i cant cope?

Question

how to i tell my husband and friends and collegues that i cant cope at the moment i mean on the surface its all good but then when i get 5 mins to myself i realise just how close i am to loosing the plot dont get me wrong i can deal with the here and now but its afterwards that it all hits home and i cant think streight please no nasty answers also please excuse the crap spelling

Answer 1

Maybe you just need some time to yourself.
sit and think what do you do for yourself each day, ? think what do you do for everyone else? TAKE TIME OUT FOR YOU.Tell your husband you don't feel able to cope at the moment maybe he will take some responsibility from you i think you are the worrier in the family.

Answer 2

It is easier to do with the husband and the friends who should have your best interests in mind. You can just tell them, that you will give them a certain, predetermined signal, so that they wouldn't wonder and know what is going on. The signal, which can be a gesture or a phrase, something like that: "I need some time to respond to it properly. Just give me a few minutes and I'll get back to you." Or anything else to your taste. Since they are supposed to be considerate of your wishes, they shouldn't have a problem with that. Colleagues to me appears to be a different sort of problem. They are not obliged to pursue your wishes, if it hurts the work ethics. So, you might need to adjust your request so that they will feel like they're getting what they want. Tell them maybe that you need a few moments to consider all the elements of the problem, so that you can give it full justice. Make them see how it is in their best interests to give your time. Prove to them that each time they follow your suggestion, your job performance gets better. At least, that is what I would do. Hope that helps. Good Luck.

Answer 3

i'm not sure what you mean,sweetie,but i'm assuming you can't cope with reality that's what you meant?first of all, remember that life goes on,so there has to be a solution somewhere somehow it takes a while to realise it.second of all,you haven't identified what the causes your problem is,is it you or is it the people around you?if it's just other people,then screw them,move on and go ahead with your new plans for the future.thirdly,analyse the situation:has this ever happened before and if so what would be worth doing to prevent it from ever happening again?if this thing has happened many times would it be worth consulting someone,or talk to an old friend it might help bring up good old memories.think deeply and take precautions this time,life is not always smooth and sailing for some of us. write down your feelings or thoughts in a diary,for me that helps a lot.try singing.lots of luck sweetheart

Answer 4

Ugggh -- I am right there with you. I used to feel like an overripe tomato -- like if someone touched me I would just totally explode all over the place. Amazing how well people like us can hold it together, isn't it? Go talk to your doctor or ob/gyn. Get the meds. It really makes a difference. I'm being serious. It made me able to keep going, and it will do the same for you. Now that your quality of life is being effected, you really need to get help from someone else.

Answer 5

maybe you need a holiday babe, and a few beers. You could get compassioante leave if you explain the situatio. Its just getting the guts up and asking thats the hard part. You could also think bout asking the NHS mental health sercices for a bit of advice, or even your GP. Dont be afraid to use these services, thats what we pay taxes for. Or maybe its your 'blood sugar levels' (yeah bloody right)

Dont forget, the chance of us being alive is millions and billiuons to 1, so try to enjoy your short little bit of existance as well as you can. You wont get another chance if you dont.

Good luck

Answer 6

I would say: it's tough to do though:

go for 48, or maybe 24, hours to a place where there isn't ANYTHING AT ALL in the environment that would remind you of anything in your day-to-day environment.

Ask yourself, as time goes on in those 48 or 24 hours: what would a better environment for me look like, feel like, what would it have in it? (and just as importantly, what wouldn't it have in it?)

It worked for me. But until I actually brought/forced myself to do it, I couldn't have imagined it would've made me as happy and as on the way towards getting some clear answers as what it did.

I would do this if I were you. Regardless of the answers that you
might be directed towards and regardless of the effects of the answers, if you acted upon them. It did me a world of good when I was in a very similar position as what you describe.

Good luck and I wish you all the best.

Answer 7

Any loving husband would be understanding and supportive. Tell him and then get an appointment with your dr. He may prescribe an antianxiety or antidepressant-- whichever he feels is best. I understand what you are saying. In the moment you are able to hold it together because your mind is busy but when you stop you fall apart. Be careful--if you don't do something to stop this it may get to the point that you are unable to function. Try to get help before it gets to that point.

Answer 8

you can cope because you are coping most of the time..so what if every so often you feel like crap..to be honest that's pretty normal. try having a chat with your gp and try to reach out to a friend or trusted family member. exercise will help you feel better about yourself and help you offload some of the stress too.

Answer 9

I am with you, yes I am going through similar at present,please take my advice, go see your gp, I have and he has being very supportive and helpful, put me in touch with a person I can talk to and get this all out in the open, hopefully find new ways of dealing with the pressures and I really wish you luck, but you cannot cope alone, get help please.

Answer 10

Check out the symptom link at www.hufa.org. If low blood sugar, or any of the blood sugar imbalances due to high insulin are causing part of your problem, this site may be able to help you get a grip on the past and future.