I'm a pretty shy guy and I finally confronted this girl I liked 3 times, and started conversations with her each time. They'd be really casual and short (2-3 mins)
She's one of the most amazing people and I really think is possibly the person i'd want to be with for the rest of my life. We share the same interest, style, music, EVERTHING. She even plays guitar, same as I do.
Although I hope she didn't get a bad impression when I confronted her. I dress like a punk, always dress nicely, do my hair, and make sure I smell nice. I don't want her thinking I'm some player, or a guy who takes the term "love" for granted. How can I show her that I'm not that type of guy?
I don't know might all be in my head, but I can't get this thought out of my mind that maybe I'm not approaching this whole thing the right way. Hopefully she saw that I was a shy guy.
2006-10-15 17:26:36 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I would have to say that you cant get the answerer to this question from here. But I can give you some suggestions.
I would say to keep on doing what you are doing now and keep getting to know her. Then I would say if you see that she might be really interested in you then I would say that you can ask her out on a date. Maybe a movie or something like that. I would say something small to start of with. and just see where the relationship goes from there. I wish you the best and if you believe that you are meant to be together then it should all work out.
Good Luck
2006-10-15 17:43:01 · answer #1 · answered by Cathy C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now is not the time to rush my friend. All the cards are in your favor. You have made the association...now all you have to do is enjoy it. This is the time you spend getting to know each other. Here you give yourself a real good chance to learn about her and at the same time, earn her trust. From there its up to you. Relax, be cool and give it your best shot.
First though, you must wind down some from the "this is who I want to spend the rest of my life with" frame of mind. You're much too young for that. Keep your major focus on becoming an independent adult foremost above everything else.
Be honest and truthful with her, look her in the eyes when you speak to her and always be thinking of new ways to spend time with her.
Again...there is no need to rush.
Having her for a good friend is not a bad second.
2006-10-15 17:48:17 · answer #2 · answered by Robere 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keeping trying to get to know her, because you don't really know her yet, and you're about to take a chance on someone who only shares common interests with you. Just keep talking, where you become friends, and go from there. If you don't take the term love for granted, then why try rush into things?
2006-10-15 17:28:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Clean up the "punk" act. You may dress "nicely" but I'll bet it's in punk cult style. That is not something that's going to go over great with a girl's parents when she brings him home. So why fight it.
Dress and style yourself to fit in, not stand out like a peacock! That doesn't gain you any anti-shy points!
2006-10-15 17:31:05 · answer #4 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well by confronting her, you dont seem that shy, because you broke the ice and had enough courage to talk to her. like you said hopefully she will know that you are shy. but you do share the same interests, it wont belong until she realizes how you are towards love and about the things that you want.
2006-10-15 17:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by metalchik 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her to critique your guitar playing. Play some things that are close to your heart. After playing, tell her about the things that matter in your life.
Then keep asking her questions to keep her talking.
Don't worry what image she has of you or what impression of you has formed in her mind. Forget about that second-guessing. Instead, enjoy spending time with her in the present. It's hard for you to focus on that, because you're in love with her, but do it anyway!
2006-10-15 17:31:31 · answer #6 · answered by urbancoyote 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be yourself man. When it all comes down, that's all you can do. Look for your opportunity to know each other better and don't be to shy when it comes to letting her know what you think of her and being attracted to her. Try not to get lost looking at the destination. Life is about how you get there, not where you go. Enjoy it!
2006-10-15 17:33:23 · answer #7 · answered by randyken 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing will impress a girl more than taking her out and not expecting any nookie from her. But some girls want it quick. Just let her make the first move if you think shes one of those girls...
2006-10-15 17:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by ks_stud_2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-15 17:27:51 · answer #9 · answered by MAtt M 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋