Women only pls. Why do you want to be married one day?

Question

We have all heard that men fear commitment but why don't women?

For all the complaining I hear on here, and the 50% divorce rate, seems women in a relationship still push for and still want to be married. No bible preaching pls. I want to hear what you have to say and feel about it.

Answer 1

Lately, marriage has become just another accessory, like a purse or a watch. People wear the one they want until it goes out of style, and then they toss it like it never meant anything. If people actually found love before marrying, and didn't just do it for fun, the divorce rate would be lower. I got married because I found someone I loved, who loved me, and whom I knew I could spend the rest of my life with. It sounds cheesy, but I love him so much more every day I'm with him. Some days we fight, but I can't imagine my life without him. He is the reason I wanted to get married.

Answer 2

I've been married for 17 years and made a commitment with my husband.

I won't preach at you, but I do believe in the fact that when I said my vows, they were more than just cute and sweet things to say. They were promises I made.

As far as why I wanted to be married, I wanted that lifetime partner and a father to raise my future children with. If I simply lived with a man, there is no real commitment. Sure there can be a verbal one, but it's not the same level of a commitment you get when you say those promises in front of a group of people, go through the effort of getting a license and taking the courses with the minister. Just living together, there is always that option that "if things don't work out, we can always drop the relationship" That may be fine for some people, but I like the security of knowing that if I'm having a bad day or say something wrong (or vice versa) we are committed to one another and will work things out. We don't believe in divorce (unless its for safety reasons such as abuse) so we are in this for the long haul.

Answer 3

Okie dokie. No bible pushin' or complaints (well, maybe one in relation to your "no fear" comment)

Women want to get married for one main reason: sense of emotional stability. When a man gets down on that knee and then says "I do" shortly down the road, it shows a girl that he really loves her and wants more than to share a bed. It tells her that he ready to give up his "player" days and take one woman whom he loves incredibly to be his one and only star in the universe to hold any meaning.
And then there is the common, but not as heavy felt: baby factory. Women have the maternal instinct to have kids, and sometimes, lots of 'em! But because of society's norms and the added "forever loved" thing, women feel that they have to settle down to have the aforementioned offspring.
Other reasons include: money, constant sex, and bastard children that due to religious families friends and countries require the parents to wed.

And about the fear of commitment thing, many women have that fear. It's just less noticed because, stereotypically, men are the jerks who want as much pussy as they can get. I personally have a two sided problem with it. I have this incessant need to be close to some one and feel commitment, but at the same time, if I get too close or things become too routine, I bolt.

Answer 4

Women too are fearful of commitment - i am an example. But i got over it and am starting a family soon. I guess by getting married you both confirm your commitment to each other and know that it will be "till death do us part"... Only marry when you are sure he/she is the one you really wanna spend the rest of your life with.. Not becos all the ladies at your age are getting married and most important - never push your partner to get married. It should be something mutual. I stayed with my husband, then boyfriend, for a year before we both agreed that we really can tolerate each other's antics and finally we got married!

Answer 5

Well i guess that the women that push their partner into marriage are just scared that if they leave the relationship for to long their partner might leave them. Everyone has that fear about being alone, men dont worry that much but women are terrified. So they push and push to try ensure that they wont be alone but i guess that they are so busy planing their life that they dont see that they are actually pushing the person away and not closer.

And personally the idea of me getting married makes me laugh.....never going to happen!!

Good luck with the answers!!

Answer 6

I dont know.
women fear commitment too, esp. women that have something to do with thier lives other than have kids and settle down.
A man...named heychris...said it this way and I love the way he put it.
I actually like it,
http://askheychris.livejournal.com/

it's october 11

i want to be famous one day, and I want to do alot with my life, having kids and getting married would slow that down and I feel eventually the union would fall apart. Cant really have a marriage where both members are not around and a man with a famous woman, can you?

Answer 7

My reason for wanting to marry my boyfriend is that I love him I can imagine us bieng together forever and I also feel he would make a great father to any future children we may have. I am not in blind love though we do dissagree but the amazing thing about the relationship is our ability to either compromise or simply agree to disagree, like adults. I feel we are not perfect but we are as close to perfect as I would want to be.

Answer 8

I personally want to be in a committed, monogamous relationship. I think that whatever history did to convince us that marriage is what 2 people do to solidify this, it is driven deep into a woman's psyche. Marriage to me is what you will/have/did do when you meet the person that: you have passion for; love to death; don't want anyone else to ever have; think will be a great father; will be there and love you when your old; and can't imagine him not in your life, in your bed, or by your side.
P.S. I have not met his person, but am truly optimistic.

Answer 9

I really think the commitment of marriage is a joke these days. I have no desire to be married any time soon. Religious or otherwise, no one seems to respect the lawful/religious commitment to one another.

Answer 10

I don't think all women do. Women have some commitment problems also. But on the general scheme of things women seem to act as if marriage is on the do or die list. Personally, I think of marriage as sharing your life with someone. You know you have friends to shop with. Friends to talk to. Friends to travel with. Marriage to me is the complete sharing of your entire life. All of the joys and pains of life, the good and the bad. Just having someone, not to complete you or even to validate you. But, just to share life with.