He is a recovering addict.When he was just approaching a year of uninterrupted clean time, I bought him his dream car and now the car is gone and I know what it means.
2006-10-15 22:17:56 · 16 answers · asked by v í b o r a 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
How old is he, 17, 18? If he is in his 20 all you could do is give him a normal structured schedule environment to live under which mean he get up, eat, go to school/work come on eat, sleep, no partying just stay a normal life. It sound real boring but going out to bar and partying was made his life so mess up he need a structures in his life.
For people who come from a family who lack a “structure” in the household, it’s a problem to rebuild something that is unfamiliar to them. Structure gives a foundation to built thing like goal and object in their life.
Study his friends; People with same habit tend to gather to support each other’s habit, good or in this case very bad.
Don’t give a person money or expense gifts. It means nothing if the person did not earn it themselves. A family with moral, pride and goal weight more than gold if you wish to raise a truly happy family and there is no short cut.
Good luck
2006-10-16 02:36:03 · answer #1 · answered by Kenshin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't buy him stuff because it will take a while for him to change his whole mindset. It was a nice gesture though!
Why don't you guys go on a road trip or a holiday or travel around the world-that way you can get to know each other better and also seeing the world and having different experiences might help him with his recovery.
i don't know what kind of person he is but it would be great if he could help out with young disadvantaged kids or something that will motivate him to stay of the drugs permanently
2006-10-16 05:22:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could mean so many things, I couldn't even begin to know.
He could have wrecked it.
He could have sold it to pay bills.
He could have sold it to support his habit that he went back to.
He could have run up tickets or something, and it got impounded.
Just ask him. When it's just the two of you, ease into the topic of how he's liking his new car that you bought him. If he admits that it's gone, ask him why. Pay attention to any signs of his addiction, and see if you think he's telling the truth or not. If you think he's back on drugs, then talk to him about getting help. There is nothing you can do to force him, but the more supportative you are, the better his chances of recovery.
If you know the VIN, do a title search. You can find out if it's been sold, and even to who it's now registered to.
http://dir.yahoo.com/Business_and_Economy/Shopping_and_Services/Automotive/Buyers__Services/Used_Vehicles/
2006-10-16 05:26:47 · answer #3 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
im a recovering addict will you buy me a dream home i promise i wont sell it or swap it for anything if you dont that means your saying im dishonest(familiar) i/we need honest encouragement not lavish gifts attracting lavish people doing lavish things, let him bus it and work for it, as the sayin goes easy come easy go.Temptation is all around all the time.24/7, if you relent temptation grows if you refuse temptation will lose
2006-10-16 05:50:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like an intervention maybe needed and try to talk him into possibly going to a clinic.
2006-10-16 05:21:05 · answer #5 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
As I wrote to you your brother Jose is in our daily prayer. God will work miracle in his life. May God bless you.
2006-10-16 09:18:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't be judgemental of him. Try and recognise that addiction is extremely difficult to beat and be there for him.
2006-10-16 07:14:22 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
help him by reasurring him and if needs be take him to rehab sessions but go with him to show your support and hope for the best
2006-10-16 05:21:56 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
time for you and your family to hold an intervention and get your brother back to treatment ... if you catch him early into his relapse it might be easier for all of you.
if he wont get treatment you can have him ordered to get treatment by his doctor.
Good luck to you and your brother!
2006-10-16 05:23:00 · answer #9 · answered by Jayson V 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Confront him. And then get him some help.
2006-10-16 05:20:58 · answer #10 · answered by Tiger by the Tail 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋