I have always told those gay people they were going to hell. Yet I have secretly been a lesbian my whole life. I am tired of the lies. I am tired of being worried my fellow Christians will shun me and tell me I am going to hell. Maybe that's why I am pissed off all the time, what should I do?
2006-10-15 17:32:10 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
You could start with the realization that you are who you are and that organized religion is all poo anyway.
2006-10-15 17:34:00 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 6⤋
Well let me tell you that even though I don't know what Christian faith you fallow, I will talk about the one I know of and that is the Catholic one and to the contrary of some catholic followers that a lot of times speak with ignorance ...God is all love and he will not send u to hell for something u have no control over, first thing I will say is that if you r catholic don't listen to a friend or family member about an opinion of the religion but go to a priest and u will be surprise of how different a respond u will receive.
PS: Remember that god will not look at how many few sins u made but how many times u tried to fight against the many sins u committed
2006-10-15 17:54:12 · answer #2 · answered by slickrickdesigns 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just ignore the parts of your religion you don't like? That's what everyone else does. Why else would we have to have Catholics, Episcopalians, Mormons, Methodists, Menonites, Baptists, Born Agains, Jews for Jesus, Unitarians, etc. And that's just a partial list from just Christianity.
Also, the Bible says it's a sin to have long hair. That disobedient children should be stoned. That if a man sits in the same seat as woman who's on her period, he's unclean and must bathe, and stay away from others until sundown. That if a woman who's spoken for gets raped in the city, but doesn't cry out, she has to die just like the rapist. If she does cry out, it's just the rapist, which is also what happens if she's in the country. But if the woman is single, then the rapist has to pay her family five shekels and marry her (Deuteronomy 22:23-29).
Basically, if you read the Bible start to finish, there'll be plenty of rules and laws that no one even knows about, much less bothers to follow. And as far as Christianity is concerned, homosexuality isn't even in the top 100 of most wicked sins. The people who get so excercised about it are bigots who use religion as a bludgeon for their own insecurities.
Plus, you're supposed to hate the sin but love the sinner. But in your case, I think you should be allowed to love the sin, too. It's your life. You shouldn't have to cut off an important part of it because some arbitrary law written by no one even knows who, at least 2000 years ago.
2006-10-15 17:47:50 · answer #3 · answered by answersBeta2.1 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
There is no conflict with being a lesbian and the Bible, anymore than being heterosexual does. The conflict comes in acting inappropriately as relates to the teachings of the Bible. A heterosexual, who is having sex outside marriage, is no less a sinner than a homosexual. The are still committing willful sin.
Yes, I know you want to be happy, and if you choose to live your life in that manner, than remember that you have the right and god given freedom of choice to do so. The difference is that you will be happy for a very short period of time, compared to everlasting (not immortal) life being happy and with the full use of your mental capabilities. It has long since been established that the word hell and hell fire does not appear in the oldest biblical scrolls. If you chose your lifestyle over God, than simply put, you will cease to exist, after the second resurrection and the declaration of judgment.
You have two choices, live your life for the now, or live you life for the later. Make the choice and remember, anyone telling you that you are going to hell, just tell them yes, just as Christ did, and they will also, unless they think they are greater than Christ.
2006-10-15 17:47:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your denomination. If you're part of a really conservative branch, that will either mean continuing the lie, or leaving.
There are some groups that claim to be able to "cure" homosexuality, but from what I've been able to learn, what they are really doing is helping people who are really bisexual to live as heterosexuals. They can also help re-affirm heterosexuality in questioning heterosexuals. I know of no treatment or therapy that has been shown (with documented and juried studies) to be able to "cure" a true homosexual. That makes sense as it's not a disease.
On your part, you might want to look at some Christian denominations that have learned that homosexuality ins't the damnable offense that more conservative denominations claim. You might want to spend some time with a good concordance looking up what the word "homosexual" means in some passages. You'll probably be surprised when you do as in the original texts, there were different meanings, such as "temple prostitute".
Lastly, make some connections with other Christian gay and lesbian people. For me, the Metropolitan Community Church wasn't what I had hoped, but you might pay a visit.
If you would like to check out some more liberal churches, you might take a visit to a local Unitarian church. They typically don't have a specific creed and are accomodating of many beliefs. As their name suggests, they started out as rejecting the idea of a trinity and believe in God as one.
I sincerely wish you well as I went through many years of struggle with this issue.
--Dee
2006-10-15 17:42:15 · answer #5 · answered by Deirdre H 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Perhaps that's why you shouldn't judge others. The truth is all of us at some point will have to face God on an individual basis. It's then we answer for all we've done. I personally doubt He would cast us to hell for being gay. Why do you have to be gay to go to hell? Why not a rapist, murdered, child molester? A cheater, liar? The point is He knows whats in our hearts. Why lie to him? Let's not forget that while the bible is God's word, it was written by the hand of man. There's no way we could ever know what God truly wants from us, but if we keep that connection open to him, the answers come easier. Trust yourself,trust God. Best of luck to you, my sister.
2006-10-15 17:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by illuminessa.villasenor 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I see that most of your answers to this question are aimed at take a good look at your religion and then something to the effect of telling you to leave it.....it is not the belief that is causing you grief it is the conviction of the holy Spirit.....you can find freedom and peace but you must get off the fence so to speak and admit what you feel and then repent and ask God for forgiveness and for help to live a life pleasing to him.....God will help you through it all......the easy way out is to reject God and succumb to this spirit of perversion that has been tempting you......God is the way.....He loves you and wants to help you.....deny your flesh and He will set you free......you will always be in a state of anger and frustration as long as you are straddling the fence...one way or the other......make a choice...we all have to make a choice at one time or the other.....my sin may not be like yours but it is still sin and I had to do exactly what I am saying to you.....I had to choose do I want this more than God ...my answer was no so I repented and left my sin...it wasn't easy but I overcame with God.....hang in there.....you are not alone...
God Bless
2006-10-15 17:43:19 · answer #7 · answered by shiningon 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
you will find many people willing to offer THEIR answer. They may even quote pieces of scripture that when taken out of context will put you at ease, yet the truth as defined by scripture is the word of God. Only in the pages of the bible will you find an answer that cannot be contradicted. No one likes being told how they are or who they are, but you will find the scripture providing an answer you may not want to hear, non the less it is the only truth. denying it is only condemning yourself. you will see examples of homosexuality in the word of God and Gods clear responce to it. Truly we have all sinned and fallen short of the glory of God. For all of our good works are as filthy rags unto God. Be of good cheer for God has seen our weakness and provided his son a perfect sacrifice for who so ever would believe on him would not perish but have eternal life. Jesus Christ can set you free, for you see you are either with the world and the way of the world or you are with Christ. The choice is yours, the road map and instructions are in the Word Of God!!
2006-10-15 17:48:41 · answer #8 · answered by MATTHEW V 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The answer is right there in front of you...........drop the religion!
Ask yourself, what is it that makes you feel guilty? What is is that makes you feel ashamed? What is it that makes you feel sinful?
If you didn't subscribe to that ridiculous hateful dogma, you'd be free to love yourself and love others. That fact that you're afraid to reveal your true self to your fellow "Christian" says a lot about their ability to accept people. Isn't it ironic that they will label someone like me, who doesn't judge you and can accept you as you are, evil? They go on and on about the limitlessness of god's love and yet when it comes time to emulate that, they would rather condemn you to hell.
Free yourself from the fear that binds you to the lie!
2006-10-15 17:42:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you need to contact people or an organization who understands what you are going through. I know a woman who was in your position. She tried very hard to be straight for her family but she couldn't. I think you could also look into churches that will accept and work with you to find balance. Don't waste your time being around people who aren't going to accept who you are.
If you need help finding a church or group to contact, email me.
Blessings.
2006-10-15 17:38:47 · answer #10 · answered by BABY 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Christ taught that one should not judge or you will be judged. Christ message was always one of love and compassion. To attack anyone for who they are is wrong. The whole idea is to find God, find out what God wants for your life, and then do it. It is actually easy. I am anti establishment when it comes to religion. I find people start to teach others what they believe to be what God is saying, and stop others from finding God's voice for their own life. You have to find your own answer and your own way.
2006-10-15 17:45:11 · answer #11 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋