this chick has hooked up with one of my fiances mates which he wants at our wedding. i dont want her there but he does cos of his mate.the relationship with those two arnt solid. i know her history and has herpes. lol seriously she does . do you think she should come? like, ive seen her talking to him when in a group and she gazes into his eyes like she remembers how good of a time they had. i said just invite his mate and my fiance got annoyed
2006-10-15 22:57:43 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I wouldn't want a booty call there either! I say unless his buddy and her are in a serious relationship then NO. If you are uncomfortable with her there don't invite her. He and his buddy should understand!
2006-10-16 02:27:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess I would base it on how serious she is with his friend. If they are living together or have been dating for a long time I would probably invite her. My son had one of his ex's show up at his wedding as the guest of someone else and it wasn't a big deal. Your fiance is marrying you not his ex and therefore feels it's not a big deal. There are too many stressful things when planning a wedding to let the little things bug you. Obviously gazing into his eyes at parties hasn't gotten her anywhere you still have his ring on your finger.
2006-10-16 02:26:57 · answer #2 · answered by oldmomma 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
All I have to say is HELL NO! there is no way I would ever allow some skank bag at my wedding . It's your wedding and put it this way to him "either she's there and I'm not or I'm there and she's not". Your fiance is just going to have to deal with it and show YOU respect not the skank and if he can't do that then don't marry him. Seriously, my fiances friend is such a disgusting dirt bag and I flipped a nut when he asked this dude to be in the wedding, needless to say I used the phrase I quoted above. It's your wedding and there is no need for you to have to get pissed off on your wedding day. Put the foot down girl.
2006-10-16 05:47:27 · answer #3 · answered by Jersey Style 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The fact that it's jointly YOUR day means that you ought to be able to come to a conclusion on who you want at your wedding. If your husband really wants this person at your wedding, then you should reach some sort of compromise. "She can come to the wedding if... I don't have to speak with her, she won't cause problems, etc.".
The fact that she has a "history" and has herpes shouldn't make any difference as to whether or not she attends your wedding. Would you want someone denying your attendance at an event because of your "history" or because of some percieved illness YOU have? Likely not. Consider how she feels.
If you can't trust your fiance to behave himself at his own wedding, and after, then you might consider whether or not this man is really worth putting effort into.
2006-10-15 23:04:57 · answer #4 · answered by Andrew Jesse Brown 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
No, I wouldn't she's only going to cause a sceen. But a better question to ask him is why does he want to disrespect you by having his 'ho at yall wedding? Friend or no friend its you he's sleeping with not is friend. Its you he has to please not his friend. If he has a problem with this the two of you have bigger issues then the guest at a wedding. Tell me this what kind of a friend he has that would hook up with something that he used and then wants to drag the trash to yall wedding? there are some missing pieces to this puzzle I suggest you find them!
2006-10-15 23:16:43 · answer #5 · answered by missnuarlens 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's your wedding - you're paying for it - you get to say who is there & who isn't. Hopefully they'll have broken up by the time you get married so it doesn't matter. I'd invite your fiancee's mate as "joe bloggs +1" rather than "joe bloggs & skanky chick" that way he might get the hint. Really tho - if she does turn up & that's the worst thing that happens on your wedding day then it's not that big a drama - don't let it ruin the party!
2006-10-15 23:03:13 · answer #6 · answered by shirazzza 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-04-27 11:48:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound petty. Like the herpes part. If you need to attack her personally then you are wrong. I won't give an opinion on should be invited just suggest you need to be bigger than trashing her. Remember your soon to be husband dated her. If you slander her what does that say regarding your fiance?
2006-10-15 23:12:55 · answer #8 · answered by mary texas 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Nope, leave that door close and that drama alone unless you wanna be seen on Bridezilla or something like that. That'll ruin your day. Have you seen the beginning of Soul Food?
2006-10-15 23:22:06 · answer #9 · answered by goodfowlkes 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What? Isn't this YOUR wedding? I wouldnt' invite some girl that's a booty call. If she's not a friend of you or your fiancee, she's not invited!
2006-10-16 07:45:59 · answer #10 · answered by texas y'all! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋