My parent's and I go round and round about whether she needs to wear underwear everyday. I don't discourage it, but sometimes she'll get dressed in a hurry and forget to put them on. Unless she's wearing a skirt or dress, I'm okay with her going commando once in a while. Is this really so horrific? Please tell me if I'm being negligent, or if my parent's are just old-fashioned. And is there an age limit within which I should start demanding she wear underwear everyday?
2006-10-15 18:45:22 · 20 answers · asked by Seana J 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Really, I don't see the big deal about forgetting her panties every now and then. She's 4 yrs old, it happens. I know some grown women who forget...lol. Just try to remind her, or lay them out for her. Practicing good hygiene now will help in the future. But remember, demanding may back fire on you. Her favorite characters on her panties might be an incentive, make it fun:)
But, don't worry, she'll grow out of this stage......
Good Luck
2006-10-16 03:18:45 · answer #1 · answered by patty m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really don't see it as a big deal. Little kids forget things. It happens. Maybe if you take her out and let her pick out fancy undies with her favorite characters or colors it'll get her to look forward to wearing them. Kids never forget things their excited about! Otherwise, I'd just make sure she remembers when she's going to see your parents since it bothers them so much.
P.S. The thing with clean undies in an accident-like George Carlin said, it doesn't matter. You see a truck comin' at you,
first you say it, then you do it! So much for clean undies!
2006-10-15 19:04:51 · answer #2 · answered by Chocoholic 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you are not a negligent parent . But she should wear her undies . Just a thought , What if she was out side playing with friends and snagged her pants and ripped them right across her bottom would you want her to have her undies on in this situation ?
2006-10-16 02:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by Butterfly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say yes, especially if she is going to enter kindergarten, as they will require it, so get her use to it now. Also, underwear is an important piece of clothing as it is made with an absorbent area in the genital area in case of discharge. It will also prevent abrasions there as well. I suggest you help her get dressed in the morning to reinforce the habit. When she is much older, she can decide if she wants to "go commando", as some people do.
2006-10-15 19:01:49 · answer #4 · answered by Shadowtwinchaos 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Firstly, let me say I'm one of those old fashioned ones. ;)
Secondly, aside from my old fashioned thinking...4 year olds still have accidents in their clothing. Undies would help catch it and keep it from staining her pants.
But, if she's wearing pants and not flashing people, I'd say it's not that horrible. Yes, it's the way we've all raised to think of as "proper" ... yes, it adds a layer of "protection" as other people have said ... but it's truly not necessary, as most women that go without can testify to. She's your daughter and as long as you're not neglecting her health or welfare, then by all means, let her go commando.
2006-10-15 18:56:13 · answer #5 · answered by schaianne 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being modest and teaching proper habits before she starts school....remember that old saying always leave home with clean undies you never know if you'll be in an accident. And you being the parent shouldnt you be the one calling the shots not your four year old?
2006-10-15 18:55:14 · answer #6 · answered by Cherry_Blossom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have a problem with it. Maybe you could try laying out her clothes the night before, undies included, to help her get into the habit of wearing them. Sometimes pants are sort of scratchy, I wouldn't want my jazz irritated by that.
2006-10-15 18:49:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she does......she needs to get use to the idea that she needs to wear underwear if you let her do this now then later on she is going to think that you will just let her do whatever she wants...I personally help my son get dressed
2006-10-15 18:50:24 · answer #8 · answered by Jammie J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that if we want to train our children to be modest. we need to start at a young age. for girls, yes i would prefer that they wear undies when they go out even in pants. becuse sometimes it can be a little uncomfortable for girls not to. but in all case, she is four, just ask her whether she likes it, althought i think its best that she wears it all the time. its like a extra layer of protection though
2006-10-15 18:49:31 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would consider making sure she wears them,there are such horrific stories around to frighten me into making sure she would.
If she was much older,i am sure you would consider ensuring that she does.
A habit is hard to break,and if she can get into the habit of wearing them now,the better.
Be safe
2006-10-15 23:29:03 · answer #10 · answered by asmoothrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋