I have never really dated anybody else except my boyfriend of three years, I wonder if I am missing out?

Question

I have been with only one person ever. I really love him and do want to be with, but it doesn't keep me from having doubts and wonder if I am missing out on something. I am still young and my friends think I'm too young to be thinking of marriage especially since I have not been with anyone else.

After reading everyone's answer. I decided it's more of a sex thing than anything. I mean our communication is great. I expressed this concern I have and feel like he can not relate because he has slept with other women. It's more of an experience thing for me. Just the thought of only sleeping with one person, I don't know.

Answer 1

My friend was in the same situation....she ended up marrying the guy and 17 years later, left him, became a huge slu* and probably now has AIDS because she sleeps with so many guys. If you do decide to stray, protect yourself!

Answer 2

Its a no lose situation. Are you missing out, yeah probably. Is this guy the perfect guy for you? only you can answer that.
The question you need to be asking yourself is what are you missing out on?
getting drunk
going to parties
meeting new people
hooking up
Most of the time, at least in a good relationship, you can still do all of these things (minus the hooking up) with your current boyfriend and he doesn't need to go with you everytime you go out. Go out with your friends, have a good time, see if there are other people out there without taking it the next level. This way, you can see if you are missing out and not damage the relationship. Yeah, you could cheat, if thats what you are curious about... experiencing being with other people, but I can tell you from experience... There is no real benefit. If your wondering what its like, if its so much better, if it will change the way you feel about your boyfriend, it won't, trust me. Don't feel pressured, its not the end of the world. You don't have to get married tomorrow. See where this relationship goes. Give it some time. See where it goes. Meanwhile, do what i said. Go out with your friends, have a good time. If somebody better or somebody you were meant to be with comes along, then you wouldn't have risked it all just to experience life.

Answer 3

Ask yourself these questions? Everyone's answers are different.
How do you define love? Is the relationship you are in a comfort zone, or are you truly bonded together with trust, respect, communication, and loyalty? Is what you believe you are missing out on going to fulfill you doubt, or are you watching what others are doing? Are there voids in yourself, things you want to learn (experience), that he does not care about, or is his commitment to make you the best person you can be the same as yours to him, as well as learning to be the best you both can be for each other? With any choice you make, do you have a clear conscience, or is it just not time to make such a huge decision? When you are alone with him, do you acknowledge that at that time, he is the closest person, physically, and spiritually, to you, and if so are you wanting this for the long haul? Is there anything truly wrong with being with only one person, if you truly love him, despite the influence of this world, or are you thinking that having with someone else, what you don't have with him (longevity), will be easier on you?

Marriage for any other reason than love, will destroy the marriage, including self doubt, and not looking to him what you want out of life!

Answer 4

If you are wondering now, you will continue to wonder later.

The doubts will only get stronger later in life. Now is the time to get it out of your system. Try out a few other guys. Even if it's just sex and ends up meaning little to you at least you'll know you haven't been missing too much.

More likely, you'll have a few good memories to smile about later in your life. It sounds like you need a little fun.

Maybe you'll find someone you like more. You probably will.

Also, considering that he has slept with other women, things may always seem a little out of balance to you in your relationship. If he actually cares about your needs, he should understand that you need a few different sexual experiences as well. You do need to have sexual relationships with at least a few other guys before you decide on marriage. Go for it.

Also, you're not married, you're dating. A dating relationship isn't the same as marriage. It doesn't mean you only go to bed with only one guy. Until you've said your wedding vows (or at least become engaged) it isn't cheating to go out on a date or have sex with another guy. You don't even have to tell him.

You don't need to break up with your regular boyfriend. But your 3 years of monagamy would probably have been better spent going out with and having sex with a number of guys. It sounds like you already know that you need more experiences. It's normal and healthy that you want to feel what it's like to do it with other guys. You should.

Answer 5

You are not missing out. I have been with my boyfriend who is now my husband since I was 19, I am 36 now. I used to wonder the same until we broke up after 3 years together.

We spent a few months apart and I met someone on the rebound. The whole time I wanted to be with him, it hurt me so much when we were apart.

My lesson after this was that I realized the one person I truly was meant to be with was him, I would never look or think about being with someone else ever~!

I am glad I had this experience though because I would not know what i know now. THE GRASS IS NOT GREENER ON THE OTHER SIDE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hope this helps,

Jackstar.

Answer 6

I have been here for three years.. During the height of my addiction I was spending so much time on here and I made some very good life long friends.. We basically started off on here then Yahoo! 360 and then we just spoke on messenger and became friends quite easily.. Yeah we probably don't know them because it's over the internet.. But I trust Asuwish, Nessa and all those other kids who used to be here.. They're just my friends and that's how it is.. Online or not.. I appreciate them all. It's all just for fun and tiny advice about every day life. It's nice to have such circle online and offline.

Answer 7

Its better to get ask that question now, rather than later when you are married for 15 years with four kids and then leave them all for some smooth talking piece of work! Where I come from, this is happening more and more and the kids are the ones who suffer. If you feel that you are missing out on something, get it out of your system now and don't get married until you are 35 or older.
Early to mid 30's is the age when alot of women feel that life is passing them by and want to throw everything away for their own selfish desires. You can guess, that I am a single parent with four great kids whose mother abanden them! She is finding out that the grass on the other side of the fence isn't any greener and is just as hard to mow!

Answer 8

Thats a toughy. Me and my girlfriend have been dating on and off for 2 years. We are currently "on" and we plan on staying together this time... lol . We have been with other people. I don't know how she feels about seeing other people, but I know she loves me even more now that it's all over. But I personally think it could have been avoided (seeing other people). The only reason I liked seeing other people is because I liked having sex with them, and that isnt reason enough. If you really love him, and you can honestly see yourself with him forever then screw what everyone else thinks. Do what your heart tells you to do.

Answer 9

My husband and I have been together since high school (12 years). We had a period of about 6 months where we both saw other people early in the relationship, but we ended up back together. We've been married for 3 years and have a beautiful daughter.

Answer 10

if you are in love and you really like this person then no you are not missing much maybe some sex but you know women dont care about that anyway