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my boyfriend gets mad at me and gives me the silent treatment, i cant figure out what to say or do to fix the situation, i get so frustrated. help me!

2006-10-15 16:33:57 · 16 answers · asked by jess 1 in Education & Reference Preschool

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The silent treatment is really immature. How are you supposed to guess what is wrong? Tell him to get therapy.

2006-10-15 16:36:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

The silent treatment is a form of manipulation acted out to confuse you and cause you to question your actions and to ask yourself what you did to result in so much silent hurt in this man. It is childish and should not be tolerated. You should point out that the silent treatment is not acceptable because it closes down communication and places the entire burden on one person and you will not take part in it. Then say goodnight and perhaps the two of you can talk tomorrow. Then leave and say nothing more. You will have removed that infantile behavior from his repertoire. Then, make sure you don't use it. When he does call you can make light of the conflict by saying, "Thank God, someone to talk to. I can't stand it when we don't talk."
Then he pulls out a ring and the two of you set a date.

2006-10-15 16:46:41 · answer #2 · answered by ALWAYS GOTTA KNOW 5 · 1 0

It depends on how long it lasts. If it's short; then give him his space. If it's long; like a couple of hours or days, then you need to talk to him.

First, tell him you have no problems with giving him a space when things get heated. Let him know you think it's healthy and mature that you both don't let things escalate into loud verbal matches or violence. Going forward, you want a time for 'time out' periods aka space. Let's say 30 min or 2 hours. After the time out period ends you either agree to discuss the issue or table it until the next day when you've both had the opportunity to get away and distance yourself from the issue.

2006-10-15 16:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by Because 3 · 0 0

He is right better to give you the silent treatment then to open his mouth and make things worse. give him a chance to cool down and then ask why he was mad and sit down and discuss the cause. Whether he or you had a right to be mad at each other

2006-10-15 16:38:10 · answer #4 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 0 0

He's trying to control you. It's pretty much the same as yelling at you. Just silently.

He's being a jerk. It's HIM, not you. Just ignore him, then when he's done, tell him how much it bothers you, and make him understand that you are NOT going to stick around if he keeps it up. Then follow through.

You need to take his power he's using with the silent treatment.

Is he perhaps an Aries? They're the masters of this. Aries and Geminis.

2006-10-15 16:37:40 · answer #5 · answered by Amy N 4 · 0 0

Dont let it bother yu if he sees it gets to you he will have that power over yu and use it all the time do the same and give him the silent treatment find something to do and eventually he will come around if he sees its not bothering you then its going to start bothering him and he'll start back talking to you .

2006-10-15 16:46:27 · answer #6 · answered by crazy 2 · 0 0

This is part of his personality. Sometime when he is in a good talkative mood. Discuss this with him. Tell him that you understand he needs quiet time when there is a situation. Ask him to agree that if you let him have his quiet time....that he, when he is ready he has a good talk with you. Afterall a relationship is all about compermise and learning to get along.

2006-10-15 17:02:22 · answer #7 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0 0

Just get on with your life and have fun. When he sees you having fun he might figure out that his behavior is keeping him alone and he does not have control over you or your life. Any way it is my experience that worrying about him all of the time does not really make him easier to be with. It usually makes him continue with the same routine because it gets him what he wants...control.

2006-10-15 16:45:46 · answer #8 · answered by mochi.girl 3 · 0 0

This is his way of controlling the situation. If I were you I would just ignore his behavior and do things as normal. If he isn't going to talk to you- than whatever. That's very immature and you should just ignore the behavior and not let him control the situation.

2006-10-15 16:37:55 · answer #9 · answered by Tammy 3 · 0 0

There are some people that need a cooling off period. If you force and issue you may end up getting hurt. Just step back and give him room. It is better for both of you.

2006-10-15 16:37:51 · answer #10 · answered by llll_bouncer_llll 2 · 0 0

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