Well, you guessed it, I'm the 18 year old.
Now ordinarilly I see that the problem here would be a difference of maturity and position in life. As it happens I've been told I'm very mature for my age (my closest friends are in their mid twenties themselves) and I've finished high school (I'm taking a year off). In the guy's case, he actually seems less mature than his years. He works full time and isn't looking to start a family or anything serious like that (he reminds me of a college student more than what one would expect of a 27 year old). Now these traits obviously don't sound too appealing on their own but in my mind they would actually serve to balance out our relationship quite well.
I'm not thinking of anything too serious with this guy, but is the age difference still too much of a taboo to give it a shot, or do our circumstances alter things?
2006-10-15 16:24:48 · 46 answers · asked by keitha_07 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I should add that the guy -has- had relationships with people his own age in the past...he doesn't seek out younger girls specifically, though I can understand the concern some of you mention in your replies considering you may have thought this the case :)
2006-10-15 16:40:20 · update #1
I think its just fine
2006-10-15 16:26:02 · answer #1 · answered by CB 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do what you feel is right. But two things to keep in mind. What happens when you go back to school. And how much do you really have in common with a 27 year old.
Why would a 27 year old want to be with a 18 year old (no offense) but even as mature as you may be, you still have way too much of your life ahead of you. I am seriously wondering why this guy hasn't found someone older.
2006-10-15 16:28:35 · answer #2 · answered by cosmiccastaway 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe to some people, but if you really think that person is the one, you shouldn't care what other people think. Plus studies have shown that less relationships end in divorce if the girl is at least 5 years younger than the guy, but not the other way around. I personally think it has to do with maturity levels. My fiance is 24, and I'm 19 (we are waiting 2 years before actually getting married), and some people even find that messed up, but I hardly even notice any difference because we have the same level of maturity. I say if you love her, and it's legal, the world will survive.
2016-05-22 05:26:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it depends om what you want in the relationship. If it's not too serious, then I see no problem with the age difference. But if you want a future with this guy, I would at least find out what his long term goals are, because you obviously are going to have more opportunities than he is being only 18. But don't let the age difference bother you.
2006-10-15 16:31:18 · answer #4 · answered by Tony H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not that it is taboo, and it is great that you are giving this a ton of thought, my only concern is that a 27 year old is acting like a college boy. You may not be looking for anything serious, but as a woman, you will become attached and quickly. He is in a good postition to hurt you. I think you should look for someone for traits not age. If he is immature he has a great chance of hurting you,
2006-10-15 16:28:15 · answer #5 · answered by Barbara C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, as a 27 year old guy, I have to say that I have misgivings about this working out well, and being healthy. I would look at most 27 year old guys that are going after 18 year old girls as lacking the confidence and moral fortitude to pursue someone thier own age.
2006-10-15 16:30:53 · answer #6 · answered by kpax 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you are tired of hearing the words 'AGE DOESN'T MATTER'. well boys usually mature late. at 27 and still acting like a kid sometimes, it is just normal. well you said it yourself that you don't plan any thing serious with this guy at the moment. so there should be no problem much with his being a little bit immature. give it a try. you never know, he might be the right guy for you.
2006-10-15 16:33:17 · answer #7 · answered by Coolitz 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The age diffrence will stand in the way only because you are already questioning it.You said he seems mature,he works full time and is not looking to start a family or anything serious.That is not imature.
2006-10-15 16:43:02 · answer #8 · answered by darlene100568 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My uncle and his girl have a worse age difference than yours his 34 and shes 20-21. I'll tell you what they told me. Age is just a number, of corse there is that fact of more experience but at least one of you knows whats up, right. Dont worry there are plenty couples out there with big age differences but if you think youll be happy. have fun!
2006-10-15 16:31:16 · answer #9 · answered by misticalmoon12000us 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents are 10 years apart. While an age is usually an indication of many factors, your analysis seems to point that these factors are not as deviate as they seem (maturity etc). Give it a try.
2006-10-15 16:38:32 · answer #10 · answered by leikevy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a good with honorable intentions. Give him a shot. If you suspect anything then back out. My parents, for example, have 9 years in age difference. Age is only a number, that's what I always say.
2006-10-15 16:26:50 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋