I'm 21 and American, my bf of 2 years is 28 and Indian.
For a long time everything was perfect.We made each other so happy and he was my first priority and i was his.We spent as much time together as we could, and talked for hours every day.I would talk to his parents(who are still in India)and they were always happy that i was with him and loved him.We planned on getting married in May,when i graduate.
Then in February he went back to India for 3 weeks.He came back a changed person, and not in a good way.He wont open up to me at all about what happened there or his emotions.
Now, he lies to me all the time, spends every night at the bar and all his $ on beer and then says he cant come see me at college because he doesnt have the $. He joined dating sites, and just isnt the same.
I still love him like crazy and dont want to let him go.I miss what we had.I cant imagine life without him but he treats me so bad now.What can i do? I can't even eat or sleep anymore.Any advice??
2006-10-15 19:33:12 · 10 answers · asked by Freaked out 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is the reason he treats you bad because he knows that you love him.Don't act clingy or needy, you will lose him either way.
Give him zero response the way he is giving you.
You are young and there are plenty of fishes in the sea.If he is interested in you, he will return back himself. Just leave him the way he has left you and never show you love him and can't live without him.
Never give your weak point to him.He has known that he is your weakness that is why he is acting this way.Stop thinking about him. This is very difficult but you can do it because where there is will there is a way.
Love only when you get love in return otherwise turn distant.
2006-10-15 19:43:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Encyclopedia !! By name you are a repository of all information. It is surprising you ask this question. Is there any sport where females have beaten males ? In Tennis, Billy Jean King and Martina Navratilova have played against their male counterparts and on all occasions, the female players were defeated. If you see the Discovery Channel, you see the lioness ,singly or in packs do all the hunting but when it comes to eating its share often the male lion attacks fiercely and chases the lioness. So man or beast, the physiology and biology make the female weaker sex and even after ions women cricketers can't be a match to men.
2016-05-22 05:41:26 · answer #2 · answered by Rilla 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like that he is no more interested in u, plz dont'mind. I don't understand that in a 3 weeks how can a person be changed anywayz.
U have to talk to him very clearly abt yur relation. Tell him to talk to u. How can he escape from u like that u spend lots of time together. He spends all night in bars it clear that there is no other secound relation may be he is in some tension. May be in India when he went, his parents fixed his marriage and many other things so he don't want to go against theri parents.
For all of the solution both of u get some time have a coffe and go for a talk abt yur relation, ask question what is in your mind very clearly to him then take the decision. This problem can be solve by yourself only no one can help u.
And, plz make yourself strong. only then u can talk to him.
2006-10-15 19:50:20 · answer #3 · answered by D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dear
From the day one your bf used you as a toy. I am a designer & also doing my Msc in Psychology. I know the mind & dont waste your helth. In India the Mother & Father sentiment is such which will change the mind. In India Money is the next big chalange. The third will be the actress who are interested to get maried an Indian setiled abroad. Did you talk to thier parents??? & what is their reply??? Please forget him. Be in touch with me. If you want an outlet or a shoulder to cry i am always available
2006-10-15 19:45:04 · answer #4 · answered by CHOCK LET 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Hey there...........I sympathize with your situation. Don't loose heart. It may be a testing time for your True Love.
Try talking to his parents, as you have spoken to them in the past, try talking to his friends and find out what happened with him during his trip.
You may send a nice mail, to let him know what you are going through with such a sudden change in him. Or, if possible give him a surprise in person and talk to him.
Its better to meet in person and talk to him clearly.
Deal it with patience, if he loves you truly and if there is some problem try to solve it together. I guess, at such times being brave and confronting situations is better.
Good Luck!!!
2006-10-15 19:43:55 · answer #5 · answered by snowy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the only reason 4 his such a behaviour i feel is his parents. he must hav talked to his parents 4 his marriage with u & his parents hav refused. they must hav seen some other girl 4 him bcoz of which he started drinking. if u really love him and dont want him to be in a worse situation, which he seems to be in right now, give him ur company. dont think of wat happened in india with him. just be with him, love him, give him ur love to the fullest, dont ask him much abt the reason as he is disturbed. let him come out of it first & then talk to him abt it. right now just love him, care 4 him, spend plenty of time with him, give him surprises, tell him how much u love him, etc...
2006-10-16 00:06:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i cant exactly immagine what is there in his mind.... but i want to suggest u that.. 1st try to make contact with his perents and ask them the contact numbers of his best frendz and frendz and tell ur problem to his friends in a very pleasing way... i am shure u will find a way for ur problem........ best of luck for ur future...
i am sujay from india.. studing enggeneering...
2006-10-15 20:07:57 · answer #7 · answered by $ sujay$ 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he's not treating you right I think you should let him go.
But 1st I think you should sit him down & tell them how you feel.
& ask him how he feels.
If he doesn't change & doesn't even make an efort to chane you have to leave.
I hope this helped.
2006-10-15 19:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by No Kitty Cat for you!!! 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
hai lemme tell u one thing, indian culture is totally different from the american culture, here boys like to roam, enjoy and freak out with girls like you, but when it comes to marriage,they looke for a home seeked and a moderate and a homely girl, who suits the indian culture, dont think that i am discouraging you but this is a fact, so just forget him and carry on with your work
2006-10-16 11:47:14 · answer #9 · answered by raj 1 · 1⤊ 2⤋
hey dont diherten urself.... talk to his parents may b they can help u out of it ... n also try n make things work out n show ur bf dat u still luv him a lot n realise him dat wat he's doin is wrong!!!!!!! im n indian girl... so may b dis works ... al d best daer... hav patience...
tammanna......
2006-10-15 23:09:56 · answer #10 · answered by tammanna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋