2006-10-15 19:41:52 · 13 answers · asked by Onjel 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When you are being used, you will be put aside when you are not needed and sometimes trashed.
When you are helping someone, your kindness will be appreciated and sometimes reciprocated.
2006-10-15 19:47:47 · answer #1 · answered by ideaquest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, a very good question. Helping someone is a natural response of a healthy person. Use health as your barometer. When helped, a healthy person feels gratitude. Does this person tell you that they are grateful? When helped, a heathly person feels like they have truly received something precious. Does this person show any signs of "wanting to make it up to you? (or) I owe ya?" When helped, a healthy person realizes just how special support from outside is. Does this person work to be on an even keel, so they are not always leaning on you, feeding off you, and generally taking your psychic energy?
Everyone needs help. Healthy people aren't users. Users don't respond like healthy people. Watch and observe, you'll know.
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2006-10-16 02:55:42 · answer #2 · answered by robabard 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel you are being used? If so, then you probably are. You may be enabling someone to use you as well. If you are in a situation where this is happening, get out of the situation. It does take courage to say NO. Even if it is a girl or guy.
Good Luck,
O'hock
2006-10-16 02:49:10 · answer #3 · answered by orcahock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your inner voice will tell you. Are you FEELING used? Then you ARE being used. The world is full of users, takers, parasites and leeches who will bleed you dry if you let them. Sometimes you can help people more - by NOT helping them..... being cruel to be kind! I am not saying that you should not help people - just be realistic about how much that help is going to impact on YOUR life.
2006-10-16 02:59:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Great question. One of my friends says never do anything for other people that they wouldn't do for themselves if they could. Never do for someone else what they won't do for you. If someone wants something and won't accept an alternative that will solve the problem they present just as well. you are being used and manipulated.
2006-10-16 02:54:42 · answer #5 · answered by Lleh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends how well you know the person. If they always ask you for stuff and never return the favour without you bothering them about it you are being used.
2006-10-16 02:44:50 · answer #6 · answered by Jacobs #23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you will be left alone, all of a sudden to explore on your own, after you did all your efforts to help someone, it's then you have been used.
2006-10-16 02:45:25 · answer #7 · answered by Allen Green 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are they giving back at all? I don't mean stuff-wise, but in gestures and supportive friendship. If you start feeling resentful then you are probably being used. And if you even have to ask, then you probably have your answer....
2006-10-16 02:48:26 · answer #8 · answered by saphire 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will know by the way the person you are helping responds to the help you are offering and how often she or he asks for that help and whether she or he can or can't do it herself
2006-10-16 02:45:30 · answer #9 · answered by ntu 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they come to expect it then you are being used. If they truely appreciate it then you are helping!
2006-10-16 02:43:06 · answer #10 · answered by slip2eternity 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋