Ok, well I'm 15 years and I fell in love with a man around 50. I have about a year knowing him and he has been very sweet and kind.And I don't simply like/love him, this is the first time I've ever felt such strong love. I swear this change my life. This love makes me stronger, happier, and joyful; but I love him so much that I cry to just think that we'll never be together. I know I' m 15 but I'm waiting to turn into an adult so this person knows that I'm not playing and I'm deeply in love with him. I don't care how old he is and how his appreance is, the only thing I know is that I love him. But I am afraid to loose our friendship when I let him know how much I love him. I'm afraid to loose him and afraid to get him mad. I tearfully ask you for tips and help.
2006-10-15 22:25:39 · 19 answers · asked by Myself 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
To clear things, this person has NEVER talked about sex, drugs, or anything personal, I swear. That is why i wanted to place this question and try to share it with nice people who would really help me instead of laughing and making me feel unconfortable with you guys. That is one big HUGE reason I don't trust anyone! But in the oter way I thank the others for letting me know in a nice and gentile way. Other thing to clear, I DO have parents! and obviously I don't talk to them about it because I don't feel confortable and perfer to talk to friends. Anyway I knew this would happen about the laughing but understand this: I'm only 15 and I recognize I'm imature, young, and crazy. So please don't make any other comment if you have noting helpful or nice to say!!
2006-10-16 00:46:05 · update #1
By the way, this person DOESN'T know I have feelings for him!! it's not his fault, he has no idea what's happening. If someone has a problem then that's me!
2006-10-16 01:02:47 · update #2
Honey don't listen to everyone telling you it's not meant to be, your the only one that knows how your heart feels. Nobody knows whats in your heart but you. Atleast wait till your 18 though so no one gets into any trouble. I am very happy for you. I was 18 and I wasn't in love but I liked this 35 year old and age didn't matter to me, and what he looked like didn't matter to me either. If it don't matter to you what he looks like then you must definitely love him. Listen to your heart hun only you can make the descision to be with him nobody else can make that descision for you. Good Luck and I wish you the best.
2006-10-15 22:36:51 · answer #1 · answered by Esther V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may think you are in love and possibly you are. However in 3 years when you are 18 you won't be the same person as you are now. I suggest you wait and grow older and more mature before acting on this. Even if he wasn't 50 I would still say the same thing. We grow so much as people from 18 to 30 even. You should keep things in focus and make sure you are your priority and not build your life around someone else. You need concentrate on finishing high school and hopefully going to college or starting a career. You want to share your life, but don't forget to have one..
2006-10-15 22:57:29 · answer #2 · answered by Ericka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen carefully hon, your a young girl with very strong emotions for an older man, and these emotions, 'All though you wont believe me' will change towards this older person as you get more mature! Logic and the gradual realisation of what you are up against will hit you hard! your whole life will change, you will have to make critical decisions affecting your family and your social life! i.e. your older man wont want to go out with fifteen or sixteen year old friends, would he? How about children? will your son or daughter be happy with a old man of sixty or seventy when their mom is in her twenty's or thirties? You need counselling on this problem kiddo, and real quick! The man in question should be mature enough to see the problems he is causing, and walk away from you! He's two steps away from paedophilia, and he knows it!!!!!
2006-10-15 22:52:12 · answer #3 · answered by wheeliebin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This maybe be harsh but think back has he always been there in your life. and has he done things to you Sexually
If yes you should report it to your parents or to the police. They understand these things can happen, Even though you don't feel like he has done anything to you it is because they have a good way of manipulating you to think it's all normal.
Take that on board and if that's the case talk to someone but not him. Just remember he can't hurt you anymore when he is put away,
Sorry if it sounds harsh but it could be true.
2006-10-16 00:10:01 · answer #4 · answered by TRUST 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok....How about instead of concentrating on being "in Love" with a 50 y/o Granpa, you put forth the effort in being a resposible young adult and make something good with your life....like.....GO TO COLLEGE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Instead of becoming a pregnant teen ager that's going to eat up our taxes. Sorry if it sounds too harsh......but you should be looking out for your future, if he "loves you in return" he will understand and wait for you. Just because someone is sweet and kind to you doesn't mean he "loves you" love is a very powerful word. My Question to you is.....where are your parents????? It's situations like this that drives the teen ager pregnancy issue sky high.....and who's left to pay?
2006-10-15 22:33:26 · answer #5 · answered by spanishflyin_tx 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when you love someone it is always called LOVE. in my opinion and as far as I'm concerned age have nothing to do with love. my friend is also in love with an older man and i truly hope they will end up together.
YOU should not be ashamed of your feelings, but I suggest that you wait for a little longer until you feel that he is ready to know the truth (you'll know when the time comes) and than be sincere.
You sholud also wait untill you're 18 (to cause no legal troubles)
good luck!
2006-10-15 22:34:15 · answer #6 · answered by looloo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound harsh, but it's not meant to, but I really do not think that this is a healthy relationship, he is more than old enough to be your father, and this would be viewed by most people as totally wrong, he would be looked upon as a pervert if he was to start a relationship with you. It may hurt, but I honestly do not see this working out at all, sorry.
2006-10-15 22:28:52 · answer #7 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure?
1. Calm and close your eyes. Who the first appear in your mind? If the man doesn't appear means no love.
You have father? Or your father had ...? Maybe you just thirst for father's love?
LOVE is universal and never matters age, sex, race, religion etc.
HUMAN defines love by themselves and always confuses by it.
MAKE clear that love is about caring and make one happy and safe and more.
2006-10-15 22:37:45 · answer #8 · answered by Chilang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should try and find someone closer to your age. there is a very big gap between 15 and 50. and i doubt your parents would let you get involved with a guy that is older then them. so my advice is to get a bf your age. and you are too young to know what love is.
2006-10-15 22:37:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl are u mad, felling in love with a man that old be ur father and that can take of u like a child to him.pls stop that is not to go for somebody like u felling in love with dat 50yearold man at 15,that is no love and age matter so much in this.u know wat if u want a man go for very samll boys of 2year old than u.one more thing go and face ur study well and stop felling in love with that old man.
2006-10-15 22:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by damstar2006 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋