Why is it i'm always the victim?

Question

i'm easily manipulated
i'm gullible
i don't know how to choose friends
i don't know who to trust
i want to depend on my boyfriend but for how long, before he gets tired of it?

Answer 1

Well, because youve got a victim mentality and possibly a martyr complex.

See a professional.

You should depend on yourself.

Answer 2

I've read other questions of yours before.
I mentioned it in the past - your problem is about depending on people. Right now, you want to depend on your boyfriend. You really need to become self-reliant, because nobody in life can ever do for you what you can do for yourself and your relationships will gravitate towards co-dependency.
I'm not saying this to put you down. I'm really trying to help.
Why do you feel this way? It sounds like you don't feel your capable of doing things for yourself. Were you raised to believe you were incapable in some way? Take some time. Ask yourself these questions.

Answer 3

If you already realize these things about yourself and they are accurate views, that is the first step to changing it. Take a long hard look at what you do to be victimized and try to change what you can. You may also seek support from someone trained to deal with these problems such as a therapist. They can help with your self improvement and teach you to do things differently.

Answer 4

i was like that before. not now. first of all you MUST learn to love yourself. learn how to say NO and how to stand to what you really want. practice that. your personality will be improved and the way you deal with other people. it's a mind over matter fact. always think you're stronger than what you think. stand for your self, your boyfriend will be prouder. if someone has told you about something, think about it first before giving a reaction or opnion. i know it's not that easy but only you can help yourself. so better start now.

Answer 5

You are always the victim because you go around with that state of mind. Stand up for yourself, assert your self towards others- don't let them walk over you. People will respect you if you respect yourself. Don't depend on anybody but yourself- it's not healthy to be so needy- people will not stick around.

Answer 6

You need to see a counselor. I was EXACTLY like you until a few years ago, until I found someone who wouldn't use me. I would put myself in the position to be manipulated and abused, because that's what I was familiar with. But when I met my current boyfriend, he was so different. I was scared because he WASN'T trying to use me! He suggested I get psychological help and I started going to a therapist. It has helped me SOOO much. Now I know how to stay away from "toxic" people. You CAN'T do it alone. Please, seek help. If you'd ever like to talk, feel free to message me at [e-mail]. Good luck!

Answer 7

Sounds like a co-dependancy and self image issue.
Some counseling from a professional would help you to discover how what has happened came to be and how to change things for the future. Good luck....things can and will change for the better if you work and seek some help.

Answer 8

You need to take control of your life and make your own decisions that is what being an adult is all about, You are choosing to be a victim

Answer 9

We teach people how to treat us.If you take the @hit that people give you,that is how they will treat you.If you set boundaries,and then stick to them,you'll find that this kind of stuff will happen less often.And when it does you'll be in control of the situation.But you have to follow up with the consequences when someone oversteps those boundaries.If not,people will see you as weak and take advantage of you.

Answer 10

Because you allow yourself to be victimized? Stay away from people who would victimize you and stop seeing yourself as a victim. Be assertive, use your power, make solid choices, and change your life. GO GIRL!