Basically I have been with my boyfriend for six years. Hands down an awesome guy who I truly love. We have lived together for the past year and have tons of mutual friends. Well, he had to move completely across the country kind of on a whim because of a good business opportunity. He has to live there for the next year. It is hard for me to go from having the love of my life here and then now only see him once every couple months. Last week, I went out with my friends (who are also his friends) and ended up kissing his best friend. I have NEVER done anything like this but I am so lonely and of course we were both very drunk. I dont want to tell my boyfriend because it would destroy him.... I know I am wrong but any advice would be appreciated.. =( Thanks..
2006-10-15 16:28:27 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you need to tell him.. eventually he will find out.. you cant hide it forever.. and if he finds later in life.. he might be very angry.. so better tell him sooner rather than later.. also I think you should talk to the guy you kissed and make sure he doesnt have actual feelings for you and that it was all just a drunken mistake. I hope everything works out for you. Remember, honesty is the best policy.
2006-10-15 16:33:09 · answer #1 · answered by an14341991 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should probably start by sitting your boyfriends friend down and having a talk to him about what happened. Maybe you two can agree to keep things quiet and sorta brush it off by saying you were drunk. Then again maybe you could find out why the kiss happened really. Was it him or you and if it was him was it a test of loyality to his friend or does he deep down have a crush? Either way that is where I would start and I believe that I would act fast just because I would either want to know if he could end up telling your boyfriend or will you. Obviously, it would come better if it was from you in the event you have to tell at all.
2006-10-15 23:37:10 · answer #2 · answered by zonenlimbo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what?thats not an excuse at all.
Im 21 years old, my husband is in iraq, hes in the army. He has been gone so far for 4 months, and still has atleast another 7 months left. Im loney i miss him, but i dont hoe around, ever!it never even crosses my mind. I get drunk, i go out with friends and NEVER cross a line because he is in my heart. Using the drunk excuse wont work with him anyhow,its lame.
Obviously you need to tell him because it will eventually come out anyhow and why would you hide something form someone you love so much?I dont get to see my man ayt all til hes home, so save the complaining and act like a woman?
2006-10-15 23:39:13 · answer #3 · answered by cherokee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lonely & drunk? What a bullshit excuse! Your relationship with your boyfriend obviously means nothing to you since you swallowed his best friend's tongue at the first opportunity. Just tattoo the word S L U T across your forehead to give any possible future boyfriends fair warning that you're a bow-legged `ho and move along to the next poor sucker.
2006-10-15 23:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by Mr Smarty Pants 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Tell him what you did. Say you are truly sorry but you are very lonely since he has chosen to move away. Long distance relationships are not real relationships. You have put your lives with each other on hold - and it sounds like either he needs to move back or you need to move to him soon. I would consider both options - or end the relationship.
2006-10-15 23:35:50 · answer #5 · answered by rrmorris45 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'd say to tell him but make sure that he knows that it didn't mean anything and it was only because y'all were drunk...as much as it sucks, its better to be honest, you don't want him to find out some other way and him think that it was more than it really was or that you were cheating on him, tell him yourself to avoid any other issues and so he doesn't get the wrong idea from someone else...also, tell him in person, not over the phone...good luck!!!
2006-10-15 23:37:58 · answer #6 · answered by heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him before he finds out another way. Explain to him that you were kind of drunk and also that you really miss him. It's normal to find someone to fill in his place. Tell him before things get out of hand
2006-10-15 23:33:22 · answer #7 · answered by Kyle A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend before he finds out some other way.
2006-10-15 23:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't make the mistake a gen and hope he doesn't fined out. If he dose he will never trust you a gen.
2006-10-15 23:33:07 · answer #9 · answered by Beast 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU FEEL LIKE YOU CAN TRUST THE GUY NOT TO EVER SAY ANYTHING, AND YOU REALLY LOVE THIS GUY, AND SEE A FUTURE WITH HIM, YOU SHOULD NOT TELL HIM. DONT DO IT AGAIN, AND MOVE ON.
2006-10-15 23:33:05 · answer #10 · answered by leeleebear2529 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋