it seems like he'll never be ready. we both love each other, and as far love goes, he's def the only one for me
2006-10-15 17:04:25 · 10 answers · asked by jess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
how long has it been?
2006-10-15 17:15:55 · answer #1 · answered by sammi girls mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Six months ago my fiancee told me he wasn't ready and he wanted to wait a year or two. Then unexpectedly a couple months later he popped the question.
I agree with the other gals that you want to find out where he stands - if he's thought about marriage, if he's happy with everything, but once you find out just let it go. You may cause problems if you try to pressure him, and chances are he's mulling it over in his mind too, even if he's not talking about it (women typically talk about their problems and men don't like to talk until they've come to a conclusion).
In the meantime, just enjoy the fact that you guys are together and that you're happy being together :)
2006-10-16 02:23:42 · answer #2 · answered by Pook 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never know what he may be planning in his head. I thought it would be a while before I got engaged and my fiancee totally surprised me! But you do need to discuss marriage and whether or not you are ready to take the next step. Once you are aware of how he feels just give it some time. Enjoy this season in your life. Don' t wish your life away (I'm one to be talking, i have a wedding countdown on my myspace) :)
2006-10-16 10:21:43 · answer #3 · answered by Katie Beth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think communication is the key. Sit down with him and ask him where he thinks the relationship is going. Tell him that you feel like, at this time in your life, you are ready for a bigger commitment, and want to know where he is in life. If he says he isn't ready, ask him why, it might make you feel more at ease to know (most likely it isn't you, it's just that he isn't ready). If he's not ready, there not much you can do about it, but like I said, it might make you feel better to know what his reasons are and to possibly know when indeed he will be ready in the future.
If you both love eachother, that's all that matters. If he's not ready to commit, make sure he's ready to at least be loyal to you, and it sounds like that's whats already happening. Hang in there, girl!
2006-10-16 00:09:51 · answer #4 · answered by lavender 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As I see it, you are syre but you have not as yet, heard the majical words, "Marry me" What got to me is your last remark, It reminded me of myself. I said that twice before I married another man, Since than, I have seen the 2 several times at social gatherings and believe me am I glad they didn't propose. The problem is that he does NOT think you are the only one for him. I really hope you get him, so either wait or you propose and know that he will either say yes or you will drive him away, BUT at least you will not be stuck in limbo. Good Luck
2006-10-16 00:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by devora k 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't say how long you have been in the relationship. But the world is filled with men who can not bring themselves to commit. That being said, I hope you have a back up plan. The years go by a lot quicker than you would believe.
Good luck with him.
2006-10-16 00:13:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he wont? Sit down and talk to him about it.
2006-10-16 04:11:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time, don't push him because you may push him away forever!
2006-10-16 03:03:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either ask him or, if you love him enough, wait.
2006-10-16 00:15:13 · answer #9 · answered by travis_a_duncan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
did you ever discuss if this is serious relationship,we need more information
2006-10-16 02:03:20 · answer #10 · answered by kitty 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋