whens a good age?

Question

my mom said i could have a b/f but i could'nt go out on a date
im 12 years old,i like this guys that i want 2 ask out,do u think thats a good age,if not wut is?

Answer 1

Unless you are looking to date a man who is 3-4 years older than you then you are not going to find a man mature enough to date, especially a 12 year old.

I think 15 is a good age to start considering dating. It depends on how mature you are, how much your parents can trust you, how mature your prospective boyfriend is, and how much your parents can trust him. Women rarely rape men, but men do. Often it is called date rape, and justly so. I am not saying that the teenage males around you are looking just to get you alone so they can rape you, but if you give a positive signal (or what they think is a positive signal) then they can get pretty aggressive. Especially those boys that most women are attracted to: the dangerous ones.

Puberty is a tough time for boys, their body is changing and they are starting to mature, some at different rates. One of the first things that these boys do is to start to compete. The instinct is to be able to fight for a mate, but most boys don't realize that so they fight to fight. This makes them unstable, and then their body sends in all those strange new hormones; on top of this flood the boy finally discovers that those people with the knobby bits on their chest, the hourglass figures, and the long hair on top, are not just friends. They become much more interested and are really not quite sure why or what to do if they get a girl. By this time the girls have a much better idea of what is going on with themselves and their bodies.

Men are geared to reproduce quickly and as frequently as often, it isn't because we are pigs, it’s in our genes. And it is what makes the average teenage male thinks about sex 52% of the time (from an episode of 20/20 on ABC aired on Sept. 30, 2006). For more information on the differences between men and women and how it affects their thinking see my answer for this question: http://answers.yahoo.com/question/index;_ylt=AhrMq_Z_9YPW918ag8jmEyHsy6IX?qid=20060908130830AAz4Xnu (answer #8)

Before you step into this pool of sharks then you had better be ready and more mature. You are going to have to be the grownup in your relationship with a teenager. Frankly, you are not that mature yet. Your parents know you a lot better than I do and your mother knows best. All your father knows is what he felt as a kid and if it were up to him you wouldn't start dating until you were 21. So you are going to have to talk with your mother about this. If she agrees, then she will be able to convince your dad to go along. He won't like it, but he will grudgingly agree.

Talk with your mother, and talk with your girlfriend’s mothers. Ask them what they think is best and they will give you a better answer than I can. I think that soon you will be mature enough to start dating, but the boys won’t. You are going to have to wait for them to mature a little more. Your girlfriend’s mother can be more objective, and your mother will have an excellent idea of when the time is right and how close you are to it. You need to go to them to answer this question. Be patient; let the boy’s catch up a little more, and good luck when you do start dating. But, you will have to remember this to a boy his first kiss is not a magical event, and sex isn’t that magical either, most boys just see it as a goal. If you want that, and most girls do then it is going to be up to you to set the conditions, find that right boy, and signal him when it is right. Ask your father how he felt during his first kiss, and then ask your mother. Do it in private, and don’t just listen to their answers (if they will give one), look at their response to your question. This will give you a little more understanding of what I am talking about. You should also share these answers with your mother, not with your father. If you can’t do that then share them with a girlfriend and her mother. This will be a great way to open the discussion, “When will I be ready to start dating?”

Another thorny problem is when you should start using contraception. Frankly your body is ready for sex right now, in two years your body will be ready to bear you children. You however, and any boy you date, will NOT be ready for sex so soon, nor ready for a family. You need a lot more maturity before you reach that point. Once you start to have sex, whenever that is, you need to take measures to not have a child before you are ready for it. Too many young women have their lives DESTROYED by having a child to early. Almost always the boy won’t be of any help, so that means you have to be the adult, and you will miss out on a lot of good things about being a teenager and a young adult. This is the one reason why I support abortion. Now we are getting into some very adult decisions here, but they all start when you start to date, and I assure you that the boy won’t be mature enough to think about it himself. Before you have sex, if your faith allows it, you need to start thinking about contraception. If you don’t then one simple mistake can destroy your life, and your happiness. Personally, I wouldn’t have sex without using a condom, especially since sex with an infected partner can be a death sentence. Boys aren’t going to think about this, and the final result of dating is going to be sex, at some point, with some boy. Plan ahead for all of this. If you carry a condom around then most people will think you are looking to get into trouble, so the best form of birth control for you is the pill. I know that I wouldn’t let my daughter start to date unless she was on the pill; because her child could not only destroy her life, but it would also cause serious harm to my life, and my wife’s life.

Once you can face all of this, once you can talk with your mother about all of this, once you know how to not make a mistake that will destroy your life then and only then can you start to date. Your mother may disagree with some of what I have said, but they will both agree to my last statement.

Answer 2

15

Answer 3

21

Answer 4

A good age to start seriously dating is probably about 15 years old. 12 years of age is a great age to have lots of male friends but to date is pushing it a bit I think so would have to agree with your mom. Sorry kiddo, realize that's probably not the answer that your looking for.

Answer 5

I was 16

Answer 6

I started going out on group dates when I was 14, a bunch of girls and guys going to the movies or out for pizza. I didn't start dating solo until I was 16. Even then I had a strict curfew and my mom had to know where I was going and who else would be there.

Answer 7

i think 12 is a good age for girls to start to get to know boys, and having a boyfriend is ok. i would say dates are fine too so long as there is some sort of supervision. kids need to know at a young age how to properly be around the opposite sex.

Answer 8

I think it depends on your maturity. But it's difficult to have a boyfriend at that age, in any case. I had a relationship at 14 and it was disasterous. Our parents were in the middle of everything, because at that age they have to be. It got a little frustrating figuring out whose parents were going to give us a ride. A good rule would be that at least one of you should be able to come pick the other up. (preferably in a car, you don't want to ride on his handlebars everywhere.)

Answer 9

about 16 is a better age to date

you're not gonna have a serious relationship at 12-14...

Answer 10

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Answer 11

Okay, I know what you mean, I am twelve to and. Yes we are to young top go out on dates unsupervised, but if your mom and dad or an adult goes with you it should be fine but this boy, talk to him tell him that u wish you could go out with him, but you're mom says no, if he says sneak out don't listen, and tell him that if he llikes you and wants to go out with you to then wait until u can but for now just be boyfriend and girlfriend and then wait and see if it lasts, if it does then he is defintatly worht the wait.