a year and has been clean for a year. Also she has been involved in a 3some twice. Also, she has been with 3 women. Currently she states she dose not do these things anymore.
2006-10-15 23:50:15 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Wow she's been busy.. tough one to answer... maybe she doesn't do those things any more and it was just a phase and shes over it now....maybe she isn't and is just wanting a different scene....I guess when it comes to should you date her or not...you have to ask yourself (honestly) what you can and cant tolerate?....would you be able to trust her.?...will it make you insecure knowing these things? are you monogamous ( one man for one woman) do you like woman who experiment? what are your intentions? etc etc......and if at the end of it all you feel sure about yourself then you will know what to do.
2006-10-16 00:13:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If U believe she has put those things behind her and dosen't wan't 2 do that now,well,why not.Everyone makes mistakes.Aren't there somethings U did that U regret now.Would U wan't others holding that over ur head now.Not tryna b offensive or anything but if she's gotten tested 4 h.i.v. and stuff and she's o.k. then her mistakes shouldn't really even b an issue.Maybe u should give it a chance.C if she's really changed.Don't make her feel like she got clean 2 b looked down upon 4 it 4ever anyways.U can't take back yesterday but if she's really clean now than apparently she's tryin 2 make her future better.I can't really c how it would hurt u 2 c how it would go but it's a personal thing so think it over.
2006-10-16 00:19:45 · answer #2 · answered by michelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most people deserve a second chance. There are of course exceptions to this rule but they are not people who have experimented with drugs and sex, or fallen in with a bad crowd, or lost their way.
Besides, doesn't her somewhat lurid past excite you at all, make her more exciting and dangerous?
How do you know such intimate details about her? If she told you in confidence then okay, but if you heard it "on the grapevine" then I'd start to worry.
Also, are you suggesting that she is repentant for her past? If so, then that seems like it would be reassuring to you, and maybe you should trust her. If she is not repentant (and she needn't be, as she's done nothing wrong unless she herself feels she's degraded herself or allowed herself to be used) and has told you this information to tittilate you then clearly things are not going to work out between you.
In short, don't pre-judge and be honest about your own feelings. Good luck.
2006-10-16 00:03:39 · answer #3 · answered by christian martini 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually you get kind of kinky and will try anything when on coke. Young people experiment sextually all the time and if they say they don't they are lying(for the most part) . I would be more concerned about the drugs than anything else. But hey we all have a past. If you like her give it a chance. It could have just been a phase she was going through. If you find out she's still using than tell her goodbye.
2006-10-15 23:55:11 · answer #4 · answered by Stand 4 somthing Please! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Were you dating her before you found out about her past.. A persons past is in fact there past and has nothing to do with you because it was before you met her. I am sure that you have done some stuff in your past that she may not think was so great either but she isn't complaining about it is she?
The word PAST is exactly what it says..
The only worry possibly that you should even consider is if she is going to stay off of the drugs or not.. the rest of it should not concern you and is actually none of your business.
to date or not it is your decision.. if you compiled this list it must bother you so you may as well get out now..
2006-10-15 23:59:05 · answer #5 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is in someone's past is in their past it was her choice to be upfront and honest with you in the first place surely this proves to you that you can trust her. If she says she doesn't want to and is not intrested in these things again then i think you should give heer a chance. A person's past really has nothing to do with you as you were not in their lives at the time and therefore shouldn't judge.
Give her a chance if it happens to go worng then i am sorry but at least you won't be wondering what if! Be natural and honest with her throughout she has with you. Don't get jealous or angry by her past. Good Luck.
2006-10-15 23:55:33 · answer #6 · answered by Missbutterfly:-) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't date her, she sounds like a piece of ****, she sounds like an absolute freak to me i don't see how anyone could even think about dating someone like that. Even though she says she doesn;t do these anymore how do you really know she doesn't and those things she has done are pretty serious. Your best bet would be to find someone else.
2006-10-15 23:55:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you like her? Remember that our past makes us who we are today. If you like her for who she is today, then respect her for overcoming challenges/phases in her past. Respect the fact that she was honest with you. Just be sure to express that you do not agree with these things. Let her know what your view is. If she respects you, she'll have moved on past all of that. Good luck!
2006-10-15 23:56:18 · answer #8 · answered by BJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the gal is on a recourse. what she did was just to experience the thing for the sake of it. give her a chance date her, maybe you can help her better to cope with her emotions.
as the saying goes it's never too late. go for it.
2006-10-15 23:54:03 · answer #9 · answered by karan s 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He without fault cast the first stone!
2006-10-15 23:54:21 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋