is it normal to only have had a few girlfriends bythe time your 16 and none of them being serious relationships. I can say I've had only 1 for about 2 weeks and that's pretty much it. I'm not gay or anything... but i just don't get girlfriends. At times, this hurts my self esteem and i envy people. Tips/Comments/Suggestions?
2006-10-15 18:11:02 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't get lost looking at your destination. Enjoy the journey and you might pick up a few pointers and learn a few things. Don't sweat it.
2006-10-15 18:18:07 · answer #1 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really doesn't matter. I got my first boyfriend when I was fifteen, and I'm still with him. Don't just date girls because you want to brag about how many girls you've been with... date girls because you really truly love them and they love you back. Trust me, waiting around for your soulmate is a good thing... don't worry that you two haven't found eachother yet. Don't envy people... because jealousy always leads to disaster. And, I know it's hard on your self-esteem to feel like you're the only guy without a girlfriend. But, think about this... the guys who DO have girlfriends all the time usually don't have long lasting relationships. So, in the longrun, you'll be a luckier person.
2006-10-15 18:22:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't compare yourself to other people, because you'll lose every time. It seems to me there's way too much pressure to be romantically involved during your teens. You're feeling peer pressure, and in turn pressuring yourself, a double whammy. Relax, hang out with friends who are not looking to be involved with someone all the time. You sound quite normal to me. You're going to have more girlfriends in the future as you develop into adulthood. Take the pressure off yourself, stop comparing, relax, and it will come when it's ready. The worst thing in the world is to try and force something that's not ready to happen.
2006-10-15 18:28:04 · answer #3 · answered by Chatelaine 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're only 16 than you have plenty of time to have girlfriends. dont feel bad that you havent had any long term ones yet... you've got time. maybe having a few short term relationships is better than one long terms on at this point. it will give you a chance to experiment and see what particular things you like in different girls. dont tie yourself down so soon. have fun right now, and dont worry so much about serious relationships.
2006-10-15 18:15:56 · answer #4 · answered by babydoll 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it doesn't really matter you just haven't found the right person I'm 16 and have been with the same girl for a little over a year now and is the only girlfriend i have ever had but i have friends like you that have never had a girlfriend for more than two weeks
2006-10-19 10:46:16 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its perfectly normal. Every person has there own unique experiences and their own way of experiencing it. Don't feel forced to do anything, especially rushing into sex, i think the best way is to just let things happen. Of course happen at your own discretion. If you see a girl you wanna ask out, go ahead and ask her out. You don't need to have a girl friend to boost your self esteem. Go out and talk to girls, have fun. It's all about confidence, as long as you believe in yourself it doesn't matter what anyone else says or thinks. you will exude that persona and it will reflect on other people.
2006-10-15 18:17:50 · answer #6 · answered by PhanCsn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's completely normal. Most people don't really have serious relationships at all until later on in their life. You're young; date around, enjoy it, test the waters, find out what you like! You have plenty of time to get settled later. Some people don't even like dating because they think it's a waste of time, so maybe you can wait around for one person whom you see in your future.
2006-10-15 18:17:09 · answer #7 · answered by Dumblydore 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everybodys different. i dont think thats weird at all. im a bit like that, its just easier to be friends with them. envying people is totally normal. heres a good reall life example:
two of my friends, both of them 14.
one of them has had so many boyfriends i dont even know how many. shes had her first kiss, and guys endlessly like her.
my other friend is even nicer and funnier than the first, but has only had 1 boyfriend (not serious). shes just friends with all guys.
dont worry about it, since when you DO get a girl you love, itll be worth it.
2006-10-15 18:18:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
HEY!!! Its ok...you'll find the right one...you will learn along the way different ways to have the best relationship. You have to reall ylike the person...but you wont know for monthes...and you have to want that person...and you have to really do alot of things for them and show them that you really really care. All this just starts to happen because you want to and you really like the person....you gotta take risks! You will get it right some day...good lucK!!!
2006-10-15 18:25:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i only had one serious gf in high school when i was 18, now 24, and went all the until last month before i got my current gf. its normal. enjoy the single life, once you get a gf you'll know what that means.
2006-10-15 18:14:15 · answer #10 · answered by stan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋