2006-10-15 17:33:07 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
okay - Let me get this right.... You want a child but you have no repsect for marriage????
Well .... that is certainly a dilema for the child you say you want isn't it!!!!!
As a grown woman who had a mother who shares the same views as you do I can only give you my opinion.... I grew up without a dad. All my friends had live in dads... or step dads. NOT ME!
My mum made that choice years ago and now here i am in my late 30's and she has finally said she is sorry. She has finally realised how selfish it was and she regrets not giving me that stable home life that a marriage may have given me.
The strange thing is that it took for me to marry and have kids of my own and to be happy and for her to see how happy my kids are before she was able to see what I missed out on.
Becareful - as its not just your life anymore if you bring a child into it. Our children are innocent and trust us and rely on us to lead them into life. It is a huge responsability one that you should seriously consider if you can't respect marriage..........
Sorry if i seem harsh...
2006-10-20 04:05:45 · answer #1 · answered by kellz_car 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its OK not to want to be married but you have to think of this----do you have a good home to take a child into
do you have a good job so that you can afford to feed and keep it
nobody is going to take care of it for you anymore than they would with a difficult puppy or kitten
can you afford it???
remember a baby is not a doll
if you only want something tp play with and dress up then go and buy yourself a baby doll that wets it pants. what about paying for school and dentists and doctors it REALLY NEEDS 2 people to raise a child becuse then there is income from 2 people. You cannot raise a child on a womans small wage have you any idea how much child care costs
Big decision.. If you can afford it go for it. But if you cant it will wreck your life
2006-10-16 00:46:02 · answer #2 · answered by virginia o 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well regardless whether or not u have respect for marriage, yes marriage, u obviously have no respect for the English language.
Being a single parent and supporting yourself at the same time is a very difficult thing, find someone you feel like you could spend your life with.
2006-10-16 00:42:17 · answer #3 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think its a good idea at all. Both parents bring something special and different to a child's life. I think that when given a choice to make the child's all around life complete, it should be done.I'm divorced and I hung in there as long as I could but then it became to unhealthy for them.I didn't choose that.
2006-10-16 00:40:09 · answer #4 · answered by kelliekareen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't need a piece of paper that's says you married to have a child. Its nice to have someone you love share in the experience. If you have that and just don't want to get married then i say go a head. If not i would think it over. Being by yourself is hard when you have a baby.
2006-10-16 00:42:41 · answer #5 · answered by sweetsnickers 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have no doubt that there are women and men who can raise their children alone, but I think it would be very difficult. My husband and I have 2 children and I honestly don't know what I would do if I didn't have his help. If you decide to do it, just make sure you have a reliable group of people who will support you and help you in the difficult times.
2006-10-16 00:49:28 · answer #6 · answered by russlovesbrooke 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say marrage...How do you define marriage first. Marriage to me is the religious union of two individuals...are you also opposed to a union? I think with the child it is important to have two parents and it will help you too! I hope this helps...
2006-10-16 00:40:29 · answer #7 · answered by C K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
question about marriage?....and having a child? if u have that nurturing personality and u can honestly afford the needs of a growing child, and u have the time to spend with him/her , then go ahead and have one.....it is a full time commitment, its not like just accepting a boyfriend that u can dump when u are tired of him....
2006-10-16 00:37:34 · answer #8 · answered by ♦cat 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Make sure you have a good support system.
2006-10-16 00:49:04 · answer #9 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, If you are gonna take care of your baby, thats fine
2006-10-16 00:40:48 · answer #10 · answered by Barb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋