Ok some time ago, a good friend of mine told me he liked me. He spoke to really few people and I was one of his few close friends. At first I was hesitant, cos' I wasn't sure If I liked him so I told him I wasn't sure, but I allowed myself to get closer to him to know him better. Even more complicatedly, he had this group of guy friends, whom he used to be quite close to. But eventually they got pissed off with him, cos all he could do was angst around and think about me. What's even worse is that one of them is gay and has a crush on this guy.
After some time, I realised I totally had no respect for this guy and didn't want to be with him, so I began to pull away and told him. After that both of us stop talking. Now he's a recluse and doesn't talk to anybody. While the gay guy seems to be still emotionally attached to him? But because the other guy's not gay it's impossible. Yet for diplomatic reasons the gay seems to be nice & all to me, but I have a feeling its just a facade!
2006-10-15 21:16:51 · 15 answers · asked by ballerinagirl 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
My question is, how should I get out of this mess!
2006-10-15 21:20:50 · update #1
I'd still want to be friends with all of them but i dont know what i should do
2006-10-15 21:21:49 · update #2
GUYS!! QUESTION IS IN ADDITIONAL DETAILS!
There was a character limit so I couldn't ask.
I'll restate it again.
What should I do to restore things to normal?
I don't want the guy to be a recluse.
I don't want the gay to be unhappy.
I don't want to be involved in all of this.
2006-10-15 21:25:40 · update #3
If you don't want to be with the guy then stop emotionally beating yourself up about it all. The recluse probably became emotionally attached to you because you were the first female to give him any attention. Don't feel bad abt this, he put you in this position in the first place. If you want then try and help him to work on his social skills and social confidence and to gradually introduce him to environment where he can make more friends and mix with the opposite sex, as he may be extremely self-conscious around them and lose and confidence and self-esteem he usually has when faced with a real life woman. Does he know any of your female friends? maybe if your friends don't mind you allow him over for strictly casual visits everyso often when you nf yr girls are doing things like going to the movies then he'll realise that femaes aren't scary and will become more comfortable around thema nd subsequently around other females and will lose his fierce attachment to you and might allow you two to continue your friendship as a friendship. You can't do anything abt his relationships with his old friends, that's for him and them to work out. Don't get dragged in the middle. If you feel that the gay guy is only being lipservice nice to you then still be nice and kind and warm to him, because the coldness you're getting from him might just be abt the situation and because his situation is a lot less comfortable and easy with the recluse guy after he broke from the old group (becoz of u: reason for coldness directed at u) than it was b4.
2006-10-15 21:27:36 · answer #1 · answered by mischief 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not quite sure what the question is. If you want to know if maybe their is something going on between the two men sexually. I don't think so. It is possible that they may be just friends.
Have these people done anything bad to you, that you would be putting so much thought into the situation? Think you got a little thing called paranoia.
2006-10-15 21:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by penelope 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's no longer complicated 13 isn't yet a woman she remains slightly woman who ought to be dealt with. in case you cared approximately her plenty you may do what's superb for her and get her out of that abode even with how far away that's. different sensible you will get to work out her usual after she gets overwhelmed how does that make experience to you? Get this woman some help.
2016-12-26 20:23:33 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could just be a facade, however you need to tell your friend how you feel. Especially if you still want to be friends with him. He revealed his feelings to you and its only fair for you to do the same. If the friendship is meant to be it will happen when you tell him. You're only hurting yourself and him more by not telling him how you really feel. By him shutting himself out from the world is his way of dealing with pain. Please tell him that you just want to be friends with him or aquantices with him before something seriously severe happens and it happens because of you.
2006-10-15 21:21:53 · answer #4 · answered by ~MandiNic~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dun want to be involved in this? that's easy if u really mean it. People always know how to abandon a situation when they need to,
You sound like u enjoy the drama.
2006-10-15 23:46:01 · answer #5 · answered by Beth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just a game, gay/guy who really knows what is behind. Move on
2006-10-15 21:22:21 · answer #6 · answered by Toto 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the question?
2006-10-15 21:21:11 · answer #7 · answered by Mystie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try your level best to adjust any situation/position. You should have patience as we no patience is the best healer.
2006-10-15 21:37:02 · answer #8 · answered by rana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the question?
2006-10-15 21:19:24 · answer #9 · answered by Confused 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET RID OF BOTH THE GUYS AND MOVE ON WITH LIFE...ITS BEAUTIFUL OUT THERE...REALLY
2006-10-15 21:21:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋