My partner is very boring in bed.How do I tell him?I feel like I do all the work.Help.
2006-10-15 18:54:28 · 15 answers · asked by shugabam! 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hey Tom my- you dont have a girl friend, right? Idiot.
2006-10-15 18:58:28 · update #1
run the show. instead of him getting to you, you get to him.
put on some music, strip dance and get on top of him and get kinky.
2006-10-15 20:04:05 · answer #1 · answered by CAMELS 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may or may not have a problem here. The best way to improve your sex life is through communication. Not everyone has the ability to openly talk about sex, even if it's with their partner. You will be taking the first step in finding out what kind of partner you have by bringing it up. Just try to talk with him about it. Don't be mean or malicious when you do, and if he is mature enough, he will listen. Suggest things that you want to try, whether it be positions, toys, or anything else you might like. If he becomes angry or hurt, try to comfort him and coax him into thinking the way you do. Sex is one of the biggest and best parts of a relationship and if you're not happy, you have to take action. You will never know unless you try.
2006-10-16 02:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by Michael B 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow - that's tricky. Try the direct approach. It may be that he's wanted more kink all along but assumes you wouldn't go for it and so he plays more of a good boy. The risk is that it could scare him if you appetite is actually more wild than his. And then you might need to work out some compromises - perhaps with a therapist.
2006-10-16 02:00:57 · answer #3 · answered by HomeSweetSiliconValley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get a copy of the "Kama Sutra" or some other sex manual and go through it together; try different things that look good to the both of you. BTW, don't tell him it's because he's boring, just tell him you'd like to try some new stuff.
2006-10-16 02:01:13 · answer #4 · answered by remmymarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how kinky are we talking about? If it's something that you'd think he'd be ok with then you take the initiative to try it then you'll know. Also try having more communication with each other, that should also help.
2006-10-16 02:02:26 · answer #5 · answered by JEJEMMY♥♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just start a few things to spice it up.Go slow.If he isn't interested at all you will find out in a hurry.I guess it depends on what you and him describe as kinky.Find a happy medium.
2006-10-16 01:56:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sex is a 2way activity....you give and you get. You need to tell your partner what exactly you want him to do....and that in fact you want him to do something! Could be that he really doesnt know what to do, or how to do what he wants to do.
2006-10-16 02:00:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work him in to it slowly. You'll have to take the lead and just surprise him with some things, but make sure to do it slowly.
2006-10-16 01:57:19 · answer #8 · answered by Sean P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him you are bored with him and to step it up, that you want to try new kinky stuff to spice thing up. start with mild things if you get into kinky things with him and he's as boring as i imagine from what you said
2006-10-16 01:59:11 · answer #9 · answered by ParadoxZero 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just do it. Pull out the ropes, whips, and toys and go to town. I am sure he will join in.
2006-10-16 01:57:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋