An ex bf that you had maintained a friendship with, even after you broke up, start getting an attitude with you and ignoring your calls after you meet a new bf? It's been two years since the relationship was over, and we'd both promised one another that we were best friends before we hooked up, and we'd be best friends even if we did break up. After the break up, we were still good friends up until the point when I got a new bf. Now it's straight up hostility. So what? Did everything we promised one another all of the sudden become null and void once I actually did meet someone else? Did he just lie about always being friends just to make it sound good?
2006-10-15 17:27:50 · 12 answers · asked by LibraT 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Okay Nooo that was totally uncalled for. You are an idiot, and a moron. Luckily, I realize not everyone in this world thinks like your stupid a s s.
2006-10-15 17:32:15 · update #1
I don't think that all he said is null and void. He loves you and probably wasn't ready to share you, although you're just friends now, your new relationship will involve sharing or times when he will be totally out of the picture. People get comfortable with the fact that they can always reach out and call or spend time laughing on the phone. He knows that this will change, but doesn't know how it will affect YOUR friendship with him, so instead of waiting to find out, he has resolved that you will no longer have time and has excomunicated himself prematurely. Let him know how important the friendship with him is. His hostility is just pain.
2006-10-15 17:35:10 · answer #1 · answered by jerseyjazzylady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People have good intentions most of the time and I would not resent him for having an emotional reaction to you moving on. He just needs time and he may just need to have you out of his life, since he can't deal with you having a new bf. If you want to still attempt a friendship, just tell him that if he can't deal with you moving on romantically you would like to know if that's worth losing your friendship. When you look back on this later, you will probably realize you really didn't have that much time invested in your friendship and moving on was the better for you.
2006-10-16 04:16:33 · answer #2 · answered by Tibbytwinkletoes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU NEED TO IMAGINE THIS SITUATION IS HAPPENING TO SOMEONE ELSE
Guy and Girl break up. They say they remain friends. Girl finds another Guy. 1st guy gets pissy.
DUH
Men are POSSESSIVE (I know because I am one). I have been the guy in this situation, where my ex-girl, who is my friend, starts banging another guy.
It's never a good feeling, and I usually get upset, even if I know the relationship is over (for good).
Your best bet? STOP CALLING YOUR EX. Let a reasonable amount of time go by without talking to your ex all the time (or at all).
He wants to be friends, but THAT'S IMPOSSIBLE until...
HE FINDS ANOTHER GIRL!
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2006-10-16 03:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by studebakerwilson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So what you are dating some one new. Dont worry about what you ex thinks. I would play the game if i was you. Have fun, dont settle down.
I found that the best site out there to meet people like yourself is LavaLife
2006-10-16 00:33:16 · answer #4 · answered by Scotty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the real issue here is that he doesnt want u 2 go out with any1 else... he may not want u as a gf but he doesnt want any1 else 2 hav u as there gf either... i think this is a case of jelously and u need to talk to him about it... of course mayb he has realised that he actually still cares 4 u and wants u back... in this case it definatly is jelously... good luck =)
2006-10-16 00:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by becstar 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and yes. It is rare to be close friends after a breakup. He is jealous of your new BF. Think about how you would feel if he started dating someone.
2006-10-16 00:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by Star 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he thought you would come back to him thats all. now its hit home that your moving on with your life and he isnt apart of it. try to calmly talk to him and if that doesnt work you may have to sever ties with him. definately try to help him see you need him as a friend and he may come round. he may not like it but it isnt his choice. good luck with it all.
2006-10-16 00:35:06 · answer #7 · answered by evil Hesh 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
for some reason he does not want you to have another boyfriend. maybe he is hoping that you will get back together. my ex do it all the time.
2006-10-16 01:01:44 · answer #8 · answered by Big Chelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he still has feelings for you, he probably didn't realize it until you met another guy
2006-10-16 00:30:57 · answer #9 · answered by arkainisofphoenix 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think he probably still has feelings for you...he's just scared to admit it... and now that you met someone he feels like he's going to be shafted and forgotten about.
2006-10-16 00:32:45 · answer #10 · answered by ditka 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋