My sister in law is very annoying. She keeps asking me questions about my baby then she will put her input on things and shes always trying to find something negative in what I tell her.Then she calls people on the phone and makes up lies.Shes very bossy and shes a broken record so I quit talking to her on the phone now she calls my mom up and asks a bunch of questions about me. She doesnt know how to mind her own business. My husband doesnt talk to her either.She has started alot of trouble.Shes been trying to interfere with my family.I don't want to deal with this anymore. How should i handle this?
2006-10-15 23:18:15 · 12 answers · asked by sweetlittlemama2006 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
ignore her
2006-10-15 23:19:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
It always complicates things when it's hard to get on with a relative-in-law. I think that she has to get the message that if she's going to be rude to you then you're not going to go out of your way to seek her company. I think that you sound like you're handling it in a mature way - you're not being rude to her but you're not going to talk to her if she can't be nice. You might need to step it up a little though. You say that you felt very uncomfortable - if you express how you feel to her without resorting to being rude or personal, then that's all you can do. I'd be really tempted to be direct and say, why do you say such rude things to me, and why do you keep repeating them over and over when you know that they must hurt me? etc You can only be responsible for your own behaviour. It sounds like she's pretty gutless as she mostly attacks you over the 'phone or when you are alone. I reckon if you are polite but very firm and honest she will back off. Obviously, there may come a time when you may have to decide that the situation is too toxic - ask your husband not to leave you in a situation when you have to be alone with her. I think it's great that you're breastfeeding your baby - don't let anyone tell you any different.
2016-05-22 05:58:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can, change your phone numbers. Plead with your mom to not accept the calls too. Ignoring is probably the best thing to do at this point. You don't need people like that in your life. It's unfortunate that she's related to you. You could also try sitting her down and telling her that if she continues to do this you will not only cut her out of your family all together, but if need be you will get a restraining order. Tell her she's causing too much strain on your family with her questions and mythical stories and if she doesn't stop, she will be excommunicated from your life. Good luck!!
2006-10-16 02:52:04 · answer #3 · answered by kari w 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your husband be upfront with her and say
you don't appreciate what she is doing to you guys - shes affecting you, your husband and your family, and probably, your relationship - she is hurting both of your feelings and you would appreciate if she cant say something constructive then not to say something at all.
Could be she thinks in her own way she is helping, could be shes just an interferring lady who needs her own life haha. Whatever it is, make your point, let her know how BOTH of you feel (important that your husband backs you up), and let her come to you. If she starts up again just say you have told her how you feel and if you can't get along then give you guys some space. Yeah and ask your mum to do the same!
Good luck man - inlaws are never easy - good thing your husbands on your side though! Good LUCK!
2006-10-15 23:25:17 · answer #4 · answered by daisy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like my husbands sister and your husbands sister are one of the same LOL....
Thank goodness we live in the UK, she lives in Houston Tx. We just ignore each other now after I told her quite clearly to butt out of our lives. Gave her a few home truths, I don't think many people have stood up to her before, she met her match when I joined the family in 2003.
Just speak to her, stand up to her and tell her exactly how you feel ok?
2006-10-15 23:21:48 · answer #5 · answered by lollipoppett2005 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I have to say if i was in your shoes i would cut all contact altogether with her....she clearly has a boring life of her own and has to busy herself with yours to fill her time.
If your husband doesn't speak to her either there would be no problem with cutting her out of your life..tell your mom too..perhaps you and your mom could get caller identitity on your phone so you can tell..when she calls not to answer it.
2006-10-15 23:22:49 · answer #6 · answered by Liz S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Th best thing to do is isolate her, believe me I have had the same problem and I just began to ignore her, at the beginning it doesn't do much but when she starts to rfeel the isolation hopefully she will back off
2006-10-15 23:21:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mother how you feel and ask her not to talk about you to your sister-in-law! She sounds like a trouble maker! Tell your husband that you don't like her and don't want her meddling with you! Throw her out of your life if you have to!
2006-10-15 23:25:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Confront her and ask her about this in a nice mannerly way!! Then say I don't appreciate what I've been hearing and tell her the truth STOP!
2006-10-16 02:51:38 · answer #9 · answered by wait362004 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just send her to the ...................and get over. How to ignore an idiot that's another question.
2006-10-15 23:34:54 · answer #10 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sit with ur husband ..decide on how to deal with her and get ahead !!
2006-10-15 23:21:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋