Abusive parents....?

Question

I am 18 and my parents love to drink...I have been abused since I was born and even before that my mom tried to have an abortion when she found out I was a boy...she even tells me now that I was a mistake and that she wanted a girl....I am abused physically mentally and verbally by my two sisters and my parents...every day I am left with bruises and cutts...but last time I went to the police my parents convinced them that I did those to myself that they were self inflicted them...I have often thought about suicide...following in the stes of some of my other froiends...I have a job but all the mony is directly deposited into an account my parents have control over...I just do not know what to do anymore....I feel I have run out of options...

Answer 1

You gotta be strong.Try to study hard and go to university .Someday you will be somebody important and you don't need them anymore.If possible, try to contact a social worker or someone who can help you with this situation.Do you have any other relatives? like an uncle or an aunt who can help you ? I know it is very difficult but you will pass it . Future is better for you .Don't give up hope. You are so young and you have lots of energy.Don't waste your energy.Study hard, work hard and try to find a solution .Don't be ashamed to ask for help.somebody is ready to help you .I am sure there are good people out there who will help you. You just should not give up now.

Answer 2

Go to your boss, and have the automatic draft stopped. Tell them you will pick up your check from now on. Take the money and pack your stuff and go. Do you have a family member you can stay with till you can find some where of your own? If not a family member how about a friend, does he have a couch you could crash on till you get your plans together.

Does your town have a YMCA? You could go there, and they can give you a bed, and help you get on your feet. There has got to be some place that you can go. If you can't think of any place, then start stashing away money. Instead of a coke, save that buck. Don't go to the movies, stash it. If your parents give you anything from your check, hide it away on you. Don't leave it in your room. All ways have it on you. Look tomorrow in the phone book for half way houses or the YMCA. Get you a plan, and then don't tell them anything....just go..

If all else fails, next time they start the beating call 911. The cops will have to do something now, because as an adult you can press charges. And they also can help you find somewhere you could stay that's safe. I would rather you sleep on Aunt Kathy's floor then live like this, or sleep in John's garage. Somewhere there is a place. please look for it.......

God bless us all..............

Answer 3

I know exactly how it is to grow up with alcoholic parents. The mental and emotional problems one gains from it are bad enough without having to deal with the physical abuse, too. If you are eighteen, I recommend you find your own place and move out. You are of legal age now, and your well being is what is important. Although I know it looks bleak to you now, if you get away from it, you will feel much better. Contact Al Anon and go to some meetings. They will help you to deal with the problems associated with alcoholism and show you how to handle their addiction from your end. You can't stop them from drinking, but you can change the way you react to it.
Suicide is not the answer. Getting away from the situation and building your own llife away from it is.
Go to your boss and change your direct deposit into an account you set up for yourself. It is your money, not theirs. If you have been brow beaten all this time, you will have to get out of the victim mentality and take the reins of your life yourself. It will be difficult after so much negative programming, but you can do it.
If they strike you again, now that you are eighteen, you can file an assault and battery charge and the police have to do something about it. You are considered an adult now.
Don't argue with them. It only feeds the fire the alcohol ignites.
Best wishes to you. I hope everything gets better for you.

Answer 4

You are 18 ...thats a legal age. Get a new bank account and get out of that house right away. Go to the bank and open a new account...don't put your parents name on it. Then get a room somewhere till you can find an apartment of your own. You will struggle a little at first but at least you'll have peace of mind.
Don't let the abuse you have suffered stunt you mentally...I'll bet you are a good person and you can go far in life. believe in yourself and shake the bad home life off your shoulders.

Good Luck in all you do.

Answer 5

You are 18 ,in Canada that means legal Adult Status. Leave and find a counsellor to talk to. Abuse has been learned by your family and they perpetuate the cycle in their hurt and ignorance! Phone a Crisis Line, Social Services< Mental Health in you community,kids help phone, school counsellor etc. You are NOT ALONE! There are many people who struggle with these issues and the survivors often work in Fields that help others with similar situations. Don't give up,help and relief can be around the next corner. Get Help

Answer 6

i know the feeling. ummm well ur 18 right? look get everything u have and leave because if u stay those cuts, bruises and heartless verbal abuse will stay in ur mind and u will become traumatized. get help and u need to stand up for yourself. go to the police again. You convince them your abuse and show them your evidence. i think you can even sue them for somthing but i cant remember rite now. your an adult and you can do this. dont commit suicide. i bet a really nice girl or someone is thinking about you. i am. just dont do it ....i care and its not pity.....peepl care about you. someone out there is thinkin about you even though you doubt it. i realy hope you dont do the stupid mistake of doing that cause i will b prayin for u. cheer up. god luvs u =)

Answer 7

wow...i am sorry to hear that...First you are a man now...keep your money...they have no control over you...take it back. I to come from a somewhat abusive home....I turned 18 and got the hell out. I think about them, and wonder what they are doing now. Of course I have kept in touch sometimes. But you need to get on your own. "SUICIDE" for what...you will do alot better if you were alive than dead. Death is not the only way out. Challenging life head on is what it is. You don;t need to listen to them anymore. get down to the local DSHS office, they can lead you in the right direction to a better life of your own...Leave them all behind. Everyone is responsible for their own life...you are for yours, not them. Their work is done...you are a man now. Take the world by the horns...and go kick some ***.

Answer 8

At 18 you can get a better life....I would seek the help of someone like the Salvation Army...they have people who can help, and give advice.Explain your position, and because your 18...and not a child now it may offer you options.
All the very best, remember also you will need at some stage counciling...due to the fact you have been so very badly treated most of your life....

Answer 9

It's hard but you're better off going to a shelter or trying to live with a friend. That's so sad. I wish the best for you, and don't commit sucide because that means that they win. Prove them wrong and become successful. You're 18 now and can legally be on your own, and please stop your checks from being automatically deposited into their accounts. Good Luck!

Answer 10

Don't give up. I know how it is. My son (seventeen) was reccently kidnapped by his father, and well, it was hell. Sucide is NOT an option. See a counceler - NOW! Try and talk to everyone. Get proof it was them. Cash your checks, and hide your money in your room. Seek help from shelters; they're aching to give it to you.
Please, please, please don't give up! If you have any questions, email me at [e-mail] (my main email address.) Please do not commit suicide, it is NOT the way out, your parents need to be punished for this. Tell anyone you can think of, eventually someone will listen.

Oh, and when you're 18 you're able to legally file charges against your parents that cannot be revoked becuase you aren't a "juvinile" anymore.