i hate my dad!!!?

Question

i wish he had died last year instead of my mom, is this normal, or should i get out of here as soon as possible?

the lines from the movie overboard really explains my dad....

dean "me and the boys are pals"
Annie "they have enough pals. they need a father."


my dad tries to be a pal but he sucks at it and he doesnt try to be a parent very much, sometimes having a pushover parent is fun, but not once you get older and need a real parent

the only way i could leave is if i went to a group home or something like that, im only 14

Answer 1

To be honest, it sounds more like you are disapointed in your dad than hate him.

He not only lost his life partner, he gained the responsibilities of a single parent all at once. As far as him being a pushover, I suspect he is just trying to be easy on you. In new single parenting because of divorce or death of a partner, the parent often overcompensates out of guilt, but it is alway also out of love.

You need to talk to him. If that doesn't work, you need to both go to a family counselor.

You are right, at this stage in your life, you need a strong parent, not a friend to care for you. Rules and consequences are great for teens as it gives you guys something solid to rely on in this crazy world.

Good luck hon.

Answer 2

You are undoubtedly feeling a lot of emotions over the loss of your mother. That is understandable, & you have every right to those feelings.
Before you go doing something that you may wish you hadn't later on, maybe you should go & talk to someone else about those strong emotions you are having.
I don't know how old you are, but the loss odf a parent is hard to deal with at any age, so try to get some professional councelling. It will be the kindest most caring thing that you can do for yourself, & you deserve a little kindness right now.

Answer 3

Your dad is also grieving at the moment and would still be going through some strong emotions as you are. Sounds as though
you were close to your mum and you are still hurting.
If you are in a situation at home that is not going to well then
you should first consider counselling with your dad as it would
do no harm to either of you.
According to what you have just added on, in the last minute
that you are 14, well you need to find a close relative who can support you right now because you need it.

Your dad thinks he is doing the right thing for you, just talk
to him as well and repeat your requests if you think he hasn't
heard you right.


Be a champion for your mums sake and look after your dad
as well you will find your strength as it is inside of all of us.

Answer 4

First, let me say, I'm sorry that you lost your mom. I'm sure your having mixed emotions. ~huggs~ I'm sorry to hear that you hate your dad! I don't know the situation between you and your dad, but my dad died last year on July 4th and I really miss him. My mother is still alive and she is my best friend. But I would give anything to have my dad back. He was the best dad. And I'm sure whatever the situation is between you and your dad, can be worked out! Family is very important, even tho we may think its not during a rough time. My dad was very sick and I know he is alot better off, but "IF" I could just give him a hug one more time :o( Please try to mend your relationship with your dad. It will be something you will NEVER regret in the end! Wishing you the very best! :o)

Answer 5

You made me cry. What are the reasons you hate him. He is most-likely feeling sick over the passing of your mother. Your family needs help, Go to a guidance coucellor or a minister, someone of that capacity. If you are in school, go to a teacher you like, he or she will put you on the right and him. Maybe leaving, is the right answer, BUT find out from someone who can get into the picture. Not from the net. BEST OF LUCK

Answer 6

I would think if i lost someone in my familt like my mom or dad i would wish it was the other way around. Just give yourself time your dad is having a rough time too. U two could sit down and talk and work things out for the better.

Answer 7

Sometimes we hurt the closest person to us, because of loss. I wouldn't expect you to write everything about how you feel, and everything that has come about since you have lost you mom, in this little box on the computer screen. Death of someone close is one of the hardest things to come to peace with. Notice that i didn't say "to get over". Talk to you father. You lost you Mom, a special bond, but he has also lost someone, his wife. I am a son, and a husband, and losing one or the other are not comparable in the feelings that would enter me. You and your Dad are going through separate pains, but talking about it, and sharing, and leaning on one another can make you not hate him so much, but start to love him in a new way, as well as him towards you.

Answer 8

somtimes i hate a lot of things...its normal, parents can really tick people off. but give it time, and if he's a good parent then you'll love him again. if you never liked him and he really treats you very badly there is something wrong. report it to the police if he is completely truthfully and utterly cruel. and im serious when i say that, because just him grounding you or something isn't cruel, its parenting. you dont want the man who made your birth possible going to jail just for making you angry for a little while!

Answer 9

If you just lost your mother a year ago then you should see how much you need your dad and how much he needs you. Dont say things like that cause Lord forbid he be taken from the world also. Appreciate what you have cause some people dont have that much.

Answer 10

You need to go to the school counselor and talk to them about this, your dad did not take your moms life I presume, he probably misses her as much as you do. Try to talk to him too and see if you two can get along better, good luck