How do I help a friend see her error without making her mad?

Question

She getting into things that she is not prepared and that are not good for her for, like sex and drugs, she is only a freshman in high school.

I have prayed for her a lot, but I feel like God wants me to say something supportive of good choices, not her unwise ones...what do I do?

Answer 1

You can only advise her to the best of your ability and then standby her in case she falls.

Just as when we were children, no matter what mama and papa told us about fire burning us, we just would not listen because, as people we mostly only trust our instincts and judgements when we are young, of course after getting burnt, thats when the lesson is learnt.

Look out for her, advise her but don't push her, push her too hard and she will do exactly what you told her not to. During my highschool years...I know I did.... i got a really ugly tattoo which I now regret like mad but at that time it seemed SO COOL! It was also fueled by the fact that it ticked off my grandma .... lol... wicked I know but.... young minds, young hearts, lesson learnt, tattooed reminder.

Good luck with your friend... she is lucky to have a friend like you who cares from the heart

Answer 2

Buy them a Bible and autograph it from you and say because you love them that much...also would highlight some verses you want to point out to that person...or wite it all on a note or card that you could give with the Bible...But sometimes no matter how desperately we want we can't help...ultimately the choice is theirs...Just show them love and support and do not stop praying God will answer in His time not ours...and sometimes people have to go on the wrong path before they can understand and focus on the right one...in other words they have to lose themselves before they can find whats missing.....but we are still required to love them

Answer 3

you should always be loving and supportive of the good things, but I admire you for being a true friend and not fearing to take a stand and show the ones you love the error of their ways. I recomend pointing out to her the potential damage that could happen to her physicaly, mentally, and emotionally for her actions. also you might want to share some scripture with her, showing her she too is a creation of God.you might consider showing her better things to do with her time that the drugs and sex. she will watch you for your example also, so stand strong in the word of the Lord. I too will pray for you and your friend. good luck and God bless

Answer 4

Good for you for caring. You can try to sit her down and talk to her about these things but chances are she might not listen. Just tell her that these are some things for her to think about, pregnancy, drug overdose, and how would she feel if she got pregnant and had been using drugs. How it would make her parents feel, and how she would feel having to tell them. What will she have to look forward to if she has a baby at 14 or 15. Good luck and again, bless you for being a caring friend.

Answer 5

geez...thats a hard one...well # 1 is make her babysit an infant or a toddler, get the experience of kids..might think twice about sex...the drugs issue is hard...maybe you can take to a rehad clinic that welcomes people like you who are trying to make an example...or just drive thru the ghetto n show her some crackheads...n when she says"im not gonna be like that" ask her if she thinks that all of those people CHOSE to be like that....that its something that creeps up on you and then you lose control...im sorry i dont have better advice... your situation is very tough...as for her getting mad, dont worry about that, she should if not now, then soon, realize that you have made a comment out of love, not meanness....maybe you could call a clinic or counselor for some better advice ...good luck=)

Answer 6

Try to make her see the seriousness of the act.

Contrary to popular opinion, not all youths are in a hurry to give up their virginity. Consider, for example, a young single woman named Esther. She was getting a medical checkup when her doctor matter-of-factly inquired: “What method of contraception are you using?” When Esther replied, “I’m not using any,” her doctor exclaimed: “What! Do you want to get pregnant? How do you expect not to get pregnant if you’re not using anything?” Esther replied: “Because I’m not having sex!”

Her doctor stared at her in disbelief. “This is unbelievable,” he said. “Kids come in here 13 years old, and they are no longer virgins. You are a remarkable person.”

What made Esther “remarkable”? She obeyed the Bible’s admonition: “Now the body is not for fornication [including premarital sex] . . . Flee from fornication.” (1 Corinthians 6:13, 18) Yes, she recognized premarital sex as a serious sin against God! “This is what God wills,” states 1 Thessalonians 4:3, “that you abstain from fornication.” Why, though, does the Bible forbid premarital sex?

Even in Bible times, some engaged in premarital sex. An immoral woman might invite a young man to indulge, saying: “Do come, let us drink our fill of love until the morning; do let us enjoy each other with love expressions.” (Proverbs 7:18) The Bible, however, warned that pleasures enjoyed today can cause pain tomorrow. “For as a honeycomb the lips of a strange woman keep dripping, and her palate is smoother than oil,” observed Solomon. “But,” he continued, “the aftereffect from her is as bitter as wormwood; it is as sharp as a two-edged sword.”—Proverbs 5:3, 4.

One possible aftereffect is the contracting of a sexually transmitted disease. Imagine the heartache if years later one learned that a sexual experience has caused irreversible damage, perhaps infertility or a serious health problem! As Proverbs 5:11 warns: “You have to groan in your future when your flesh and your organism come to an end.” Premarital sex also leads to illegitimacy abortion, and premature marriage—each with its painful consequences. Yes, one engaging in premarital sex truly ‘sins against his or her own body.’—1 Corinthians 6:18.

Answer 7

I am sorry to hear this about your friend. You can attempt to reason with her about diseases and the problems that come about from using drugs, but mainly the thing to do it to pray for her and be a good example to her. May God Bless You and Your Friend!

Answer 8

If she is your friend, then you should be able to have a heart-to-heart talk with her about your fears for her. Tell her that you love her too much to see her destroying her life. She probably will still get mad, but if you care for her welfare and are not simply judging her religiously, she might come around. Be a good friend and be there for her. She might need you down the road.

Answer 9

She hasn't listened to good advice so far, but as a friend you may have some influence. Be gentle with her and do not judge. Just ask her to reconsider some of her actions. Other than that... love her and pray for her.

Answer 10

Fist of all, praying will do absolutely nothing. Either tell her to chill out, disctract her by entertaining her in other ways, or find a new friend.

Or maybe tell her folks to keep an eye on her.