so i have a friend who i asked out a year ago and she said no. she said and i quote "im not interested in us like that" however i did ask her 5 days after her bf broke up with her. ( i know it sounds bad but i had to do it) since then we hang out even more. we go to movies, dinner, and she even took me on a picnic. i wanna know if i should ask again or where i go from here. we are both in college but theyre an hour apart. im not sure if she even wants a bf right now cuz shes in college so how do i handle that situation? please help
2006-10-15 18:59:06 · 4 answers · asked by cronaldo17 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
5 days ago of break up is a very dangerous period for a guy or a girl. He or she tends to be very vulnerable w/ out thinking intllectually.You might just be a cover up of lost relationship , or just a shoulder to cry on, and afterwards if she moved on already she would drop you like a hot potato. be cautious!
2006-10-15 19:08:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did she have the bf when you asked her the first time? If so, maybe that is why she said she wasn't interested in a relationship with you just then.
If she just broke up with her bf recently, you really don't want to be the 'rebound guy'. Those never work out, and you sound like you really want it to work out. If the two of you are hanging out more because she doesn't have a bf, bask in that for a bit. Don't be in a rush, sweetie. If she's the kind of chick that feels 'deeply', give her some time to get over the last guy. When she's over him and ready to start the dating scene again, then ask her.
If you really think about it, you've already been on a number of dates; dinner, movies, picnics ~~~ now is a time of healing for her... like visiting a hospital until you're 'all better'. Another relationship is the last thing on her mind, especially when the thought of how most relationships end up is still fresh and painful in her mind. Right now she's looking for comfort and understanding, and apparently, you're it. Don't abuse it, just let it be known that if she needs to 'vent' or have a shoulder, you'll be there. Later you can plant the seed of 'would you consider me?' in her head. I think, since she wants you around most, you'll be able to notice when she's ready for that consideration.
What was her reply when you asked her out again five days after she broke up with her last bf????
2006-10-16 02:19:18 · answer #2 · answered by Beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably helped her get over her boyfriend, and I'm sure she likes you, but she's already made it clear that her interest goes no further. Date her, if you must, but don't expect her feeling to change towards you.
2006-10-16 02:13:19 · answer #3 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Females change their minds more than you do your undies she is maturing i can see that from what you say definately ask her out again even for just friendship if it develops to love BONUS
goodluck.
2006-10-16 02:07:44 · answer #4 · answered by john h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋