how do i get rid of my moms boyfriend?

Question

my moms boyfriend is a @$$hole. he is a bum because he has lived with us for 3 years and hasent had a job since he moved in. he makes my mom pay for every thing and lays around all day. we have chased him out once but he came back 1 month later. i dont want to kill him i just want a good prank or suggestion to get him out. dont tell me there is nothing to do because i know there is a way

Answer 1

do you want to seek help from authorities? since you guys have already chased him out and he still come back, he can be consider as a stalker...the police will do something about it..then again, if you go to the police, you still have to beware of this @$$hole of seeking revenge back to you, just be careful!

you cant really "leave" such a nuisance, he won't "bear" to leave your family, he has already got used to the "luxury" you have given to him these 3 years (should have try kick him out on the first year) Think moving away might be good to settle it once and for all

Answer 2

That's horrible! Ia m sorry that you are going through that :>( But you cannot control what your mother does nor should you try to get rid of someone in her life when that is not your decision to make. A prank might make him mad enough to harm you and I don't want that to happen to you. He might also sue you or you may end up hurting him far worse than you intended. I know it sucks but she is the adult and you are not. One day it will be the same for you (you will have a child etc.). You should speak to a therapist about this problem as it is complex. I don't want to see you miserable but good communication with your Mom is essential because SHE is the one that is ultimately responsible for him being there sorry to have to say. Have you ever sat down and tried to feed her your concerns useing "I" statements? Here is an example of useing "I" statements (and I also mixed in some good common sense) "Mom I am concerned about your boyfriend. I know you are the adult but, I wish you would take a look at your relationship with this man and see if it is really worth it. I feel as though he is this and that and maybe not right for you. It is hurting ME to see you with this man. Mom I love you and for your sake and mine I hope you will think about it." Here is an example of NOT useing "I" statements, "Mom! Your boyfriend sucks! He's this and that and he just creeps me the hell out! You are going down the wrong road with this loser and you don't really love and or like I am sure. (Your Mom retorts and you say....) Oh really? Well screw you Mom, I hate you." You see the first example is a better approach because when faced by your love and genuine concern WITHOUT (this very important) your JUDGEMNETS your Mom will have no need to DEFEND herself and thus end up staying with this man as if to just prove that the guy is ok. You see, when you offend someone's judgement you are offending them at such a fundamental level and this usually results in the person doing more of the behavior that you hope that they won't do anymore. In fact you can almost bet that if I told you that you don't dress very cool, you would be hurt and defend yourself by continueing to dress the same way because your pride has been hurt.
Hopefully this helps, good luck and peace, Matt

Answer 3

There is not a lot you can do if your Mom won't kick him out. It is up to her to get rid of him. I know it is hard for you to be around him cause he is such a creep, but until Mom does it there is not a darn thing you can do about it. You might try taking your Mom aside for a private talk with her to tell her how you feel about him. Tell her if he stays you want to go live with your Dad or another relative if that is possible.. Maybe that will be enough to make her think about not having this bum around.
If that doesn't sound good to you, just start being a pain in the *** to him. Not to your Mom though, cause she has enough to worry about as it is. Be sweet as pie to her.
I hope it works out for you, honey. Good luck

Answer 4

Sorry Grace, but you know that you won't be able to get rid of him by some lame prank. It's your mom's BF, & she's the one that has to decide when it's over with this loser, & that is your key to his exit. When you say "We chased him out once" do you mean you & your mom, or you & your siblings?
If you have other brothers & sisters living there with you, then you guy's have to organise a united front & confront your mom about the unhealthy influence this bum brings into your home.
Tell her that you know that she can do better than him, & how sad you are that she puts his needs before the needs of her own children.
I hope she listens to you.

Answer 5

Well, you could try reading the book "The Wish List", by Eoin Colfer. In the book, Meg (the character) has a step-dad who is a fat slob and never does anything around the house. But when he goes outside, he's a gentlemen. She puts a hidden camera around the house, destroys his TV and records him going berserk, then she shows the video to all his co-workers.

You can try signing up for an online dating site, using his name, birthdate etc. using a fake e-mail that looks like his - or use HIS email. Or maybe sign up for a porno site using his credit card and details ;) and leave it open for your mom to see.

Answer 6

What about getting other family members involved. I have a 14 year old daughter & if she told me she didn't like someone I was seeing they would be gone. I can think of a lot of things but if I told you I think I would get in trouble with yahoo. I'm not that old & my mom dated a guy that I hated when I was young so I feel for you & lets just say I made his life a living hell

Answer 7

Sadly, you cannot. It's too bad your mom let's this bum live with her and her underaged children. She's certainly setting a bad example for you kids.

Be sure when you are grown and out of the house, that you don't settle for this type of bum. Hold out for someone who will treat you right.

Answer 8

YOU cant get rid of him. SHE needs to do that. It's not that difficult. She probably doesnt want to get rid of him. If that's the case, then I guess you'll need to move out yourself.
So I'd say you need to have a heart to heart with your mom. Then you both merely toss his stuff out, and change the locks.

Answer 9

their is a way to get rid of him but sweetheart but your mother has to do that its her lazy as boyfriend she is in love she cannot see the forest from the trees hes lazy he ain gon get a job because he knows she is going to support him so your mother has to be the one to let him go its her problem she has to decide whos important her man or her family good luck

Answer 10

the only thing you can do is reason with mom and convince her shes being used. maybe mom needs to stop buying him things and stop feedin him....maybe then he will be forced to grow up. good luck