Hi there, my ex boyfriend sent me this message which was meant for another girl " hey so do you still like me, why did you tell tom (his mate and her cousin) what i said to you that was between you and me" when i asked him about it, he eventually said that this girl faniced him, but that it was a harmless message. I got it at 11pm in the night when he said he was very very drunk. Was I right to dump him. He still texts me a long time later and says the only reason we ever broke up was because he wasnt ready for committment. Hes texting me alot more recently, the last couple of saturday nights he has been texting me to see if im about. We never had sex so its not like he is using me. I met up with him lst saturday night but then after a few drinks i just left the pub without saying a word to him,just couldnt face being hurt because if i did kiss him i prob wouldnt hear from him again for a while. PLease help im so confused. Am i wasting my time with him?
2006-10-15 21:55:47 · 16 answers · asked by sunny01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on. If he is in a relationship with you and cares about you he wouldn't ask another girl if she still likes him. Sounds like an ex he isnt over....and "Im not ready for committment" can mean "Im not over my ex".
2006-10-15 22:02:30 · answer #1 · answered by jaylynn_tx 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously doesn't care enough about you to at apologize to you for sending the message. Girl hes also obviously been fancing that girl too. Get over him. Find someone that won't blame their mistakes on being drunk. I've done some stupid things in my time from being drunk, but I'm man enough to live up to what I do not blame it on intoxication. If you can't be a human being while being drunk. STOP FREAKING DRINKING! Move on ! You deserve better.
2006-10-15 22:02:22 · answer #2 · answered by ~MandiNic~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that the guy has issues and until he's settled, this situation is going to keep going round and round. Find out whether its you or the girl he's after. Infact, you don't need this drama in your life. Forget about this and move on. don't respond to his texts, tell him to leave you alone and go find some other brother who will respect, cherish, understand and love you than a drunk who can't correlate between you or the other girl.
2006-10-15 22:21:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sunny. I know that pain and anguish you're feeling. Don't let him get away without telling him how you feel. You dumped him for a reason. Talk to him and tell him how you feel. If you're interested, let him know, but make sure you both know what the other one expects out of the relationship. Just don't put yourself asking "what if" in 20 years. Good luck.
2006-10-15 22:01:36 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
personaly, ive never been in the situation so i'll do the best i can:
i think u r and were wasting ur time wtih him.
if he asked that other girl if she still liked him than he probably liked/likes her.
u r wasting ur time with him unless, mayb, u still like him and is he really worth putting myself thro all this confusion?
that is the big question u need 2 answer urself
2006-10-15 22:01:46 · answer #5 · answered by Here I Stand 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont let him fool you and dont wast time with him you said that you never had sex with me once you do he wouldnt call you again because he would have got what he wanted. if it happens once it will happen again move on and let him go find someone better that will treat you with respect
2006-10-15 22:19:44 · answer #6 · answered by nick n 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He obviously likes the attention of more than one woman at one time. You caught him once, do you want to take him back and constantly wonder what he's doing? There are plenty of guys out there that can be satisfied with one woman.... go find one.
2006-10-15 22:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by Just your average guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is the same that you see, you must accept real and open your eyes for fact, after marriage you remember these problems with him and you will be very very unhappy for you marriage, there for left him now. I know it's so hard for you but don't waste your feel, don't waste your health, don't waste your time,..........
2006-10-15 22:07:38 · answer #8 · answered by maryam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Really only you can answer that. Only you can suss out the situation and his character. My advice though is dont waste your time you'll find someone else someone better.
2006-10-15 22:02:47 · answer #9 · answered by butterfly_angelmarie321 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're doing the right thing! You are letting him know, that you will not put up with being treated with disrespect! Do your thing, see other guys, make him prove to you that it is YOU that he wants. You are in control here....not him. as it should be.
2006-10-15 22:01:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋