I know what she looks like, I know her email and Blackplanet page, and her phone number. Should I confront her(since she supposedly knew about me) with email or a phone call or just leave it alone?
2006-10-15 16:46:09 · 36 answers · asked by mslilbit24 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Leave it alone. Be a better woman than she could ever dream of. Your bf (or hopefully your ex) is the one who really betrayed you, leave this girl to wallow in her own piglike filth. If she knew about you, she obviously has no self respect to begin with... Move on the best that you can!
2006-10-15 16:51:09 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
LISTEN TO ME! You don't ever, ever, ever want to acknowledge the other woman. The moment you acknowledge her - you give her power. She knows you exist already and probably thinks you're going to contact her. So, she's ready! Don't think calling her and threatening her or even trying to reason her will change her actions! She doesn't know you and may have been told by your boyfriend that your crazy. As a result of the confrontation, she'll l continue to mess with your boyfriend (if he continues to creep) because she knows it drives you insane with rage. The other woman always lives for that. She's hoping that you'll get so crazy that your boyfriend will break up with you because he see's you acting like a fool.
Confronting the other woman will not stop your man from cheaing on you. Trust me - I know! When you confront the other woman it becomes a competition. And the other woman has nothing to loose. You've got the girlfriend title - she doesn't. She's the underdog and won't loose anything. So, she'll put her game face on and charge after your man even harder. Ignoring her - you take away all her thunder. You can't fight someone that won't acknowledge your existence.
2006-10-15 17:02:53 · answer #2 · answered by Because 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What good could possibly come of contacting her? I mean do you really think she will say "look I am really sorry it was wrong yada yada yada"? She'll tell you to go screw yourself and you'll be even madder than you are now. The best way to deal with situations like this is to forget these two people ever existed. Change your email address, your phone number and anything else they have to contact you by and move on with your life. Be happy knowing he'll prolly do it to her too.
2006-10-15 16:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by Just your average guy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave it alone, definitely. Don't stoop to her dirty little level, no matter how tempted you are. Your boyfriend will realize that you don't care enough about him to do something bad to the girl he cheated with, which will make him feel even more pathetic. Just move on and date someone else who doesn't cheat and prove to him how much of a loser he is, especially when that girl dumps him and he's got no one. If she's a nasty wench and you leave it alone, she'll always be the lesser person.
2006-10-15 16:49:26 · answer #4 · answered by Dumblydore 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
First off- it's not her fault your boyfriend cheated. Even if she knew about you- it's not her responsibility to keep your boyfriend from cheating- shoot- it's not even your responsibility. You can be angry that she would do that to another woman OR you can be glad that she showed you what a piece of crap you are with. Either way- leave her alone since it was the guy who hurt you in the end- not her!
2006-10-15 16:50:13 · answer #5 · answered by Tammy 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No do not confront her your issue is with the man not the woman. If he felt that you not that important to go outside the relationship than he is probably not the right one for you. If he was open about the situation than it might be reconcilable. So what if you know about her. Haven't you heard that song'' He's Mine you may have had him once but I got him all the time.'' Well its true.
2006-10-15 16:56:40 · answer #6 · answered by Still_21_nheart 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I tell you what, I have been cheated on by every man I have been with with the exception of three...anyways, In my case, its not always the womans fault, it takes two to tango.....if you are positive she knew about you then its your right to be upset with her, but if she honestly didnt know, then its your man that you should be mad at. Keep in mind, what is harassing her going to do? she got what she wanted, your man. So what you need to do is dump that dog, and move on with ur beautiful self and get a man that deserves to be with you and feels lucky and honored to be with u. Dont settle for less, then your only cheating yourself. Good luck.
2006-10-15 16:51:52 · answer #7 · answered by no one important 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Leave her alone. It will only make matters worse.
Question for you. If he has cheated on you, how much does he really love you? Can you trust him again?
It sounds painful but maybe you should just dump him. Move on to a better guy who really loves and cares about you.
2006-10-15 16:51:34 · answer #8 · answered by pj_gal 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would leave her alone unless you are back with him and she persists on getting a hold of him. And hopefully you have already left the guy so why bother. anyway if he cheated on you once chances are he will do it again. And you may never trust him. good luck.
2006-10-15 16:50:30 · answer #9 · answered by Bonnie K 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should be dumping your boyfriend and leaving that chick alone. While she may have known about you, she had no obligation to you. Your boyfriend did. He had an obligation to be faithful to you. So dump him, tell her she can have him (he'll cheat on her too) and find someone who can handle a real relationship.
2006-10-15 16:51:22 · answer #10 · answered by Wannabeadoc06 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋