whats the best way to relax??

Question

im shaking.
there is just so much pressure
grades, school, family, friends
how can i just breifly get away from everything
something i can just do at home
how do you clear your mind?
theres everything running through mine
im just so worried about everything
and pannicky-its so hard for me to handle
same during tests. what can i do w/o getting in trouble
i just get so tense and i panic and blank out.

Answer 1

The exhaustion that occurs after lap swimming is really good relaxation. Yoga and formal meditation sessions are good.

Get some comedy DVD footage --old Jack Benny TV shows? Clever comedy is very good at banishing tension.

Also, like a patient detective, find out who TAUGHT you to PANIC, because your high-strung reaction to deadlines and pressure is a classic situation that probably respresents learned behavior. This is probably the same person who taught you to freak out when bugs and spiders appear...

Answer 2

Poor Baby - sounds tough. When things build up on me, I tell myself to breath - deep breath in and let it out - do this a few times. Another trick is to take a glass of juice or wter and sit outside for a few minutes to get a different perspective. When I'm at work, I keep my radio tuned softly to a local station I like and also play CDs that are soothing - new age, instrumentals, etc. Sometimes I close my eyes and visit a place where I felt quiet and comfortable - sitting on the beach, walking in the forest.
Something else that can help is a warm bubble bath. If all else fails - try a very physical agressive excercise like kick-boxing, pounding a pillow, etc. If you have a pet, take a few moments to hold and pet that animal (unless it's a gold fish...)

Answer 3

Ok first take some healing deep breaths,inhale,hold it for four beats, hold it in for another for beats, exhale for four beats. Do that about 10 times, especially during tests but when you're overly stressed. Breathe from your diaphram, deep in your stomach. It does work.

Next to relax I do a few things. A night soothing warm bath with lavender or rosemary oil, calms you right down.

Wrap yourself in something soft and warm, reminscent of how your mum wrapped you up after she gave you a bath when you were young.

Drink some decafeinated tea or herbal tea after you bath.

Put on some soft music, new age stuff is good or classical, I like John Denver's music myself and just let your thoughts wander in your head, if one starts bothering you brush it away like you're using a duster. Then concentrate on a place you love and keep that image in your head. Relax all the muscles in your body slowly. Keep the image of that place you love in your head and close your eyes. You can say a mantra like peace or ahm or ohm if that relaxes you. Do this for about twenty minutes, although you might have to work up to it.

When you go to sleep at night, no distractions like laptops, books , tv, maybe just a soft radio playing soothing music and empty your head and do the breathing exercises. It takes discipline but it can be done. You feel much better for doing this.

Just remember that there are some things you can change, but most things you can't.

Answer 4

I assume by your question that you are an adolescent girl. I work at a psych center on the adolescent and childrens unit. Predominately our clients are girls who are suicidal or have eating disorders due to the exact things that you have listed above. Good for you to ask for help before this gets out of hand for you. Suggestions that we give our girls (and guys) include

Take a bubble bath with a nice hot cup of tea and soft music in a dimly lit bathroom (scented candles are nice if your parents will let you use them)

Go to your room and hang a "I need a time out" or "World break" sign on your door, turn off your phone if you have one, turn off the tv, look at a book with funny or beautiful pictures (these calm your stress levels without you having to really concentrate) If you need to block outside sounds play soft music or nature sounds.

Other ways to calm yourself is to take 3 deep breaths and blow out softly through your mouth, telling yourself that you can do this, or this isn't as bad as I am thinking.
Or, close your eyes and picture someplace nice like a forest or a beach or a field of wildflowers.
Another good thing is the "shield" technique, imagine yourself surrounded by a bubble of blue or white light that is a shield that protects you from the pressure and stress of life. Focus on that bubble and send intrusive thoughts outside of it. Eventually you should calm and be able to cope.

If troubling thoughts intrude on a constant basis, speak to your doctor or your parents, you may have an anxiety disorder and may need some sort of medication to help. The panic that you describe does suggest to me that you may have an anxiety disorder of some sort so if the relaxation suggestions you get don't work you may want to consider medications.

Being an adolescent in this day and age is harder than it has ever been before, you are bombarded with more information, sound, feelings and pressure than any generation before and have the typical adolescent issues to face as well such as new feelings, hormones and decisions. It might also help to find an adult that you can talk to that is well informed and that you can trust. Don't just pick anybody, pick someone that you know has your best interests at heart and has answers that fit in your value system (or your parents value system if you havent developed one yourself) Don't go to uncle Jimbo the druggie! Good luck dear!

Answer 5

You are not alone here. For me---I am kinda a crybaby--- I will cry everything out of my heart when I am alone. Stopping crying, I'd have a trouble-free heart, forgetting everything that have troubled me. But I don't recommend this childish way to relax. Now I begin to talk to someone about what I am going through. Maybe they have the same feeling as you do. If you know you are not alone, you do feel better.

Answer 6

It is not normal to be this anxious. See your dr about some antianxiaty meds. Also I like to go on a mind trip to relax. Get someplace quiet and comfortable if possible. Close your eyes and breathe deeply a few times. Try to relax your whole body as you think about someplace you would like to be (my favorite place to go is the beach) See yourself calmly walking. Put in as much detail as you can--what you see,what you feel, even what you smell. Keep adding details until you are totally relaxed. I think this is called imagary. It works very well for me. Try it.

Answer 7

well i would take a hot bath in the dark with candles and maybe some music you like .... go for a walk by yourself or just got somewere that you like beaing and sit there and just let lose thats what i do anyways i sit at the top of a hill and at the bottem is a river and a forest its very peacfull so find somewere like that just let your faimly or who ever you live with know were you are going and be safe

Answer 8

It can help to play cards. Got someone in the house who can play a few hands of Rummy or something?
A board game or puzzle can also help take your mind off things.

Answer 9

You can do yoga,exercises,tai-chi,drink some tea,read a book,think positive,take deep breathes,take a bath the list go's on are you can always take some paxil o.o

Answer 10

Sit in a hot tub, lay back, close your eyes....and relax.