I love being, Single, but I hate it... whats wrong with me?

Question

Like... I broke up with my last BF, over a month ago, it was a very short relationship... but I felt good after it ended because I like the feeling of being single

But now, a new guy is starting to like me... he's my type I like him and everything... but I'm scared to get involved because I'm scared I'll hate not being single...and then want to break up

I dunno what to do I go back and forth so much!

So should I just give this new guy a try and risk it... or just stay single.?

Answer 1

Why can't you just date someone, without feeling like you have to get into a relationship with them? I mean, there are a lot of people around who look good on the surface, but then when you start to get to know them, they're not your cup of tea. Do you get pressured into these relationships? You have to ask yourself what qualities you're looking for in a person, so that you won't fall for every semi-decent-looking guy out there.

Answer 2

If you meet a new guy and automatically think you are going to get married or be partners for life, then, my dear, you are kinda messed up in the head. Nobody thinks like that. Its like you haven't even given the relationship time to grow or anything and you're already hitched for life. That puts a lot of stress on you and I pity the dude that want to go out with you. It not fair to him.

If you go out with the dude and if he is the real thing, then you'll know it in your heart. If you prefer a life with a partner to share stuff with and perhaps one day having children and enjoying the life you and he bring into the world then you might want to give the relationship a chance.

However, if you prefer a single life where you enjoy all that life has to offer alone, and in 20 years look back as an old maid and see what others have and you don't, then don't even waste your time in any type of relationship. Obviously you think your own world is more important that any possibilities out there. That's cool if that's what you want, but it sure can be lonesome at night.

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Answer 3

You do not have to be in a relationship in order to date and have fun. Just let your dates know...nothing serious. This way you will have your freedom to do as you please. If you like a guy more than others, you still would have the control over how far you want it to go.
I might add..I think it is a good thing to be single at times...for as long as you like. This give you a chance to become up to date on your goals and priorities. Plus...the longer you are independent, the more you straighten your character.

Answer 4

just stay single okay. i think u are not ready to have a relationship yet. cause u kept breaking up with ur boyfriend okay so just wait when your ready to have a relationship and if your ready then try this exercise just look on those couple or those boys and girls dating on a park or some other romantic place if u think ur getting jealous or envy of those couple cause your single then ur ready to have a relationship but if u ignore them, then u really wants to stay single and being single is not bad at all okay u are free to do what you like than a boyfriend who's pestering or calling u or bothering you to go out when u want to be alone okay and your really the one, who will decide if you want to be single or not and not us. okay thanks

Answer 5

Everytime you become gf/bf with someone you in a sense become one after time. If you break up you are tearing yourself from the other person so you become wounded. Making it harder to get into a relation and easier to break up. Make decisions wisely about bf/gf. You want a relationship to end in a happy where both of you stop liking eacother slowly and eventually say goodbye without hurt.

Answer 6

Honey, I know exactttly what you're saying. I enjoyed being single so much, I'm having a really hard time living with my man right now. It really is a tough call because you have to decide which will make YOU happier.

Meanwhile, aint no crime to go out on a date. Have fun. Don't cross any bridges before you get to them.

Answer 7

i love being single to but if you have to question it then i think you should just stay single hunnie you just broke up give your life some time to breath ...im married now but before then i was single i didnt like relationships and i liked my freedom but i knew this paticular guy was diffrent and now were married when you know hun you know so theres no point in wasteing your time with someone that may or may not work dont make yourself like someone for the sack of saying i have a boyfrined screw that have fun hunnie youll know when the right one comes....good luck

Answer 8

dont rush into things..maybe in your last relationship, everthign was going on too fast for you till you miss being single, and finally loved the feeling when you had to end the relationship. hang out with this guy, since he is your type? see whats more of his interests are your type-you two might click together? take things as it comes, one at a time- dunt rush-

Answer 9

Well if you are just looking for a piece of *** then be friends with benefits. But if you arent like that, then hear this: "The grass is ALWAYS greener on the other side." You sound like one of those girls who has a hard time making up her mind. Just do what your heart tells you to.

Answer 10

You're normal, that's what it means. There are many good things to being single and good things to having someone. Maybe if you let him know you're scared and that you want to take it slow. If he doesn't understand, he's not worth it.