Here is the story, I am 18 and my girlfriend has turned 17. We have been together since 4/27/05, and we were friends for a while before dating, She lost her virginity to me while she is my second and since the day we have started dating we have seen eachother everyday excluding days I was sick from school or when I went to the Dells for vacation. So in total we have missed 2 weeks of not seeing eachother at max since 4/27/05. Recently I got her a promise ring to show her I really love and care for her and she really doesn't have much money but she does little things for me that I view as big.
The issue is ever since I was younger I have wanted to do something I can look back 10 years from now and say I had an adventurous life and did something great with it, and that I mean by being a Navy SEAL...I am on my way to that dream, I just enlisted in the Navy and am leaving sometime after Jan. I love her to death but I can't pass this up, she says she will wait...But what can I expect?
2006-10-15 19:00:19 · 13 answers · asked by G.P. 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Important fact... We have always been faithful to eachother, we haven't attended a party without one another, we are actually so close our families will allow sleep-overs in the same room. We help eachother with our house chores...etc... thought those would be good facts on how close we are... Thanks
2006-10-15 19:04:50 · update #1
Ernie... I am not asking her to wait... she constintly implies that we will be together forever and I am the only one she has had and the only one she wants, at first I didn't take it serious, now I have taken it into account and want to pursue her dream of this relationship as well... As far as her dreams, I am well aware of them...she wants to help children with disabilities mainly due to her brother has down syndrome and she wants to help others like him, she has stuck with that thought since I met her... She also likes to pan out a picture of what our life will be like when I get out of the service....it may not sound appropriate to some be to me it is some what of a loving comfortable thought....even thought they are only dreams.
2006-10-15 19:15:03 · update #2
Curious I am glad you pointed some things out in your answer.... I also want to know how to deal with being away from her so long, I mean a long period of time, the longest period of consecutive days that we have been away from eachother was 4 1/2 days... I don't know how I am going to stay mentally strong with out her as well as the negative thoughts of her with another man... I am not crazy, I don't fear of hurting her or the other guy or my self in that matter, it is mainly a fear of having to start over and willing to trust again as well as losing her.
BTW we are in an interracial relationship... She is White and I am Samoan...but as far as I know that hasn't been a factor, but just thought I'd bring it up.
2006-10-15 19:20:55 · update #3
You should follow your dream. If she says she'll wait, you should trust that, but don't be surprised if she doesn't. If your love is meant to last, it will. Best of luck.
2006-10-15 19:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The distance might help both of you sort your feelings out to each other. Two things I'd like you to consider though,
1. Follow first the dream that is within your heart, and I mean your being a Navy Seal. You cannot have yourself looking back and wishing differently, do you?
2. Remember that true love can wait. If she is meant for you, you can pretty well be sure she'll be still with you when you get back.
Take care.
2006-10-15 19:08:15 · answer #2 · answered by sexy_mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is hope. If she really loves you, she will wait. If you really love her. You wont be able to wait to see her. Being in the Navy is something you will look back on and say you did something with your life, but so will having her in your life. If it doesn't work out, you know that you two had a great time together for the time you were together. She will be something you look back, regardless if she the one you are with in the future or not. You have to be real, there is a possibility of you two being together forever, and there's the other possibility. If you two do love each other, you guys will keep one another in each others hearts through time of pain. Hang in there. It is everything you can do for yourself.
Good luck.
2006-10-15 19:07:39 · answer #3 · answered by bambam4289 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you really love her huh?
but joing the navy seal has been your dream,even before she came along.
its sounds like she loves you,for her to even give you her virginity.(its a big deal).
you have to learn how to spend time apart,two weeks is nothing compared to how long you are going to be in the navy.
am sure you are afraid that some other guy will come along.
i cant say what you can expect.but if you trust that she will wait, then believe her.write her letters,tell her how much you miss her and love her.
Congratulations by the way..
takecare:)
2006-10-15 19:15:41 · answer #4 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love is often a possibility. You repeated which you do no longer think of you're waiting for a extreme relationship so it style of feels that your ideas is made up. in simple terms be trouble-free along with her and tell her the kind you sense. because of fact the time passes, you on no account understand what can take place.
2016-10-19 11:39:45 · answer #5 · answered by wach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should follow your dream. I have people in my family that have joined the military and gone to Iraq. There girlfriends waited for them to come home. One couple has even gotten married since then. If she says she will wait then she wants you to follow your dream too. She will wait. You wont be gone long. If you love her then you need to trust her and what she tells you. I think she will wait.
I will Pray for you and your family while you are gone.
2006-10-15 19:06:14 · answer #6 · answered by Gail H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well she is only seventeen so you can't really expect her to wait like that. If it is meant to be, everything will work out to be what it should. But remember, she has a lot of dreams too that she will want to do. Seeing as you describe, the two of you sound extremely serious. We women dwell on our firsts so to speak....but you can't expect her to wait. If she says she will ....thats wonderful...but if something happens ...you can't get mad about it.
2006-10-15 19:04:38 · answer #7 · answered by amandaped25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pop the question and SEAL the deal, a little humor there but I am serious, you might be gone on training and missions but she will be at home waiting for you when you come home.
2006-10-15 19:10:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is 17! Just go your different ways and wish her well. How dare you ask her to wait for you. She is still a child. She can't possibly have a clue what life has to offer and to ask her to close herself off to it is extremely selfish and not too bright. Tell her thanks for the memories and let her go. Sheesh!
2006-10-15 19:09:58 · answer #9 · answered by OU812 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make sure she knows that you still love her while your gone by sending letters and doing cheesy thoughtful stuff for her...you guys are both young but if she really loves you and you show her that you love her in return she'll wait.
2006-10-15 19:06:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋