My 4 year old is being bullied!?

Question

My 4 year old is being bullied at school and home by our neighbors son. We tried talking to the parents about it and all they did was blow up on us and start cursing my fiance out in front of my child. (which scared him half to death) We've even tried talking to the school about it and all the teacher says is that we need to teach him "empowering words". We have tried everything...even to the point of telling our son to push him back and tell him to STOP IT! That just makes th kid even more angry and his parents aren't doing anything to stop him. They just sat there and laughed the other day as their son and a nother child started punching my son. Only after I started to come near the kids did they get up and do something. Does anyone have any ideas on how to make this stop or what we can do to help our son?

Answer 1

Four years old is kinda young for this, but it seems as if you have no choice.......teach your son to fight back! If he feels bullied and defeated at such a young age it could effect him later in life; on the contrary, if he is able to overcome his bullier, the he will be effected in a good way.
I have five children, and this is what I had to teach my first boy....
Here is a few tips....The first thing to teach him is avoidance, stay out of the fight if possible(you've already done this). Second thing....STRIKE FIRST, and hard. When kids so young fight, it's usually weak hits.....teach your son how to punch through an object....for example....if he focuses on an object to hit, tell him to pretend he is punching three feet behind the object and to punch as hard as he can, therefor when he makes contact with the object it is with a much stronger force, sure to make the other kid realize who's the strongest on the block! Good Luck

Answer 2

If you witnessed your child being assaulted and so did the attackers parents, call the police and press charges. I would also file suit against them. As far as the school is concerned, take it to the principal or better yet, superintendent. Tell them what the teacher said and how "helpful" that was. My son had problems being bullied and the school and bus company both had very strict policies. They did as much as they could to put an end to it. If the school doesn't provide your child with a safe learning environment, see if you can press charges there and then sue them too. These kids are horrors because their parents are horrors. I'm sorry you have to go through this. My son is in karate now and it's done wonders for his confidence and self image. The best part is, I'd like to see those little... dirty words.... try to take his lunch money now! I truly hope you're able to put an end to this. Best of luck to you all.

Answer 3

Police and school governors,they are the ones to sort these things out,as you Will only get flack off the bullies parents that does no good for your child,especially seeing you and them fighting.
Some parents think it is right that their kids to bully,and some don`t care,as long as it don`t involve their lives.
Because bullies exist,they allow their kids to do it,before they get bullied.
It is totally wrong,and if you threaten school that you wil be contacting the governors,they will soon step into line and sort it,as well as the parents of the child when police knock at their door and make them bother to deal with it.
You could move of-course,but there is no saying that they wont get bullied where ever you go.
We have moved for several reasons in the past as-well as bullying,and it seems as if,some kids have got that way or look about them,which bully's are attracted too.

Answer 4

Oh my gosh! You should tell the teacher in an assertive manner that AJ must be talked to the next time this happens! If AJ still does not get punished go directly to the principal and in a tactful but assertive manner demand that the situation be dealt with. If this doesn't work, file a formal, strongly-worded complaint with the school board, but while your waiting for it to be processed call the police! If this continues bring the police in. While AJ's small and not likely to cause any harm, this could becom even more dangerous as she matures. On second thought, bring in the police the second the school decides to take a course of inaction! Every child has the right to go to school without the perpetual threat of physical harassment! Meanwhile allow your daughter to stay home from school for a few days while you contact the authorities. Try to find some books wich involve admirable characters dealing with hostility/oppression. I'd reccomend James and the Giant Peach. That's an amazing book! Hope this helps!

Answer 5

Heres what you got to do is I dont wanna say this because I dont wanna say fighting is this answer . I know your sons only four, but it wouldnt hurt at a young age , to teach your son how to protect himself . Its the only way the other kids will stop bullying him. I know from hearing what you said that the parents could careless what you or your husband have to say, these people are the type that never care about anyone ,but themeself. I was bullied in school and believe me words , dont work. Some needs to stand up to them. There parents figured you and your family are weak and that they can walk over you . Your family has to be assertive . Fighting doesnt solve every problem in life. Your families has to be strong . It sounds like the parents themselves are bulies . Theres always gonna be bullies no matter what. These ideas are just my opinion maybe some else has some better ideas

Answer 6

i had this same problem with my little brother.
Teachers did nothing parents did nothing thats when you take things into your own hands. I would go as far as enrolling your son in karate lessons so he knows some sort of defense. I tought my bro some tips on how to bring a bully to his knees but as we all know violence is not the answer i might suggest that you talke to the principle again and keep your child seperated at all times from the bully. Also have one of the teachers keep a eye on your son and make sure he is not getting bullied thats what yard duties are for does the school he is going to have any?

Answer 7

What a mess- the parents are bullies too!! and they think it is so cute- wait until there son gets older and kills someone!!! then is won't be so cute in their sick minds!! can you press charges against a child for assault and battery and make the parents responsible for teaching him to act that way????? Moving is a big deal- they are total s-holes- and watch 2 gang up on your son- they are demented!! would that be contribution to the delinquency of a child???? would child services step in??/ did the monster have siblings??? does he beat them up??? talk to the child abuse hot line and see what they say-how about self defense classes your 4year old and maybe the rest of the family- that family is wacko!! moving is still a thought-or changing schools-D

Answer 8

When it comes to preschools, money talks. Threaten to pull him and your tuition out of that school. Go to the owner/director. Let them know that you will not stand for your child be bullied while the teacher stands idly by. As for the neighbors, quit inviting them and their children over and do not allow your child to play with them. I had a problem with a child bullying my son at school, he is four as well. I called the teacher at home and she was very helpful. There have not been any problems since.

Answer 9

If the parents and teachers arent stopping the bullies its up to you,When another child is bullying yours go up to them and very sternly tell them to stop that and what they are doing is wrong.Maybe even get the father or another tough looking male to do it. Also maybe enrol your child in a martial arts group not only does it teach them self defence it also teachers confidence,so your boy wont look like a easy target. Good luck.

Answer 10

call the police. not kidding. if their child touches your son make an assualt complaint everytime. if the parents curse at you, have them charged with harassment or menacing. If it happens in school, get the administrators involved. Make it as big a deal and get as many people involved as you can. If the normal channels don't work, its really your only option. You should teach your son to defend himself as well, but as he is only 4 years old, he's not really capable of doing much for himself right now.