Was this rude?

Question

So my boyfriend doesnt like my cooking and i was making him dinner and it was ready so i was like dinners ready and he came to the table and i put the food on his plate and he was like what is this garbage and i was like uh hello? i made it, its not garbage and he told me that he wants some decent food and i screamed at him WELL THATS JUST TOO BAD CAUSE I'M THE ONLY ONE WHO COOKS AROUND HERE. And he was like maybe i should order a pizza then maybe i can have some decent food and i was like go ahead, i'm too sexy for this and then i threw my cellphone on the table. Was that rude? What should i do next time he criticizes my cooking?

Answer 1

Sorry, I would let him go there is too much tension in this relationship someones feelings are going/getting hurt and a possibility of physically hurt too. He was in the wrong to insult you when you toook the time to cook. I would have him cook his own meals. No need for throwing the cell and busting it, although I was thinking of dumping the plate on him at first when I started to read this then thought "no that will cause an explosion." How does sexy come into this picture? You need you're own space girl. If you are that desperate to hold on to him seek counseling. I still think you need you're own space.
Best Wishes.

Answer 2

There seems to be something else going on besides the cooking. Has he expressed displeasure at your cooking in the past, or is this the first time? If he has expressed displeasure in the past, perhaps one solution would be to ask him what he likes, and maybe one day the two of you can prepare a meal together. It would be pleasing, however, for some reciprocity, for example, maybe he could cook dinner for you sometimes. I do not believe that it is the woman's job to cook dinner for the man, but that things like that, as well as household chores, should be equally shared. No disrespect intended towards the other people who have offered answers, but I did not see any tactful ways to approach the situation. If it was me, I would ask exactly what it was about the cooking that was not liked.

I personally enjoy cooking. In fact, I cooked dinner today for my wife because it is her birthday. We take turns cooking and cleaning, and do not assign "jobs". I'm not sure if this is off the mark, but I believe that somehow it ties into the situation and has a great deal of relevance.

I cannot make a connection between you being sexy and your cooking being criticized. Was that a way of saying that you could do better and find someone who would appreciate your cooking much better than your boyfriend? I sense underlying issues. What else is going on? What else is being complained about? There are fundamental differences between men and women, and one of those differences is this simple fact...men cannot read minds or be expected to know exactly what you want or what you expect. If you want to know what a man is thinking, be direct with your questions. You may obtain better results.

Answer 3

Well, personally I think HE was rude in the first place. If he doesn't like your cooking he can make his own.

Any relationship should have a balance of work done, and if someone has problems doing their part the two should be willing to swap jobs to see if they can make a difference in the situation.

Personally, DITCH HIS BUTT, go get some cook books to try new things, and make him make his own food since he doesn't like yours.

Answer 4

Yes, he was rude and you must be crazy to stick around and put up with that kind of nonsense. There should not be a next time to worry about him criticizing you or your cooking !
Also your comment to him "I'm too sexy for this" - what the hell is that all about ?? Are you really that full of yourself or am I misinterpreting something ?

Answer 5

There won't be a next time,he cooks the food or he buys the takeaway.End of story.

Answer 6

The interaction between both of you are obviously on a totally different level than what I am used to. If you are happy screaming at each other and throwing cell phones, why change. (Just do not do it around people that DO NOT live like that.)

Answer 7

I imagine that there are more issues in your relationship than just dinner. That lack of respect speaks loud and clear he has no respect for you. Move on find another boyfriend. Try not to have another live in boyfriend. Try being alone for a while. Don't allow him to stay for the rent money, it is not worth it, if it's his apartment, move out. Good luck!

Answer 8

Was his telling you the food was garbage or you throwing the cell phone rude? Hmmm...ya'll sound like a match made in heaven. I would have thrown the food at him and never looked back long enough to wonder if I were being rude.

Answer 9

I really don't know how you should have acted, but your boyfriend should have gone out to eat, that way he could have gotten some good food and had a real conversation too, like, do you know what I mean?

Answer 10

Sounds like you have issues besides food.

If my girlfriend made the worst crap in the world, I wouldn't talk to her like that. You need to figure out if this guy respects you at ALL regardless of the food issue.