I went throught my first breakup and I'm 30 (I know...I'm a late bloomer.). I'm not handling it very well. I knew him for 2 years and I thought he really cared for me. I feel like every kind word he ever said was a lie now. In the end he was just "not into it" and he was a rude jerk at the end, too. Hurtful and very insensitive. Now I'm left with the feeling that nothing (an no one) is good in this world. Any positive outlook that I might have had about people and relationships is gone and that frightens me. How do I get that back? I am so terribly scarred, I think... I feel that this is a horrible world we live in. :-(
2006-10-15 18:31:07 · 7 answers · asked by Sophie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I felt, in a weird way, that I was gonna be with him forever... even though he was FAR from perfect. I overlooked a lot of bad behavior. I have this horrible feeling that he was my last chance...that I will now be alone forever....
2006-10-15 18:33:06 · update #1
First off, consider the source. If he was that Jeckyl and Hyde ...it's definately him and not you. This will be a distant memory one day. Just remember, this too shall pass. You were a person before him and you are a person after him. Rely on yourself and don't suspect that everyone's a jerk, just know they are capable of it. So sorry..
2006-10-15 18:35:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was so there! And every break-up gets easier. You learn from them.
You said that he was "far from perfect" and " a rude jerk"..so you think you were better with him? than without? No way!
It sucks that you had your first heart break at 30- trust any age doesnt make it hurt less..but at least at 30 your mature enough to know...its not the end of the world. Why would you want someone who "wasnt that into it"....you want a guy who cant imagine being without you!
I suggest joining a MAtch.com or chemistry.com dating site...it will get you back into the dating scene. And you experience many dates. And realize there a MANY men out there to have 1 date, 2 dates or even 40 dates with.
WOMAN UP..go to Victoria Secrets and get a sexy bra and thong and wear it on your next date!
Good luck!
2006-10-16 01:44:17 · answer #2 · answered by KA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will be ok. I dated a boy for 3 years and we broke up i was in love with him he was my first love. But i found a new boy i dated others before him but when i finally got to the man i am currently married to i did not like him at first but we went on couple of dates and we just hit off and we got married after 6yrs of dating and I been married to him for 5years now and we are happy. So i would not fret about the first break up you will find someon that is right for you in the right time. Not ever word was a lie im sure he meant ever word he said at the time. I know it hurts right now but you will get better i it does take time just go out with friends and have fun dont worry too much about a relatioship dont rush into things to fast and when you are not looking he will come.
Good luck hope you feel better soon.
2006-10-16 01:38:11 · answer #3 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It hurts when you gotta to break up ,but think of it this way theres a guy at ever bus stop and ever corner. Forget about the guy he a looser and you can do better . Don't look back and move on and if you want try to find someone new. Theres someone out there for you . Go chill with your friends
2006-10-16 01:38:08 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a horrible world but sumtimes there are Good guys out there... u need to think positivly... this jerk hurt u big time but sumwhere out there is a guy that wont hurt u... he isnt worth it and the one who is wouldnt make u cry... its gunna take a long time... but just get out there and look 4 that one fabulous guy who is going to love u 4 u and love u 4ever =) Good luck
2006-10-16 01:34:45 · answer #5 · answered by becstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will get over it.It takes time.Maybe you were a little obsessed.Sounds like he wasn't the best for you during the relationship.All men aren't like that.Move on.Another man will help you forget.
2006-10-16 01:38:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'll be okay. time heals
2006-10-16 01:34:53 · answer #7 · answered by ! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋