I'm good friends with a guy I used to see for holidays, etc. He was a casual boyfriend who lives overseas so it never worked out. His new girlfriend wants him to drop contact with me but we know a lot of mutual friends so that would be difficult. There is nothing apart from friendship going on. Should I distance myself from him? I dont see what the problem is.
2006-10-15 22:27:46 · 34 answers · asked by Saucy B 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Of course it's ok to stay friends with him, especially if you have a lot of mutual friends. If she has a problem with this, it' her problem. You dont seem to have any hidden agendas, so go on staying friends.
2006-10-15 22:33:28 · answer #1 · answered by Jo.Elle 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If i were to generalise, then surely some thing was wrong with him, else y did u dump him. So in order not to take a step back. But..Since it was just a casual relation and it could not work out due to ur clarity of thoughts "Holidays" and due to distance, nothing wrong in continuing the relations.
2006-10-15 22:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by dickwettingtown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as that what you both want and your just friends then i cant see a problem with that. I'm guessing that ex's usually turn out to be great friends and i cant see that getting in the way of your relationship with ur current partner, ur ex's are ex's for a reason but they can still be good friends.
take care
2006-10-16 00:03:45 · answer #3 · answered by Chappers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your current boyfriend doesn't mind you keeping contact with your ex-boyfriend, then i see no problem. Answer these questions before you rekindle your friendship with your ex.
Would you be ok if your current boy friend is still friends with his ex-gf? Would you be Ok if your ex-boy friend's relationship with his girlfriend sour because of you? Many guys will mind if their girlfriends keep contact with their exs-boyfriends. I don't know how your boyfriend or his current gf would react. My suggest to you would be to break the tie if you value your boyfriend more than your ex-boyfriend,otherwise keep your friend and dump your boyfriend.
2006-10-15 22:33:59 · answer #4 · answered by third_eye_blind0x0 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
close the chapter on the relationship for now. keep each others phone number's and stick to ocassional contact (a few times a month). then if you can cope with being friend's, and it's what you both wan't. give each other time and let the relationship develope. partners come and go. friend's (true friend's) are harder to come bye. who knows if the two of you see you both have a mature outlook on life, you might grow on each other
2006-10-15 23:38:50 · answer #5 · answered by russellhamuk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as long as both u and your ex feel comfortable with the situation, why should it matter what anyone else thinks? i dated a guy for about 5 years, and after our relationship ended, we managed to stay friends, and it's now 6 years since we broke up ! infact he is my best friend, and i'm really glad that i kept him in my life. it sounds as though your ex's current girlfriend feels threatened by your friendship with him..... maybe u could try to explain to her that u are not a threat to their relationship, and that we all need as many friends as we can get in this life..... offer to be her friend too !
2006-10-15 22:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think about your future boyfriend. If the friendship gets stronger now will you future boyfriend be happy. It's bound to complicate things.
You had a fling that didn't work out, i would close that chapter of my life so it doesn't become even more complicated later.
2006-10-15 22:30:50 · answer #7 · answered by daka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is fine to be friends with an ex and better friends with one of my ex's as I was before we got together. I dont see his new girlfriends problem?
2006-10-15 23:40:22 · answer #8 · answered by Angelkiss85 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just bloody typical!!! All the supportive answers are from women, yet put yourselves in the GF's shoes and then answer the same. Bloody Hypocrites. You should not stay anywhere with your ex.
2006-10-17 09:57:41 · answer #9 · answered by faisix67 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes this so dumb is that you said he lives overseas.
You cant be good friends with someone who was just "casual" AND who lives oceans away.
Which makes me wonder why you insist on contact.
2006-10-15 22:35:56 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋