All the money for my education has gone to waste, because i had decided not to have a career...i decided to get married with someone who has a nice career, but i feel guilty because my parents worked so hard for me to be able to study and live independently but i chose to be a housewife.
2006-10-15 17:26:10 · 15 answers · asked by anxiousgirl888 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Do you think i have a valid reason to feel that way?
2006-10-15 17:28:59 · update #1
Don't feel guilty. There is nothing wrong with being a housewife. You don't know if that's going to be forever or not and it's nice to have the education to fall back on. I'm sure your parents love you and just want you to be happy. Don't stress out about it. Just let them know that you appreciate all they've done for you.
2006-10-15 17:29:39 · answer #1 · answered by Phoebe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is absolutely nothing wrong with being a housewife and mom. I am sure your parents want you to be happy. BUT, you would be wise to go ahead and get the education so that in case anything happens to your husband you will have it to fall back on if you need to go to work. Is the offer of money for the education still there? Even if it isn't, I would seriously consider going to school anyway. There are lots of couples who are married and go to school. You would be wise to consider it.
Best wishes
2006-10-16 00:57:48 · answer #2 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
at least you have a degree, so that if you do choose to go out and get a job, then your parents time and effort hasn't gone to waste. the main point is...are you happy being a housewife? if the answer is yes, then you shouldn't have to feel guilty because you're doing something that you like. and it's nice that you have the option of being a "career woman" if you want to. i'm sure if you're happy with what you've chosen, then your parents are happy too.
2006-10-16 00:30:28 · answer #3 · answered by mighty_power7 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you feel good about the path you have chosen for your life and you are happy then your parents are happy for you who knows what the future holds at least if you decide someday that you want a career or if something should happen that you need a career look how much you already have ahead if you are happy with your present life that takes a great deal of stress and burden off your parents and will make them feel that they did what was best for you and now you are doing what is best for you have a good day
2006-10-16 08:45:37 · answer #4 · answered by angel afraid and sad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. I worked part-time jobs throughout highschool and through college to help my parents as they were paying for my tuition. Our family never had a lot of money so college payments for three kids basically led to bankruptcy for them and they've had financial difficulities ever since.
When my husband's rinky-dink little business evolved into a huge success, I became a housewife, while all of my best friends forged ahead in the corporate world. I'd be lying if I said I didn't feel a little left behind from time to time. So I took a little hobby of mine and turned it into a business. It has yet to turn a profit, but I really enjoy every aspect of it. One of my best friends took her photography talents and started her own little weekend photography business (weddings, birthdays). Another acquantance of mine enjoyed cutting up fruits into decorative arrangements and started up her own little business as well.
Stay-at-home moms are always short on time, because raising kids is a 24 hour job. But us housewives always have plenty of time, so why not take one of your favorite hobbies and start up a little business? If you're crafty, look into making and selling your crafts/cultivations at a place like Etsy. It's the cheapest start-up and I've heard only good things about it. HTH!
2006-10-16 03:08:43 · answer #5 · answered by olliebee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have your parents expressed disappointment with you getting married? As a parent I would want my daughter to be happy and if she's happy being a housewife and being married, it would make me happy. All any good parent wants for their child of children is for them to be happy with the life they have chosen. Talk to your parents and ask them how they feel, but remember it's your life so you have to live it your way. Good luck with your marriage.
2006-10-16 00:42:51 · answer #6 · answered by MereBear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to work and pay em back. But you know what? If you pay that money back you are not really giving back what they gave you. That money they gave you was not regular money that a casino gives you. That money has a meaning, it meant something when they gave it to you. That money came as a result of them working everyday saving it little by little with the hope of a better life for you. My parents lost that money in a migration, but I did not mind, cause the intention of that money , the hope, was given to me. It did not really matter if the money ever made it up to there. I am in first year of university, Software Enginerring, it is hard as hell but I will finish and get my Ph.D
2006-10-16 00:32:15 · answer #7 · answered by Dave 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well fren, everyone makes mistake in life and what us different is the mistake we make. Don't feel guilty now coz things has already pass and you have already wasted it so no point feel guitly now. If you can realize that those money mean something earlier, you wouldn't feel guilty... isn't it?
Anyway, got to your parent and ask for forgiveness and tell them you're wrong and explain to them that you want to married so that they can understand you. Remember, there's no parent in the world that wouldn't forgive their children!
Good luck!!
2006-10-16 00:32:59 · answer #8 · answered by Steph 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well. i think you should NOT feel bad at ALL. you'll be a great housewife, and a GREAT mom (if you decide to have kids that is)
as a kid i was always upset because my parents were always at work, and i was always eating dinner alone and what not.
now you have the chance to eat dinner as a family. cook, clean, take care of the house.
man i actually wish i was you!
2006-10-16 00:41:49 · answer #9 · answered by MyEyeZHypnoTiZe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't you love your husband?
its never too late to start studying....thank your parents..but also be happy you found somoene you love...and got married too...
its ok to feel guilty b/c you sort of let your parents down but htey understand but you shouldnt stay feeling like that or your husband will start thinking you probably think you made a mistake in marrying him....
take care sweetie!
2006-10-16 00:31:01 · answer #10 · answered by Cutie77 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋