should i be ashamed of the fact that i live in a crappy area in a crappy flat dealing with dibilitating?

Question

mental health problems? and the fact i could have a mental illness? i see a psych in november, where im gonna tell how i feel and hoping for a diagnosis. most days i feel horrendous and ive started to isolate myself from outside and socoiety and the loud thugs outside..im trying to move to. until i get some kind of therapy, how can i get some self worth, self confidence in mself ?

im 29. but its like id rather live in my own world than cope with reality and wats outside. i want some kind of escape..

i wanna live in quiet surrounds..near a beach im becoming obsessed about all this..i feel Unwanted and Unloved, no friends. no partner. fack all

its like i feel trapped, tied to where iam right now which is the scary thing, the feeling that ill always be here and never be able to get out, get away. like something is stoping me. im scared i really am

Answer 1

There are people out there who care about you. That should give you at least a bit of self worth on its own. I have had depression for 14 years. I found that I was able to deal with it better on my own that use a shrink. And pills didn't work long term. I would recommend looking up internet sites about what you are feeling. The more you understand about yourself, the easier it will be to help yourself. I stongly recommend that you do keep looking for a new place to live. That might help a lot. Just make sure that you don't get so down that you stop looking for an appartment. You should also find someone to talk to about it. Make sure that they understand fully. I found websites that I showed my husband when we first started dating. You could do the same for a friend or family member. And explain to them that they don't need to respond with sympathy. That isn't going to help (or at least it wouldn't for me). A lot of people live with depression and lead a perfectly normal life. Good luck.

Answer 2

My heart goes out to you!

It sounds as though you are really suffering and matters are made a lot harder by the fact that you feel that you don't really have anyone to lean on and share your feelings with.

You have no reason to feel ashamed, you are a victim of circumstance - it's not your fault you live in an undesirable area! Life throws us these curve balls from time to time and it sounds like you're not coping very well with the hand you've been dealt.

You won't make any friends or find a partner if you lock yourself away from the world, the only thing you'll succeed in doing is to isolate yourself further and make yourself more and more unhappy.

Sit down. Make yourself a list of things that you want out of life. What is important to you? You want to move, so what positive steps are you taking to make this happen? What can you do to make this dream a reality? What are your interests? Do you have any hobbies that you could meet new people through? How about getting a pet such as a dog? They're great company and the fact that you will be responsible for looking after something other than yourself might distract your mind from dwelling on your problems. If you had a dog you might feel more secure in your home and it may also encourage you to brave the outside world when you have to take it for walks.

Are there any online courses that you can do while you are at home? Studying for something could offer you better job prospects, increase your confidence and give you something to work towards. What better way to boost your self esteem by furthering your education, working hard to achieve something whilst proving to yourself and everyone else that you can do it?

It's all about taking small steps every single day to improve your situation. If there are things that you have been putting off doing (however trivial) try and do at least one of them every day. Don't make the mistake of setting yourself unachieveable goals, just do small things daily that make a difference and, NEVER GIVE UP HOPE! xx

Answer 3

You sound depressed
Don't be ashamed of where you live if it is all you can afford right now well it has to do ... I am living in an area that I to find depressing with hoons and jerks spinning their cars outside my front door .. we to are trying to move but there is a huge housing shortage here ...
Isolating yourself wont help
My husband was received an acoustic shock at work and it has left him with a huge case of depression which our neighbourhood is not helping but we make sure to get out everyday to exercise and walk our dogs .. over here in Australia they have some beautiful places to walk...
Is there anyplace close that you can volunteer a bit of your time ?like a thrift store or maybe an animal shelter ?

Getting out of the house will help you

Gosh I wish you all the best .. I know what your going through ..

Answer 4

No you definitely should not be ashamed of where you live.

Sounds like you're depressed, and that can be quite restricting and debilitating. You should be awful proud that you're aware of it and are going to get help.

One thing you can do in the meantime is exercises. It really really helps. It makes your body create endorphins and will make you fell happier. It doesn't have to be drastic or really hard, but try to go outside for walks. Try not to isolate yourself. Talk to people, talk to friends and family. Do things you love, or used to love. You might think they won't give you pleasure now, but do them. You will feel good about them.

Good luck. I hope you find that home by the beach.

Answer 5

this is so terrible that you feel this way...I bet you have people who really care...maybe they just cant tell you right now or let you know for some reason....I know the Lord Loves you...and so does Jesus....with Them..you never walk alone. I think you are going to be fine..you are just in a rut and your patience is wearing thin right now...and you don't have to have mental problems to be frustrated with that...read a good book...don't worry if you can't go out right now...you are trying like hell to get better and don't give up the fight...you will win...I just know it.

Answer 6

you could be living in a trailer park and that is scary!!!then you would be worried about tornados coming and blowing the trailer away!things could always be worse? hang in there!