Today was my birthday and my boyfriend of 4 years is lacking money and he tried to pick me out a couple of presents and honestly they were not my style at all. He got me an alarm clock, a pillow with wolves on it, and a dead butterfly preserved in a case (its kind of pretty.) I thought it was sweet that he came up with (stole) some cash to get me some things. He kept asking me over and over if I liked my gifts. I have never lied to my boyfriend but I felt like I couldn't tell him that his choices were not so great...
Is it ok to lie in this situation?
Anyone else had to do the same or did you handle it differently?
2006-10-15 17:50:34 · 41 answers · asked by *Amanda* 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Yes! His pride is intact. He gave you something because he cared. The only thing that matters is he cared enough to do something/ anything about your birthday. Be greatful for his attention and thougtfulness. We often get things that are "not us." Love is accepting the affection and time that was spent and the spirit in which it was given. If you last long enough, when you are older you will laugh about it. Your little fib is your part of that affection between the both of you. Happy Birthday!!
2006-10-15 17:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by Mudder/ Gi 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nearly all of these people are crazy. If you two have been going out for 4 years, then by now your bf should know what sort of things (gifts) you like, and what sort of gifts are your style. He obviously doesn't. Most likely he stole the gifts, and the money he stole was used on something else. He gave you these sorry a$$ gifts just to keep you from asking him why he didn't get you anything for your birthday.
Listen... you are obviously somewhat intelligent as your 360 pages says you are attending college. Why would you go out with a guy who steals?
Tell him you do not like the gifts, and that his thefts are just going to lead to trouble, and you don't want to be a part of it. Dump him, find someone who is going somewhere in life, and don't look back.
2006-10-15 18:05:52 · answer #2 · answered by peace_world_tour 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, that's pretty cold! I can definitely understand her worrying. Maybe you should ask some people on Yahoo from Alaska what they do when the weather is that cold and they have to take their babies outside. If it is absolutely necessary to take a baby out in weather like that, make sure it is dressed warmly with a little snowsuit and mittens and plenty of cover ups for the face. Don't go out just for any reason. Make sure it is necessary and that the child will be exposed to the cold for a very short time. Get the car warm first, then put the baby in the car. Move as quickly from the car to the building. Apologize to grandma and tell her you get the point -- and don't be too hard one her. She's concerned about her grandchild. If she won't shut up about it then, ignore her or stay away.
2016-05-22 05:35:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he did not steal the gifts? That is an odd assortment. They say it's the thought that counts and if he is a great guy, just tell him yes and that you love him. If he is the right guy, years from now he will make up for it ten-fold. If you feel in your gut though that even with a billion dollars he couldn't have bought you a meaningful gift, it could be time to move on.
2006-10-15 17:53:09 · answer #4 · answered by Michelle 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well u should be thankful for his gift even its not good as the other guy say its the thought that counts okay if the guy really care for you even his broke he try his best to give u a gift just think of it if he really stole that money just to buy u a gift then he really cares about you and he will do anything just to make u happy even he knows he will get into trouble by stealing money and that's called love . than a guy who will give u everything like expensive jewelery or a nice car then afterwards you will know what he really is ,a hypocrite rich bastard so just be thankful for the gift that he gave you and next time tell him what you really like in your birthday and maybe he will get it right okay thanks
2006-10-15 18:33:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sweetheart, I got news for ya....and you wont like it. This Guy is a disgusting Jerk. His gifts are foolish to give a woman (A dead Butterfly??) Alarm Clock? Pillow case with wolves on it? What ever happened to Flowers....maybe a ring...necklace. And to top it off...he stole money to get you stupid gifts. In all honestly sweetheart(being truthful) Lose the LOSER!!!! It really isn't about the gifts...its about his character. You sound like a wonderful good hearted woman.....I hope someday you will raise the bar and find someone that deserves an Angel like you. In Short...Tell him he,s am Idiot and to get out of your life. If You wish to cuss me out...I understand...God Bless You
2006-10-15 18:23:19 · answer #6 · answered by TTLC77 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think the most disturbing thing about your question is that you say he stole the money to buy your presents. I would much rather have a nice romantic home cooked dinner and a massage than gifts that were purchased with stolen money. Yep, stealing is bad and I think you need a boyfriend with better morals. If you have kids with this guy, will he teach them that it is okay to steal?
2006-10-15 17:58:14 · answer #7 · answered by schweetums 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be disappointed that he stole. Birthday presents do not make the birthday. There are a lot of things you can do on your birthday to make it good. He could have taken you out on a picnic. Stealing is not right, and you should tell him he doesn't need to steal to make you happy, and that the presents did just the opposite. Don't lie, tell him the truth and tell him that stealing only makes things worse.
2006-10-15 17:56:09 · answer #8 · answered by Emily 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
YOu did well. A while lie done so as not to hurt others is a good. However, must question the "stolen" money thing to buy you the gifts. He loves you this is true but to steal in order to show it is not very ethical. Best he just bought you something from his heart then steal to give you more.
2006-10-15 17:56:16 · answer #9 · answered by rabatvilla 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
well, if you lie...then it will make him happy, thinking that you do really like his gifts, not on,y that-he would feel that his wishes and thoughts are appreciated.eventually it makes him happy off course? what would you do if he keeps on buying things which you feel is not that great at all? are you gonna continue lying? it eventually would break your relationship apart as i know one fine day, when he keeps askign you if you loved the gifts-you might just blow up, saying that none of his gifts were great to you.
so..why don't you be honest about it? honest, but not brutal. say those gifts were pretty, but he should really know things that you really prefer to have.yuor not beign materialistic here-just that you dont it to be a huge turn off of the relationship..
2006-10-15 18:00:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋