Feeling Very Stressed....help?

Question

Im so stressed out, I feel like I'm trying to be something for everyone, but failing, I also have exams coming up but I cant concentrate on studying because Ive just so much on my plate, I dont know what to do....I just want to be selfish and tell everyone to leave me alone, but I know I cant....Any good ideas on how to de-stress??

Answer 1

Here is a list of things that always help me:

12 Ways to Lighten Up

Approaching your life with a non-serious attitude gives you a clearheaded view of difficulties and the energy to deal with them. Problems are easier to solve, people are more cooperative and you feel more relaxed. You probably live longer and more successfully as well.

Try these techniques until you find one that lightens you up.

1. Deliberately turn a molehill into a mountain. Make a big deal out of a little problem. "I would feel much better if these papers were stacked exactly like this! Not like that! Like this! Not this! This!"

2. Ask yourself, "Is getting serious about this situation really going to improve it?"

3. Focusing on the positives. Repeat these questions until you feel lighter, "What is right about this picture?" "What else is right?" "What else?"

4. Consider a complete, major change. Why not go back to school? Why not move to Idaho? Why not retire for a few years or start a new career?

5. Ask yourself, "When I’m on my deathbed, will I be glad I was so serious about _______?"

6. A challenging game is much better than no game at all. So consider losing all aspects of the problem. Examples: You feel serious about family problems. You ask yourself, "Well, what if I had no family at all?" You feel serious about your investments. You ask yourself, "What if I had no money to invest?"

7. The size of your problem may match the size of your game. So get a bigger game. For example, if you get uptight about paper clips being in the wrong drawer, your game size is tiny. Double your amount of responsibility. Set some huge goals. Succeed by thinking much, much bigger.

8. Stop trying to solve the problem that is making you so serious. Certain types of problems solve themselves if you leave them alone. Your problem may be one of those.

9. Compare what you are doing to other careers. Imagine being a septic tank drainer or an IRS agent.

10. Make everyone around you lighten up. You will soon feel more cheerful.

11. Look at bizarre solutions. What is the craziest way you could solve your problem? What solution, if it worked, would make you laugh out loud?

12. Act stupid for a minute. Let down your hair. Stop being so darn important for a while. Be a goof!

Answer 2

Youre not failing, youre doing better than you think. If people are putting you under pressure im sure they dont mean to and theyre sorry if thats whats coming across. You can be selfish, its ok, and if you need certain people to leave you alone and give you space then thats what they'll do. Just let em know that thats what you want, dont bottle it up and say you're fine when youre not. As for de stressing..........running is beyond good, or yoga, a walk, Any type of physical stuff will do the job. Meditation is great aswell, if you can get the time. But im sure the people causing you stress would feel terrible if they knew they were making you feel bad and that if you need them to back off and be a friend and not make demands, they will, im sure of it.

Answer 3

Exams ay!! we all get stressed now and again. Have a day to urself and get a nice hot soak in the bath and completley forget about all ur worries...then i would suggest afta u have pampered urself make a list of things that u need to do and make a timetable of when ur goin to study, say 1 hour and then take a 15min cuppa break! Talk to ur family or friends and tell them how r u feeling have a good talk dont bottle everythin up because those people that u want to have a go out and be selfish to r probably the people that will b willing to help you. Dont worry x

Answer 4

Trust your own judgement. I think you are absolutely justified in telling people that you need time to concentrate on your own stuff right now and that, although you would love to help them and be there for them, right now you have to concentrate on you.

If you are not ok with you, how can you be useful to others? What on earth makes you think your problems are less important than theirs? I think you need to take time and space, prioritise your own stuff, revise for your exams and ask for help when you need it from others, even if that help is just giving you some room for the time being.

It is not selfish to acknowledge and tend to your own needs. Consider, instead, whether your friends and family are being "selfish" in failing to notice that you are struggling and failing to support you. THEY are theones who need to hear this stuff.

Short term? You've heard it all before. De-stress by using well-tried strategies that work for you - deep-breathing, gentle exercise, meditation, an hour away from everyone with a gentle walk or a good book. But longer term, understand that your needs are at least as important as everyone else's.

Good luck

Answer 5

For a start, have a look at what it is you are doing. Write a list of everything you have going on at the moment. Then see if there is anything you can cut. It may mean stopping doing something you really enjoy for a short time, but if you are that busy you may have to make sacrifices. Then see what you can pass onto other people. Are you doing something for someone when they could really do it themselves? Be realistic about what you can and can't do. Explain to people that you are just so busy and you need to focus on your studies.
Then clear an entire evening, sit in your room, watch movies, eat popcorn and don't think about what you have to do tomorrow.

Answer 6

The comments about Australia are crazy. They absolutely were originally a Gun Nut nation and protested when their government wanted to take them away. However, they have not had a mass shooting since 1992 as a result and the Australians (even the ones who protested) will now tell you they feel much safer. In addition, not all guns were taken away; people still have hunting rifles and if a bad guy or boogie man broke into your house, you would still be able to do plenty of damage with a hunting rifle. My point - do we really need every American to have access to machine guns and sniper rifles? Can't we restrict specific gun access and only make hand guns and hunting rifles accessible? Just saying.

Answer 7

The best thing you can do for your self and every one else is to take an hours me time every day! And do something you like! Have a massage at least once a week to try get rid of the stress! There is no point in trying to please every one when the most imporant person to please is yourself! If you are not happy how can the people around you be happy! So be selfish and do this one little thing for yourself!! Hope you fell better soon!

Answer 8

You have to learn the fact that NO ONE is loved by EVERYONE, regardless how nice he/she is. Even a saint.

So, the first thing you need to do is: STOP being nice to everyone. Start practising in saying "NO" to some of the people around you. Saying "YES" could cost you your time and effort.

Anyway, saying "NO" does not necessary means "piss off, don't bother me". Your friends/family would understand it.

For immediate remedy for stress...try singing out loud in your shower. Humming a favorite song (even though when you don't feel like it) will take your mind away from the stress...

Life is not that hard, think of all the unfortunate people around the world. Some of them do not even have food to fill their stomach!

Answer 9

If you wish to succeed in life you ahave to be a little selfish at times.
It is not being nasty it is simply being practicle, even if others do not understand at the time they will benifit from your success no doubt when you achieve it.

The best way to overcome stress is to be organised, try to put things into perspective, work to a schedule ( that is the first thing to organise) and prioritise your time and tasks. Only fluctuate from the schedule if you need more time for studying but imediately reorganose the droped task within your schedule or it will be a distraction. good luck

Answer 10

leave out every problem just relax and always remember that nothing is important than ur carrier u dont get stressed try little meditation and increase internal power feel that u can reach the top dont listen any thing of any one do what u like if u can do that than definately u will get success do not wrong ways and short cut to success that is very easy but u will find it difficult afterwards